Any advice for helping AP realize she should go home?

[Anonymous]

Rematch au pair, aged 19. She's clearly miserable. Only been here a few days, but of course no one wants to live with an unhappy person.

[Anonymous]

Why is she unhappy exactly ?

Maybe she needs you to help her settle ?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Why is she unhappy exactly ?

Maybe she needs you to help her settle ?

IMO she overestimated her own interest in childcare. She really does want to do a gap year and live in America, but comes from a rich family. I think she just made a mistake not choosing a “normal” exchange program.

[Anonymous]

Are you her first HF or a rematch family?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Are you her first HF or a rematch family?

2nd family

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Are you her first HF or a rematch family?

2nd family

Are you sure that all hope is lost? She could have gone home after her first rematch, but she decided to stay and she sounded good enough when you interviewed her. How about an honest, warm, and supportive conversation with her to see if she wants to make it work or if this program is not the right fit. I would not make it an accusatory conversation, but more of a helping hand and a mentor who helps her figure out what she wants.

[Anonymous]

I would not wait to let her realize she should go home.

I would tell her she's not cut out for this and send her.

[Anonymous]

Sit down and tell her to "fake it till you make it" if she wants to stay in your home, OR own her unhappiness and move on

[Anonymous]

Thanks for the advice guys. Working with the LCC. Luckily we have a good one.

[Anonymous]

Did you talk to the first host family?

Ours was like this, but not from a rich family. Otherwise, I thought you might have been talking about ours, who went to a new family around this time. Second host family made no effort to speak to me or I would have warned them.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Sit down and tell her to "fake it till you make it" if she wants to stay in your home, OR own her unhappiness and move on

This! She needs to step up or go home. If she doesn't like it, then she needs to learn how to pretend to like it. I say that as someone who had an AP for a year who was miserable but we put up with it. Her year was up a few weeks ago. Looking back, I wish we ended it much earlier.