Would you nanny for your fiances ex?

[Anonymous]

Long story short, I applied for a nanny position and the mom turned out to be my fiances ex from high school. They dated casually off and on for a few months. She is really interested in me still, but I'm not sure if this would be awkward. I'm not threatened by her by any means. I'm about to get married and she's married with three children. Would you be open to this or not?

[Anonymous]

Well high school dating is basically puppy love at best so I think it should be okay.

One question:
Does she even KNOW that your fiancé is her ex?

If not, I would offer full disclosure to her then see how she feels about it.

Good luck!

[Anonymous]

Don't do it.

[Anonymous]

I might, but a lot depends on the ages of everyone involved and their own feelings.

If it's been 15 years since they dated, it wasn't a huge romance or awful breakup and they are friendly and/or totally nonchalant about it - then sure.

If any one of those things are not true then I'd probably keep looking.

[Anonymous]

Ok wait, how does this look? You are working for your fiance ex.. She will be paying you, she will have all your important info. Maybe you'll should be best of friends.. keep a line where it should be. Than you wonder why things happens, you made space for it. Really is that the only job you can find.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I might, but a lot depends on the ages of everyone involved and their own feelings.

If it's been 15 years since they dated, it wasn't a huge romance or awful breakup and they are friendly and/or totally nonchalant about it - then sure.

If any one of those things are not true then I'd probably keep looking.

They'll both want to chat about the other, no matter the current relationship. It's going to be weird. I'd only do this if I had no other options.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Long story short, I applied for a nanny position and the mom turned out to be my fiances ex from high school. They dated casually off and on for a few months. She is really interested in me still, but I'm not sure if this would be awkward. I'm not threatened by her by any means. I'm about to get married and she's married with three children. Would you be open to this or not?

No. The potential for a lot of crap. Dodge this bullet.

[Anonymous]

I was going to say no based on the title, but ex from high school?!? Yeah, go ahead, unless it was some incredibly dramatic relationship or something.