Letting go nanny of 6 years

[Anonymous]

We are about to let our nanny of 6 years go because my husband is going to stay home until our youngest is in kindergarten. We are giving her 10 weeks notice and she will get her usual holiday bonus and gift. I’m happy to give her a recommendation too. Anything else I’m missing in helping to wind this up professionally?

[Anonymous]

Give her your reference letter draft when you tell, in case there's anything she'd like you to add. Also tell her you hope your children can continue to see her for occasional babysitting.

[Anonymous]

Make sure you find a way to keep her in your children’s lives for the near future transition. It really help to give the kids an exact day when they will see Nanny again. It makes it easier on the kids.

She will have prospective employers calling you for a reference. Answer and return those calls quickly - make it a priority.

Good luck.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Give her your reference letter draft when you tell, in case there's anything she'd like you to add. Also tell her you hope your children can continue to see her for occasional babysitting.

Oh yes. She is being screwed but would just love to come back and kiss your arse and babysit.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Give her your reference letter draft when you tell, in case there's anything she'd like you to add. Also tell her you hope your children can continue to see her for occasional babysitting.

Oh yes. She is being screwed but would just love to come back and kiss your arse and babysit.

She's not "getting screwed." She is getting 10 weeks notice plus a bonus. If she finds a job in the interim, she can take it...she'd probably lose the bonus/gift. Her choice, but nanny jobs don't last forever. Six years and 10 weeks notice sounds like a pretty amicable relationship to me. I bet few nannies would give their employers 10 weeks notice. If she doesn't want to babysit, that's her prorogative, but why not if she has a lifelong relationship with the children ans wants to earn a little extra? Some nannies would try to continue to see the kids on just out of affection for them for no pay at all.

[Anonymous]

I would also help her navigate collecting unemployment if she needs the help. Also, it seems that her Christmas bonus and the job ending will be at the same time. I would give her a parting bonus, separate from her Christmas bonus. Can I ask how much longer before your youngest starts kindergarten? If he is starting kindergarten in the fall of 2019, I think it’s crappy of you not to let her finish out her tenure with you. I’m assuming if she has been with you for six years everyone has been happy, I’m sure this will come as a shock to her.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Give her your reference letter draft when you tell, in case there's anything she'd like you to add. Also tell her you hope your children can continue to see her for occasional babysitting.

Oh yes. She is being screwed but would just love to come back and kiss your arse and babysit.

Stop making a fool of yourself! No nanny job is forever. I am a nanny and I regularly see my former charges because I want to.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Give her your reference letter draft when you tell, in case there's anything she'd like you to add. Also tell her you hope your children can continue to see her for occasional babysitting.

Oh yes. She is being screwed but would just love to come back and kiss your arse and babysit.

Stop making a fool of yourself! No nanny job is forever. I am a nanny and I regularly see my former charges because I want to.

It's a snarky parent pretending to be a nasty nanny. Let's ignore her.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Give her your reference letter draft when you tell, in case there's anything she'd like you to add. Also tell her you hope your children can continue to see her for occasional babysitting.

Oh yes. She is being screwed but would just love to come back and kiss your arse and babysit.

Stop making a fool of yourself! No nanny job is forever. I am a nanny and I regularly see my former charges because I want to.

It's a snarky parent pretending to be a nasty nanny. Let's ignore her.

I agree.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I would also help her navigate collecting unemployment if she needs the help. Also, it seems that her Christmas bonus and the job ending will be at the same time. I would give her a parting bonus, separate from her Christmas bonus. Can I ask how much longer before your youngest starts kindergarten? If he is starting kindergarten in the fall of 2019, I think it’s crappy of you not to let her finish out her tenure with you. I’m assuming if she has been with you for six years everyone has been happy, I’m sure this will come as a shock to her.

OP here - youngest is two. We just want to be more involved in their day-to-day and are finally at a point where we can make it work financially.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I would also help her navigate collecting unemployment if she needs the help. Also, it seems that her Christmas bonus and the job ending will be at the same time. I would give her a parting bonus, separate from her Christmas bonus. Can I ask how much longer before your youngest starts kindergarten? If he is starting kindergarten in the fall of 2019, I think it’s crappy of you not to let her finish out her tenure with you. I’m assuming if she has been with you for six years everyone has been happy, I’m sure this will come as a shock to her.

OP here - youngest is two. We just want to be more involved in their day-to-day and are finally at a point where we can make it work financially.

Understandable. Still, let your older child know the nanny will still be around and will be back (name specific time/date ). Even at two, my son was deeply attached to his nanny. Respect that relationship.

[Anonymous]

Despite what some nannies like to pretend, being a nanny is a job and one that everyone knows will come to an end. Like any job, hiring a nanny does not create an obligation to employ that person forever. 10 weeks, a bonus, and assistance in finding another job is waaaay more generous that most any other job out there - I don't understand the attitude that the employer is somehow being unfair or owes multiple bonuses.

OP - it sounds like you're being very fair and considerate.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Give her your reference letter draft when you tell, in case there's anything she'd like you to add. Also tell her you hope your children can continue to see her for occasional babysitting.

Oh yes. She is being screwed but would just love to come back and kiss your arse and babysit.

She's not "getting screwed." She is getting 10 weeks notice plus a bonus. If she finds a job in the interim, she can take it...she'd probably lose the bonus/gift. Her choice, but nanny jobs don't last forever. Six years and 10 weeks notice sounds like a pretty amicable relationship to me. I bet few nannies would give their employers 10 weeks notice. If she doesn't want to babysit, that's her prorogative, but why not if she has a lifelong relationship with the children ans wants to earn a little extra? Some nannies would try to continue to see the kids on just out of affection for them for no pay at all.

Oh, just ignore the trolls. I feel bad for the people in their lives.

[Anonymous]

I think you're being very fair, and more than generous OP.

[lewallace]

Sounds generous to me. Would you mind sharing her contact info? I’m looking for a full time nanny to start later this year.