Advice please
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Anonymous
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I told our after school nanny I would need her help throughout the new school year. She has been with my family for 5 years and continued throughout my separation.
I then realised that it wouldn't work as I was moving house and she doesn't drive. I still gave her the option of nannying for me but couldn't afford to pay her travel expenses. She said that wouldn't be an option so I texted her today and said I would no longer need her help and was going to use after care instead. She was very upset and said she deserved to be told in person and that it felt like she was being punished for not offering to do the travel unpaid. I don't know how to calm this down. I can't help that she has taken it personally. What should I send back? I did post before in case anyone mentions that. |
Anonymous
| Agree that after 5 years you should of had the decency to tell her in person. You should apologize and give her a reference letter and some sort of parting gift. |
Anonymous
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That's very cold of you.
You have really messed her about. |
Anonymous
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MB here.
She has worked for you for 5 years and you fired her by text? Presumably with no severance? Is that how you would want to be treated OP? I find it pretty awful. - Team Nanny |
Anonymous
| Eh. She'll calm down when you give her the severance. People in the DMV love finding reasons to be upset. |
Anonymous
| What’s with all these threads of divorced parents mistreating the women that have cared for their children for them for many years? Just gross how you all toss them aside with no care. My goodness what are you teaching your children? |
Anonymous
| OP is not for real. She keeps posting the same stuff. |
Anonymous
I certainly hope you’re right because OP sounds heartless with terrible values. OP, of you are not a troll, you don’t fire someone over text, especially a 5 year employee. Advice? Be a better person and give your nanny a proper severance, generally one week’s pay per year worked on top of her two weeks notice. |
Anonymous
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Yes, you did post before.
I do remember that. Was there an easier way to can her than by texting her w/zero notice....??! This post MUST be false. Because no one is ever that mean irl. 
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Anonymous
| I hope to God you are a troll. Otherwise you are just stunningly stupid. |
Anonymous
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Apologize to her. How much notice did you give her? If you aren't giving her any notice, give her a couple weeks pay.
If you want to have good relationships with babysitters or nannies, you have to be open to communication which is always hardest over text. Try having a conversation for anything related to changes in hours, responsibilities, etc. |
Anonymous
| Is the same person making this thread in different ways? |
Anonymous
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I'm going to be the voice of dissent here and say I wouldn't mind getting this info over text. It allows me to react in private and colliect my thoughts before responding. I don't necessarily think that part of this was terrible--especially since they had already had a conversation.
I do hope you either gave her notice, or severance and are doing what you can to part with positive feelings--a nice note/card is always a treasure to have later on. |
Anonymous
| Apologize and give her severance at least 2-4 weeks |