Nanny share favoritism

[Anonymous]

We just started a Nanny share with another family. They are hosting. The Nanny had been working for them for about a month before we started. The Nanny is great, but she seems to play favorites with the hosts’ baby over mine. The Nanny is clearly more excited to see her in the mornings and sad to say goodbye at drop off, and I know she is giving the other baby more attention. How do I address this with the Nanny?

[Anonymous]

Unfortunately no matter what you say to your Nanny, she seems more attached to the other family’s child & this may or may not change.

I personally would not like my child to be second best and would find another share to work w/.

Good luck.

[Anonymous]

Of course she favors the child she had been taking care of for a longer time!

[Anonymous]

There is always one favorite in a nanny share. No matter what the nanny says. It is human nature.

[Anonymous]

I own a home daycare and 4 little kids come everyday.
I usually am attached to all of the kids in a equal way but there are years I am not. And that's OK but I am professional and I have never put a kid aside or showed more enthousiasm towards a kid than another.

OP you should address it with the nanny and get ready to switch care. Good luck !

[Anonymous]

You should show more appreciation to nanny. Have you ever brought her breakfast? How about when she needs ride to metro or bus. Have you ever volunteer to drop her off somewhere?
I worked in a daycare before and usually showed favoritism toward the kids who were easier to manage or those whose mom made small kifts to me. But of course I liked them all the same and brought and cared for all of them the same way.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:You should show more appreciation to nanny. Have you ever brought her breakfast? How about when she needs ride to metro or bus. Have you ever volunteer to drop her off somewhere?
I worked in a daycare before and usually showed favoritism toward the kids who were easier to manage or those whose mom made small kifts to me. But of course I liked them all the same and brought and cared for all of them the same way.

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Wow. So pretty much you can be bought with gifts to favor a child.

[Anonymous]

NO, no presents for a nanny . She has to be mature and professional, treat the kids equal.I have been a nanny in a share for a long time with different families I always see the kids equal, treat them equal, event ought some times their mother is a snob or a jerk . I still love their kids. the kids are different little people. Look for another nanny share and when you find it ,tell her you do not like the way she sees your baby and you know in your heart she doesn't take care of your baby the equal. Tell the family the same things you are paying 50% of her salary. Why she doesn't treat the baby equal?.

[Anonymous]

Parents don't even treat their kids without favoritism so why do you think nannies won:y do thecsame.?

[Anonymous]

Leave. ASAP. I am not kidding. This happened to us and not only was our child not receiving proper attention, but the nanny began treating the other family like they were the only one (she would only ask them for permission to do things and would never let us know when she was running late, etc). It was horrible.

We left, found our own nanny, and our son has been thriving ever since.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:You should show more appreciation to nanny. Have you ever brought her breakfast? How about when she needs ride to metro or bus. Have you ever volunteer to drop her off somewhere?
I worked in a daycare before and usually showed favoritism toward the kids who were easier to manage or those whose mom made small kifts to me. But of course I liked them all the same and brought and cared for all of them the same way.

Wow, are you kidding me! What an entitled, messed up attitude! Nannies are owed respect, honesty, professionalism, and fair pay- absolutely. That’s where all professional relationships end though. You are not owed adoration, gifts, or favors. Get real, Princess!! You should not be in this profession!

[Anonymous]

I would have a chat with nanny maybe its about two children being on different levels. Sometimes when nannies have two babies one mobile and one non mobile they interact with them differently. Or you maybe right and nanny just needs time to bond with your little one either way. Just talk with nanny and maybe bring over books an activity where nanny can interact with both children at the same time. Or offer to host at your place. I wouldn't buy the nanny love or interaction if you feel like you have to do this leave the nanny share.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I would have a chat with nanny maybe its about two children being on different levels. Sometimes when nannies have two babies one mobile and one non mobile they interact with them differently. Or you maybe right and nanny just needs time to bond with your little one either way. Just talk with nanny and maybe bring over books an activity where nanny can interact with both children at the same time. Or offer to host at your place. I wouldn't buy the nanny love or interaction if you feel like you have to do this leave the nanny share.

Presumably solved last fall...

[Anonymous]

Maybe you are rude to nanny. Try being nice.