Please MB and Nannies Answer!

[Anonymous]

Would you take a job with a family that is FB friends ( I am not sure how often they talk) with a family that you had a falling out with? I left a job shortly afer accepting with a nice family but it just wasn't going to work out. The parent were mad, as most families get pissed when their baby leaves. I like this new family but found out they are FB friends with the former family. I don't know how close they are or if they even talk, but I am worried about starting and if they talk, they realize I'm their friends nanny. I realize they can bad mouth me and put my new job in jeopardy.

[Anonymous]

No. Do not take the job. Nanny here and you are asking for trouble.

[Anonymous]

If you are a good nanny, you have lots of other offers - take one of them. Do not take this job.

[Anonymous]

MB here. How long do you usually stay at your jobs? Why didn't the recent family work out? I am FB friends with some people that I know are hard to work for so I wouldn't necessarily judge you for leaving them but if you have a lot of job turnover or the FB friend told me that you were on your cell phone all the time, I might be concerned but would only judge you for how you performed with my child.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:MB here. How long do you usually stay at your jobs? Why didn't the recent family work out? I am FB friends with some people that I know are hard to work for so I wouldn't necessarily judge you for leaving them but if you have a lot of job turnover or the FB friend told me that you were on your cell phone all the time, I might be concerned but would only judge you for how you performed with my child.

Op here. I've worked for 3 families for 2.5, 3, and 2.5 years. I had another position but it was cut short at 7 months when the family moved. I didn't really even start with the family. The weekend before I was suppose to start, I had a personal issue ( my home flooded) that caused me to have to back out of the job. I know I left them in a bad spot backing out that late and they may see an issue with reliability.

[Anonymous]

I'd consider other options.

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Anonymous wrote:MB here. How long do you usually stay at your jobs? Why didn't the recent family work out? I am FB friends with some people that I know are hard to work for so I wouldn't necessarily judge you for leaving them but if you have a lot of job turnover or the FB friend told me that you were on your cell phone all the time, I might be concerned but would only judge you for how you performed with my child.

Op here. I've worked for 3 families for 2.5, 3, and 2.5 years. I had another position but it was cut short at 7 months when the family moved. I didn't really even start with the family. The weekend before I was suppose to start, I had a personal issue ( my home flooded) that caused me to have to back out of the job. I know I left them in a bad spot backing out that late and they may see an issue with reliability.

You backed out of the job completely instead of just taking care of the issue and then going to work?

Yeah - don't take the job with Facebook friends of the parents you screwed over.

[Anonymous]

If you have other options, consider them first.

It could get awkward later on when the other family finds out you are the new family's Nanny.

On the other hand you also may have proven them wrong in that time as well.

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Anonymous wrote:MB here. How long do you usually stay at your jobs? Why didn't the recent family work out? I am FB friends with some people that I know are hard to work for so I wouldn't necessarily judge you for leaving them but if you have a lot of job turnover or the FB friend told me that you were on your cell phone all the time, I might be concerned but would only judge you for how you performed with my child.

Op here. I've worked for 3 families for 2.5, 3, and 2.5 years. I had another position but it was cut short at 7 months when the family moved. I didn't really even start with the family. The weekend before I was suppose to start, I had a personal issue ( my home flooded) that caused me to have to back out of the job. I know I left them in a bad spot backing out that late and they may see an issue with reliability.

You backed out of the job completely instead of just taking care of the issue and then going to work?

Yeah - don't take the job with Facebook friends of the parents you screwed over.

Clearly you have ember had flooding. The damages from the flood took a week to repair. They needed someone to start right away for a transition period. It was the best option. Making them wait for me to start for over a week was not realistic for them.

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Anonymous wrote:MB here. How long do you usually stay at your jobs? Why didn't the recent family work out? I am FB friends with some people that I know are hard to work for so I wouldn't necessarily judge you for leaving them but if you have a lot of job turnover or the FB friend told me that you were on your cell phone all the time, I might be concerned but would only judge you for how you performed with my child.

Op here. I've worked for 3 families for 2.5, 3, and 2.5 years. I had another position but it was cut short at 7 months when the family moved. I didn't really even start with the family. The weekend before I was suppose to start, I had a personal issue ( my home flooded) that caused me to have to back out of the job. I know I left them in a bad spot backing out that late and they may see an issue with reliability.

You backed out of the job completely instead of just taking care of the issue and then going to work?

Yeah - don't take the job with Facebook friends of the parents you screwed over.

