nanny of 1 year basically ghosting us
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Anonymous
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Seeking opinions from other nanny employers about possible actions in the following situation:
- Nanny share of 1 year is dissolving - one family is moving away; we are staying - Nanny contract period is scheduled to end 1 week after the other family moves - After two months of searching, interviews, meetups, etc., we have not found a full-time share family both (a) located within 1-2mi of us and (b) with another walker. (Summer is apparently a very difficult time to organize nanny shares?! We haven't had this problem for the past two summers, but this seasonal difficulty has been mentioned by multiple DC-based friends who also do shares.) - We discussed possible options with Nanny, and agreed to draft a new contract that (1) guaranteed Nanny her same hours and salary, and (2) allowed up to two part-time families to temporarily join us until a full-time share family was found. (Nanny was ok with [and actually suggested] the latter provision.) - On the Sunday night immediately preceding the last week in the contract period - aka the day before we planned to review and sign the new contract - Nanny emailed us a formally worded letter stating that she would not be renewing her contract...no context, no additional information provided. - Early morning, first working day of the last week in the contract period, Nanny texted us saying she would not be in for two days due to a medical emergency with her young child - Nanny has no PTO remaining in contract period. Contract provides for unpaid leave if both families agree (which we certainly would in the case of a child's medical emergency!). However, the moving family has already paid her through the contract period and moved, and it is too late for our bank to stop this week's salary payment. - Nanny has not responded to any of our messages or calls ...which could be totally reasonable in a medical emergency! ...but is worrisome as we try to plan and obtain backup care. Is our nanny of one year really ghosting us? If she doesn't show up for work at all this week, how can we recoup her salary for this week? We will need this to pay for the elevated rates it often takes to obtain last-minute, temporary caregivers! How have others responded in any similar situations? |
Anonymous
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She is ghosting you. Let the money go since it's already gone, consider it .... severance for 51 weeks of good service.
Send her an email immediately saying "Nanny, Please consider your position as a nanny officially terminated as of June 27, 2017. This is due to your lack of communication and lack of desire to continue working with us going forward. As you have no PTO we do not owe you any further payments but out of the goodness of our hearts we have paid you through the end of this week. Thank you for caring for our child for the past year." Let the money go. |
Anonymous
| She has another job, and she wanted to be paid for this last week. This last part is kind of crummy, but do you really want to take her to small claims court? |
Anonymous
| You can't do anything, OP. Let it go and terminate her tonight. She clearly wasn't happy with you. Start looking for another nanny or daycare. |
Anonymous
| Transfer all of your money from checking to savings so there will be no money from which to draw the salary? Otherwise, small claims court. |
Anonymous
| I almost hate to ask, what were you paying her hourly? |
Anonymous
| You kind of owe her, why be a jerk? |
Anonymous
| That's a bad nanny, I'm sorry for you OP. |
Anonymous
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OP here. Paid $12/hr per family for share, plus $75/mo per family for health care stipend.
Seems like we basically have no options except small claims court, which we don't want to do for emotional reasons. PP: How do we owe her? She's taking leave with no notice, after having used all the leave days in her contract. |
Anonymous
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Wow, any prior indications that she may have been so unhappy?
The likely case here is that she wanted you to find a Nannyshare family prior to the renewal of the contract. Now she faces an uncertain situation because you haven't found another family yet & she doesn't know for how long she will only be working w/your family, making significantly less money. And if she is a weasel, she likely figured out that she would still find a way to get paid by you for her final week. I highly doubt her child is ill, she likely is or has found a new position by now or one that will start soon. It's a pretty sucky thing to do to you. It would have been easier had she communicated how she felt, but some people do not like confrontation & much prefer to gradually fade away..... So sorry for this OP. By the way, is this a young Nanny? Just curious. |
Anonymous
| So sorry OP. As the other Pp said try taking all money out from your account so it will not go thru. |
Anonymous
If you gave me a check that bounced, and I will take it to.police. She can stop payment but I would not have a bounced check. Stupid advice. |
Anonymous
Actually it's advance payment and you are basically stealing money if you dont perform agreed services |
Anonymous
This. |
Anonymous
Would you call your former employers and tell them you got paid money you were not owed, and you were taking it? Before you ask, yes, I did this with an $800 check from my former employers (not a nanny) that was accidentally added to my pay. Because I am aware that taking money I am not owed, and that was sent to me by accident, is stealing. So sure, call the police. |