Religious debates with MB

[Anonymous]

MB and I are two different religions, she Catholic and I Baptist, everyday she and I will talk about her catholic faith and her beliefs and I never ever downplay her beliefs, but she always has some smart remark about Baptist, and the Baptist church and it gets frustrating, she even tried to convince me to convert over to being a catholic, I politely declined, because I am firm in my beliefs, but it gets irritating having MB trying to tell me what WE baptist do wrong and it gets old and tiring. It even gotten to a point where her children tried to down talk my faith to me, and I just calmly walk away so that I won't say anything that would hurt feelings or make me regret what comes out of my mouth. How can I explain to MB that it's rude and disrespectful to talk down on others and their beliefs, when she is far from holier than thou.

[Anonymous]

weird. you're both Christian, so they are not that different (I'm Catholic). I can't believe you both get in deep enough conversations to get into debates.

Maybe joke with her and say" wow, if you think I'm different, good thing you don't have a Jewish or Hindu nanny"
She needs to learn some tolerance. or maybe tell her Jesus was Jewish first and the Apostles were Christian. Catholicism was invented 1000 years later.

[Anonymous]

You shouldn't have talked about religion at all in the first place.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:You shouldn't have talked about religion at all in the first place.

This. Smile and change the subject.

[Anonymous]

Are you sure it isn't more political than religious? Baptists are known to be Right Wing while Catholics, especially with the new Pope, swing Left.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:You shouldn't have talked about religion at all in the first place.

Op here, I never bring up the subject. MB brings it up, and me being the polite person I am doesn't want to ignore her conversation, I simply have one, voice my opinion and leave it at that.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Are you sure it isn't more political than religious? Baptists are known to be Right Wing while Catholics, especially with the new Pope, swing Left.

OP here, it just may be, but I believe it's more Religious, because she is very involved in the church and encourages others to be as well, and likes to push her views and beliefs on others.

[Anonymous]

Neither of you should talk about religion.

It's unprofessional on both sides.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Neither of you should talk about religion.

It's unprofessional on both sides.

+ 1

So true.

Let her know that from now on, you would prefer to not discuss religion w/her.

Your primary discussions should really be about the kids.

[Anonymous]

I hope you haven't poisoned the relationship.

Change the subject. Talk about something you can agree on.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I hope you haven't poisoned the relationship.

Change the subject. Talk about something you can agree on.

In all honesty, it sounds like her MB is the one crossing lines. OP just needs to learn how to change the conversation. If her MB doesn't get the hint, she'll have to be more blunt.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I hope you haven't poisoned the relationship.

Change the subject. Talk about something you can agree on.

In all honesty, it sounds like her MB is the one crossing lines. OP just needs to learn how to change the conversation. If her MB doesn't get the hint, she'll have to be more blunt.

... it doesn't matter who started it. Never talk Religion or Politics with your employer.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I hope you haven't poisoned the relationship.

Change the subject. Talk about something you can agree on.

In all honesty, it sounds like her MB is the one crossing lines. OP just needs to learn how to change the conversation. If her MB doesn't get the hint, she'll have to be more blunt.

... it doesn't matter who started it. Never talk Religion or Politics with your employer.

Yeah, no shit.

But the "I hope *you* didn't poison the relationship" is very accusatory towards the OP. She doesn't seem to be the one encouraging these discussions.

[Anonymous]

It's not different religions it's different denominations

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Neither of you should talk about religion.

It's unprofessional on both sides.

This.

Start shutting the topic down. "You know Jane, I think i am a litlle uncomfortable about discussing religion. Can we just agree to disagree and leave it at that?" And maybe also "I am feeling uncomfortable with how my religion is discussed, and some of the comments the kids are starting to make."

And in the future don't allow these discussions.