Clearly you have ember had flooding. The damages from the flood took a week to repair. They needed someone to start right away for a transition period. It was the best option. Making them wait for me to start for over a week was not realistic for them.

Did you give them the option to wait one week for you? Your initial post made it clear that you didn't.

Bad career move, OP!! Yeah, do not take the job with people who will soon find out from the other family what you did.

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Anonymous wrote:MB here. How long do you usually stay at your jobs? Why didn't the recent family work out? I am FB friends with some people that I know are hard to work for so I wouldn't necessarily judge you for leaving them but if you have a lot of job turnover or the FB friend told me that you were on your cell phone all the time, I might be concerned but would only judge you for how you performed with my child.

Op here. I've worked for 3 families for 2.5, 3, and 2.5 years. I had another position but it was cut short at 7 months when the family moved. I didn't really even start with the family. The weekend before I was suppose to start, I had a personal issue ( my home flooded) that caused me to have to back out of the job. I know I left them in a bad spot backing out that late and they may see an issue with reliability.

You backed out of the job completely instead of just taking care of the issue and then going to work?

Yeah - don't take the job with Facebook friends of the parents you screwed over.

Clearly you have ember had flooding. The damages from the flood took a week to repair. They needed someone to start right away for a transition period. It was the best option. Making them wait for me to start for over a week was not realistic for them.

Did you give them the option to wait one week for you? Your initial post made it clear that you didn't.

Bad career move, OP!! Yeah, do not take the job with people who will soon find out from the other family what you did.

Agree with PP.

Backing out one week prior to start would have been extremely stressful for the family. Even knowing that we could wait a week before start and dealing with a week of uncertainty/taking time off would have been FAR better than a searching for a new nanny to start in one week. Would totally pm my friends and warn them you put us in a terrible position.

[Anonymous]

I have 1000 FB friends, I doubt it'd ever be found out UNLESS we were close and on talking terms.

[Anonymous]

No. Do not buy your meat and potatoes at the same store meaning do not much business and pleasure.

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Anonymous wrote:MB here. How long do you usually stay at your jobs? Why didn't the recent family work out? I am FB friends with some people that I know are hard to work for so I wouldn't necessarily judge you for leaving them but if you have a lot of job turnover or the FB friend told me that you were on your cell phone all the time, I might be concerned but would only judge you for how you performed with my child.

Op here. I've worked for 3 families for 2.5, 3, and 2.5 years. I had another position but it was cut short at 7 months when the family moved. I didn't really even start with the family. The weekend before I was suppose to start, I had a personal issue ( my home flooded) that caused me to have to back out of the job. I know I left them in a bad spot backing out that late and they may see an issue with reliability.

You backed out of the job completely instead of just taking care of the issue and then going to work?

Yeah - don't take the job with Facebook friends of the parents you screwed over.

Clearly you have ember had flooding. The damages from the flood took a week to repair. They needed someone to start right away for a transition period. It was the best option. Making them wait for me to start for over a week was not realistic for them.

Did you give them the option to wait one week for you? Your initial post made it clear that you didn't.

Bad career move, OP!! Yeah, do not take the job with people who will soon find out from the other family what you did.

Agree with PP.

Backing out one week prior to start would have been extremely stressful for the family. Even knowing that we could wait a week before start and dealing with a week of uncertainty/taking time off would have been FAR better than a searching for a new nanny to start in one week. Would totally pm my friends and warn them you put us in a terrible position.

+1 It's hard to know the whole situation, but OP, you do sound unreliable. I understand an emergency situation with flooding, but I would go out of my way to make it known to them that I had an emergency and would need a few days off but could start for them afterwards and would offer the name of a friend or acquaintance who might be able to provide help in the meantime. It's not like you needed to be home every moment 24/7 during a flooding crisis and couldn't take some time to help out after getting things in order. You could have offered to work fewer hours but still shown up, etc. You really put them in a lurch -- what if their jobs didn't allow for just canceling last-minute if they had an emergency?

Go ahead and take on the new job if you've been offered it. The family obviously wants to hire you and hasn't talked with the other family about this. But be prepared to answer questions from the other fam and this one when it comes out.

[Anonymous]

Op here. You guys are assuming too much. I gave Brice and offeeed to work until they found a replacement. MB and DB agreed that it was best to part ways. It wasn't a one sided decision. I wasn't leaving them in a lurch. MB wasn't going back to work for another 2 weeks. I didn't take that job. I am definitely very tori able . The last two positions both last over two years and I had only misse maybe 1-2 days at each job.