Feeling awkward during 'Family time'
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Anonymous
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My MB and DB always start chatting to their DD and looking at what she has been doing and they never excuse me. I find it incredibly awkward and try and make a move to leave but they don't seem to get it. I am not part of their family and am really aware of that. It makes me feel really embarrassed that I am almost intruding on their family time.
Can any nannies relate? |
Anonymous
| I can relate. The worst is when MB starts making dinner and is still talking to me, like hello I want to go home and cook my dinner too. My old NF would always say "ok time to say bye to larla" and close the door behind me etc. |
Anonymous
| In any other professional setting when an employee's shift is over, they take the initiative to leave. Hand over your charge and say "See you tomorrow/Monday" and leave. Have some of you NEVER worked in the real world? |
Anonymous
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PP, it isn't always that easy when your charge is talking to their parents and they are having as I said 'A family moment'. It's hard to get a word in and disturb the interaction.
I have lived in the real world, thank you. |
Anonymous
| Are you still on the clock? Or is this after your shift is over? |
Anonymous
| When the parents arrive back, the shift is over |
Anonymous
Right? Just say "I'm going to head out so you can catch up together. GOod night" |
Anonymous
| I usually give the parents time to get in the door and settle in, tell them anything I think they need to know about the day, and then say see you tomorrow. You just have to move past the awkward family moment and stsrt gathering your things and when they look up say bye.. |
Anonymous
And then the parent comes to bitch on dcum that their nanny leaves when they walk in. |
Anonymous
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I have never waited to "be dismissed" and would be furious if any employer ever said that to me. I leave at my contracted time or shortly thereafter. I tell my charge I am leaving and put on my shoes. My employer and charge always walk me to the door and say thank you.
Honestly, I would not have it any other way. At our contracted quitting time, OP, tell your charge that you are leaving and wish your employer a good night. |
Anonymous
Thank you so much for saying this, pp. I had a nanny who would stay well past her end time. I eventually started doing things like making dinner and helping older kids with homework hoping she would get the hint. Twice she actually stayed and ate dinner with us. I eventually learned that I needed to tell her that she was done for the day and shoo her out the door. I found it so uncomfortable. |
Anonymous
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For God sake, OP - you need to be "dismissed"?!! What is wrong with you? You leave at your contracted time and you leave on your own - no one dismisses you like a school girl.
Stop being such a subservient child. Change this TODAY. |
Anonymous
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I'm still unclear on if OP is staying past her contracted end time, or if the parents are getting home early.
If she's staying late, she should say, "Bye!" and leave. If they're getting home early, she should leave any cleaning up for those last few kid-free minutes, and be available to take a kid if necessary. |
Anonymous
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OP here. I meant when they arrive back home, they become immersed in talking to and interacting with the kids and I am standing there like a spare part and feel I can't get a word in to excuse myself and go.
07.07-Rude, don't post if you are going to be bitchy, you just make yourself look small. |
Anonymous
Just say "Okay, I'm off - have a good night everyone!" and WALK OUT. |