Asking Nanny for Light Housekeeping

[Anonymous]

Is it reasonable to asks a nanny ( 5+ years experience) to care for a 3-month-old and do light housekeeping? We want her to do everything related to the baby, accept packages/grocery delivery, and meal prep ( cut up veggies for dinner. We will be offering a high wage with very good benefits. Is that too much to ask?

[Anonymous]

Nope, not at all as long as the expectations are set up front and agreed to and you realize it might not all be possible at 3 months if the baby isnt a good napper. The problems arise when you try to pile on more later. My nanny does all this and more while watching my 1yo (and likes to and she is fairly compensated for it, she hates sitting around during nap time)

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Nope, not at all as long as the expectations are set up front and agreed to and you realize it might not all be possible at 3 months if the baby isnt a good napper. The problems arise when you try to pile on more later. My nanny does all this and more while watching my 1yo (and likes to and she is fairly compensated for it, she hates sitting around during nap time)

Op here. I know it will change with age, but he’s a good sleeper. He naps for 5 hours of the day, broken into 4 naps. He is crib trained and puts himself to sleep 90% of the time. He already is on a feeding and napping routine. We want to give the nanny downtime, but 5 hours is an excessive amount to be sitting around. I don’t think it’s too much to ask that she does his laundry 2 times a week, meal peeps 2-3 times a week, and does a quick clean up everyday. She will easily have 3-4 hour to just relax while he naps.

[Anonymous]

I don't think it is too much, OP. A nanny generally does anything and everything related to the baby so the baby's laundry is generally expected. As is washing his bottles and dishes(when he used dishes). I have also done parents meal prep - I cannot cook but have chopped vegetables, made fruit salad, and started a simple slow cooker recipe before. Once my charge got older, I also made all her purees homemade and fresh every day and all of her marketing. I took over ordering for my charge (diapers, shampoo, etc) early on now do all the household ordering and the parents staples. I also handle payment to the twice weekly housekeeper, accept packages and stay available for handyman, cable guy, etc.

As long as you are clear that the engagement and teaching of your baby comes first, I see no problem with doing more.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I don't think it is too much, OP. A nanny generally does anything and everything related to the baby so the baby's laundry is generally expected. As is washing his bottles and dishes(when he used dishes). I have also done parents meal prep - I cannot cook but have chopped vegetables, made fruit salad, and started a simple slow cooker recipe before. Once my charge got older, I also made all her purees homemade and fresh every day and all of her marketing. I took over ordering for my charge (diapers, shampoo, etc) early on now do all the household ordering and the parents staples. I also handle payment to the twice weekly housekeeper, accept packages and stay available for handyman, cable guy, etc.

As long as you are clear that the engagement and teaching of your baby comes first, I see no problem with doing more.

Op here. This is what we want. We do not expect her to cook, but would like meal prep. We will order things ( I’m a little OCD), and handle homemade baby food. Bottles will just be rinsed and put in the dishwasher. We keep a very clean home and do not expect much.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I don't think it is too much, OP. A nanny generally does anything and everything related to the baby so the baby's laundry is generally expected. As is washing his bottles and dishes(when he used dishes). I have also done parents meal prep - I cannot cook but have chopped vegetables, made fruit salad, and started a simple slow cooker recipe before. Once my charge got older, I also made all her purees homemade and fresh every day and all of her marketing. I took over ordering for my charge (diapers, shampoo, etc) early on now do all the household ordering and the parents staples. I also handle payment to the twice weekly housekeeper, accept packages and stay available for handyman, cable guy, etc.

As long as you are clear that the engagement and teaching of your baby comes first, I see no problem with doing more.

Nannies to do not meal prep or put away groceries.

[Anonymous]

i don't mind putting away groceries, doing small errands, vacuuming the living area where the kids play, and tossing kid clothes/bedding/towels in the wash (and folding/putting away after). i would never: strip adult beds and wash their sheets/towels/clothes, mop the floor, clean the bathroom (including child's bathroom, if applicable). it depends what you are asking her to do. i don't mind occasionally unloading the dishwasher, but if you leave a sink of dirty dishes expecting me to do them i'll be annoyed. think about what you'd like her to do-everyone's definition of "light housekeeping" is different.

[Anonymous]

How good isn’t the pay and benefits? Most employers think they are paying a good wage, but it’s low for what they ask.

[Anonymous]

I would lay out specifics at the start. And from our experience ask for daily unloading of the dishwasher. Doesn’t sound like an issue at first but I ran into the situation where our nanny was loading all her dishes she would use during the day for herself, the baby dishes, and bottles daily. I would come home to a full dirty dishwasher and would have to then run it and Empty it , which lead to me having to be running/ emptying multiple extra loads. I felt like I was actually doing her dishes. So we had to ask for her to empty the dishwasher moving forward even if it contained our dinner dishes etc

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:How good isn’t the pay and benefits? Most employers think they are paying a good wage, but it’s low for what they ask.

$15.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I don't think it is too much, OP. A nanny generally does anything and everything related to the baby so the baby's laundry is generally expected. As is washing his bottles and dishes(when he used dishes). I have also done parents meal prep - I cannot cook but have chopped vegetables, made fruit salad, and started a simple slow cooker recipe before. Once my charge got older, I also made all her purees homemade and fresh every day and all of her marketing. I took over ordering for my charge (diapers, shampoo, etc) early on now do all the household ordering and the parents staples. I also handle payment to the twice weekly housekeeper, accept packages and stay available for handyman, cable guy, etc.

As long as you are clear that the engagement and teaching of your baby comes first, I see no problem with doing more.

Nannies to do not meal prep or put away groceries.

I do.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:How good isn’t the pay and benefits? Most employers think they are paying a good wage, but it’s low for what they ask.

$15.

This is not OP.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I don't think it is too much, OP. A nanny generally does anything and everything related to the baby so the baby's laundry is generally expected. As is washing his bottles and dishes(when he used dishes). I have also done parents meal prep - I cannot cook but have chopped vegetables, made fruit salad, and started a simple slow cooker recipe before. Once my charge got older, I also made all her purees homemade and fresh every day and all of her marketing. I took over ordering for my charge (diapers, shampoo, etc) early on now do all the household ordering and the parents staples. I also handle payment to the twice weekly housekeeper, accept packages and stay available for handyman, cable guy, etc.

As long as you are clear that the engagement and teaching of your baby comes first, I see no problem with doing more.

Nannies to do not meal prep or put away groceries.

I do.

You’re a doormat.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I would lay out specifics at the start. And from our experience ask for daily unloading of the dishwasher. Doesn’t sound like an issue at first but I ran into the situation where our nanny was loading all her dishes she would use during the day for herself, the baby dishes, and bottles daily. I would come home to a full dirty dishwasher and would have to then run it and Empty it , which lead to me having to be running/ emptying multiple extra loads. I felt like I was actually doing her dishes. So we had to ask for her to empty the dishwasher moving forward even if it contained our dinner dishes etc

So you won’t do the nanny dishes, but you expect her to do yours? What an entitled employer.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I would lay out specifics at the start. And from our experience ask for daily unloading of the dishwasher. Doesn’t sound like an issue at first but I ran into the situation where our nanny was loading all her dishes she would use during the day for herself, the baby dishes, and bottles daily. I would come home to a full dirty dishwasher and would have to then run it and Empty it , which lead to me having to be running/ emptying multiple extra loads. I felt like I was actually doing her dishes. So we had to ask for her to empty the dishwasher moving forward even if it contained our dinner dishes etc

So you won’t do the nanny dishes, but you expect her to do yours? What an entitled employer.

+1.