I am in such a rut in my personal life!

[Anonymous]

I am a nanny and give everything to my job. I work 11 hour days, five days a week and am simply too tired during the week to get anything in my own life done. So my weekends are full with cleaning, bills, shopping, cooking for the week, etc. My personal life is getting smaller and smaller. I am gaining weight. I just feel like I am in such a rut!

This morning I woke up with the thought that I forgot to order my charge the socks she needs for next Friday. Then I researched new car seats. Then I looked up the perils of my charge drinking too much milk as I have to convince her mother to stop giving her so much milk at night...

...Then I got mad at myself for letting my job take over the only 48 hours I have to myself.

And I have to go visit a former charge today who has been begging to see me.

Just a vent. I am so frustrated with myself!!!! I have to change my life!

Thank you.

[Anonymous]

Whoa!!
That sounds like waaay too much time working
So you work fifty-five hours a week.....??!
That is too much for any one person to handle.
Because childcare is tough w-o-r-k.

I would reduce your hours & ask your NF if they could hire another nanny to do part-time so you will have more time for yourself.
You need & deserve it.

You shouldn’t have to spend your day off hours looking at car seats or socks for your charge.
Weekends are YOURS.

Perhaps you can hire someone like a young college student to assist you w/cleaning on Saturdays.

I agree, you need to get out socially on your weekends off!

[Anonymous]

It is difficult to maintain a personal life when you are a nanny especially during the week. However you need to make your weekends sacrosanct. This is for your sanity as well as protecting your job performance. Turn over a new leaf tomorrow, OP. Don't even check this Nanny forum.

[Anonymous]

Keep research to either nap time or quiet playtime (older charges who no longer nap).

Visit your former charge when it’s convenient for you, not on their schedule.

I agree, no work on weekends. One day to rest and recharge, one day to do chores, errands, etc.