Nanny getting cabin fever
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Anonymous
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So I’ve been a nanny for more than ten years and I love it! Been with different families, 1 for almost 10 years while having part time jobs around it.
Now with this family I’ve been for 3 years and I really love them, but I came to realize that the mom is very strange about the kids, she’s not treating them well and the major annoying thing is that she keeps them inside the house non stop, unless they go to school for a couple hours in the morning. They don’t go to libraries, parks, they don’t have play dates... We are stuck in the house non stop and I can’t take it anymore. Plus she’s a stay at home mom so when she’s not running errands, she’s home too lol The kids are getting bigger and we are getting bored, we color paint read books do abcs sing dance play pretend I’m hands on 100%. Oh and what’s also crazy I think, we re not allowed to go outside!!! It’s been nice some days with sun shinning and warm, no walks no nothing. Kids love to go outside we And in the summer we play baseball soccer and they get sweaty, she does not like it. Ride bikes go for nature walks play on swings... What do you think about it? Am I overreacting? I started looking for a new job |
Anonymous
| Have talked with her about it, what does she say about wanting the kids inside all day? |
Anonymous
OP here thank you for your reply I think it’s a little bit more difficult, she’s not a very good mom, doesn’t spend any time with the kids, that’s why th u go to preschool and then she hired me to keep them away from her, she yells at them and her husband constantly, she’s very selfish, kids can’t even go to a playground or that little farm that’s around the corner It’s just weird I’m just wondering if more nannies deal with that and what you guys do everyday all day when stuck at home Lol I understand rainy cold days But when it’s sunny and warm.... |
Anonymous
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Did you not know this when you took the job?
Yes its crazy. I would talk to her and ask to go out more, If she says no then you need to leave. |
Anonymous
Trust me lol I tried a hundred times , even suggesting that libraries offer free programs to do crafts and read books When the dads mom came over and took older kid to the library and got a book and a library card, mom was furious lol don’t ask me why idk At first the kids had music and gym classes, but then she stopped with everything lol I know I got to get out |
Anonymous
| Do you pick them up from school? If so, could you pack a lunch and stay out with them for a bit? My employers with think I’m crazy if I asked permission to take the kids out. I think either you need to state your case to her or find a new job. |
Anonymous
| Sounds like she has anxiety. I doubt there is anything you can do to change her. |
Anonymous
| If you would like to stay with this family then I would schedule a meeting with both parents when the kids are napping or otherwise occupied. Talk with them about the children’s schedule, the changes that have occurred, and the changes you would like to see. Ask direct questions about why she doesn’t want them at the library, park, etc. some parents hate the library because it is germ filled. If you cannot move forward after that conversation, then move on. If you don’t particularly care to stay with this family even if things change, then just move on. |
Anonymous
| I would never work for a sahm. The wahm are bad enough. |
Anonymous
| I think I know you. You need to leave that job. The mom is awful. |
Anonymous
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Unfortunately this will drive you eventually cray cray.
The Mother sounds like a nutcase & my heart aches for her poor children who are likely bored + missing out on childhood. Unless you are making a very pretty penny, I would issue them my walking papers. Then pray hard for the next Nanny. Good luck. |
Anonymous
| Tell the dad the real reason you left after you get your next job. It might be the wake up call he needed. |
Anonymous
| It's a dysfunctional family and will affect the kids self esteem. I am wondering if she suffers from a mental illness like anxiety or something else. |
Anonymous
| You’ve been with them three years, and this is only just now bothering you? |
Anonymous
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OP here
PP yea lol the thing is, when I first started they were babies and I had another job, so this was my “extra cash” But then they offered more cash and hours, I quit the other job. But now the kids are getting older, they’re boys, 3 of them, and as you can imagine have lots of energy. And since school started I just realized how we never go out and even the kids are getting bored inside. The mom also gets furious when the kids get sick, like they did when school started. As soon as they’re sick they’re not allowed to run around, go outside, but hey, it was in the 70s and sunny, don’t you think they should go out and get some fresh air? And the kids loved to go outside, but now they’re saying mommy said we don’t have to go outside. It drives me crazy. She doesn’t let me drive the kids anywhere lol I do believe she’s got some mental illness, as she’s abusing the kids and the dad as well, I feel bad for them. But still, as a dad he should step up and be like, have the kids have a great childhood, no playgrounds no play dates what the. Thank you for your responses, makes me feel better that people are on my side. I didn’t know what to do or how to feel about it. Thank you! |