Do you ever just get fed up with your employer?

[Anonymous]

I have a great job and am well paid with great benefits. I love my charge. I usually enjoy my employers but latelyI feel like they are standing on my last nerve. They are basically really good people but definite social climbers. They pretty much turn their backs (figuratively and actually) to anyone who can’t help them make connections. Of course when they talk about things to me they state the opposite. They have no idea how transparent they are.

For some reason, maybe because I see them interact with other people so much more during the holidays, it really is bugging me.

I know what I need to do - just step back and smile. Their actions have nothing to do with me or my job. So this is just a vent.

[Anonymous]

Yes, I think everyone in every line of work feels that way from time to time. I try to focus on the best parts of my job when I start to feel that way.

[Anonymous]

I’m sorry. Several of my past employers tried my patience, sometimes to do with my job, sometimes not.

I was just thinking about how I have the best employers now that I could possibly wish for, too. Maybe you’ll get a holiday wish

[Anonymous]

They are your employers, not your friends, not your family. Be realistic in your relationship/boundaries with them.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:They are your employers, not your friends, not your family. Be realistic in your relationship/boundaries with them.

Very true. But it is difficult when you share in loving a child.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:They are your employers, not your friends, not your family. Be realistic in your relationship/boundaries with them.

Very true. But it is difficult when you share in loving a child.

You are not this child's parent and you're love is different. You are not being realistic with your position in the family and to this child. You are an employee. Yes, you care for the child and probably do a great job, but at the end of the day, they are the parents and you cannot expect them to consider you as an equal, friend or family. Not trying to be harsh, but this is your job.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:They are your employers, not your friends, not your family. Be realistic in your relationship/boundaries with them.

Very true. But it is difficult when you share in loving a child.

You are not this child's parent and you're love is different. You are not being realistic with your position in the family and to this child. You are an employee. Yes, you care for the child and probably do a great job, but at the end of the day, they are the parents and you cannot expect them to consider you as an equal, friend or family. Not trying to be harsh, but this is your job.

Of course I don’t expect or want to be part of their family! I understand that I am an employee! That is not what I am talking about at all.

But there is an undeniable bond when you both love the same child. If you have never felt that, I am sorry for you.

[Anonymous]

And OP’s comment had nothing to do with being equals, friends or family - it had to do with being irritated seeing her employers be phony in social situations.