Walking on eggshells with nanny

[Anonymous]

I really want us to talk more but I feel I can't say anything without offending her. She seems insecure about herself in a way I hadn't really noticed before and looks annoyed if I mention her family or what she is doing of a weekend. She doesn't seem to like discussing her life and I wonder if she feels insecure as we are a similar age (Early 30's) but I am married with kids, my own house and a high paying job. She has none of that. I really like her but feel I am walking on eggshells as it feels general chat is off limits.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I really want us to talk more but I feel I can't say anything without offending her. She seems insecure about herself in a way I hadn't really noticed before and looks annoyed if I mention her family or what she is doing of a weekend. She doesn't seem to like discussing her life and I wonder if she feels insecure as we are a similar age (Early 30's) but I am married with kids, my own house and a high paying job. She has none of that. I really like her but feel I am walking on eggshells as it feels general chat is off limits.

You are a patronizing fool, OP. I wouldn't want to share my life with you either and I am an MB.

[Anonymous]

Why am I a fool?

[Anonymous]

"My employee doesn't seem to like talking to me about her personal life. It is probably because I am perfect and her life is obviously crappy, in spite of the fact that I know little about her life."

[Anonymous]

Nanny here- Don't ask about her personal life, what is wrong with you??? My Boss has never asked things like that and I've been there 8 years. Our relationship works because it's professional and we have boundaries.

[Anonymous]

I know she still lives at home at 31, is single and has no kids but that doesn't bother me. I just want to support her and chat normally.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Why am I a fool?

You are a fool and a troll. No one is jealous of you, OP. The nanny clearly doesn't like you and just wants to do her job.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I know she still lives at home at 31, is single and has no kids but that doesn't bother me. I just want to support her and chat normally.

Fuck off. She just doesn't like you. You are just a paycheck. Worry about your own life and stop posting this same tired crap.

[Anonymous]

I don't have kids and don't want them. Being a mother is not a goal for every woman. And I live with my parents, but guess what? I own the house. I love that I can help them in their older age.

I don't tell my boss anything about my personal life. It's PERSONAL. I will chat with you about the job. OP, perhaps what you THINK is "chatting" is really "asking nosy questions." Try chatting about things like tv or complimenting how her shirt is cute or a new museum exhibit you have been wanting to see.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Why am I a fool?

You are a fool and a troll. No one is jealous of you, OP. The nanny clearly doesn't like you and just wants to do her job.

Exactly.

[Anonymous]

This is a virtually identical post to one just a couple of weeks ago.

If I had the time I'd research it and ask Jeff to confirm it's a troll. Maybe if I have insomnia this weekend...