Rematch for taking a break

[Anonymous]

I want to take a break from hosting.
I’ve had my au pair for about 2 months.
She’s not fantastic for us but might be a good fit for someone else’s kids.

If you have done rematch this way, how did you break the news to the AP?

Looking for the right words.

[Anonymous]

Don’t know the answer on how to break it to her, other than the truth (you want a break from the program and it’s not about her), but curious - does the agency give you a refund for this reason? It’s my understanding that they don’t

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Don’t know the answer on how to break it to her, other than the truth (you want a break from the program and it’s not about her), but curious - does the agency give you a refund for this reason? It’s my understanding that they don’t

I would get a partial credit. Paid the payment plan so wouldn’t be out as much money.

[Anonymous]

Right. Pawn your AP off on another family so you will feel less guilty.

[Anonymous]

I think if you wanted a break from hosting you should have planned that before getting a new AP. Now you will risk this girl being sent home because you changed your mind. On her side she had moved from home and invested money in joining the program. If she is not great, why not work with her and try to improve?

[Anonymous]

Please give the OP a break! People rematch all the time for all kind of reasons. Some Au pairs also quit the program midway. It is not ideal, but it happens and people move on.
People also post here all the time about not to put on for too long with a mediocre au pair.
If OP’s current AP makes her think about taking a break, maybe she not be a good match OP should rematch anyway!

OP, talk to her, be nice be honest and tell her you will help her find another family.

[Anonymous]

We are in the same boat after 6 years of hosting.
We are just not in it anymore of having a guest live in our home for so long.
We have a “princess” AP who is nice enough and after a reset conversation we are prepared to not rematch with another ap if she does not like the feedback.

I think without a real reason other than “I’m burnt out” agencies are going to be hard to negotiate with.

[Anonymous]

It's harder to justify a rematch if there aren't agregious conflicts with an AP, but a "meh" AP can be aggravating to live with for an entire year. IF you're trying to spare your AP from being hurt or resentful, you could explain your change in childcare plans, and it will probably be more palatable if she knows you aren't looking to replace her with another AP. To the agency, you could explain that it just isn't working out, and you foresee many frustrations, but you didn't want to hurt your APs feelings by telling her the truth.

[Anonymous]

If she were great or even good, you wouldn't feel this way. Rematch and then take your time finding a new one.

[Anonymous]

Omg, some of the comments on here.

OP- you obviously got an AP to make your life easier, and to also welcome someone from another county so her life would be better. Is that what happened? No! So it's time to move on, nicely.

Call your local coordinator and tell her it's not working out. Tell your AP that you are grateful for her time, but it's not working out. She obviously already knows that. Let her know you will support her in a rematch, but also look out for your own family.