Feeling annoyed

[Anonymous]

My charge (She is 7) told me that her parents (So, MB and DB) get annoyed when I put cutlery away where they can't find it. This is annoying me in several ways. 1 being that I always put things away where they came from and 2. Why are they complaining about me in earshot of their DD? This has happened before too. My charge told me 'Dad said (My name) keeps hiding the keys to the garage.' Wtf.
I kind of want to tell them what DD is saying, if only so they keep their complaints away from DD's ears.

[Anonymous]

Tell them. Be calm and simply tell them what their daughter told you and ask how you can improve.

[Anonymous]

I'm a MB, and we try really, really hard never to say negative things about other people around our kids, or even make jokes that could be construed as negative, because kids repeat things and often in exactly the worst possible way.

If you can find a way to ask about these two instances, that will alert them that the child is repeating things, and also hopefully make them think twice. It might also give them a model for how adults should speak to each other if a minor problem comes up, like multiple people using a set of keys and needing a designated spot for them.

It would be really easy to say, for example, "Larlo told me that I've been putting the silverware in the wrong place, and that DB has been having trouble finding the garage keys. Can you just give me a quick refresher on where you all want those things to go? I thought I was putting them in the right places, but maybe not!"

[Anonymous]

Thanks, PP. I am putting them in the designated spots but clearly they expect me to mindread. I will try a conversation like the one you suggested, thank you.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Thanks, PP. I am putting them in the designated spots but clearly they expect me to mindread. I will try a conversation like the one you suggested, thank you.

It may be DB who doesn't know where they're supposed to go, not you. But having this conversation will make it possible for you and them to make sure all three of you have the same spot in mind.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Thanks, PP. I am putting them in the designated spots but clearly they expect me to mindread. I will try a conversation like the one you suggested, thank you.

It may be DB who doesn't know where they're supposed to go, not you. But having this conversation will make it possible for you and them to make sure all three of you have the same spot in mind.

+1. My DH doesn't know where everything should go. Don't let them make you into the scapegoat.

[Anonymous]

I won't, thank you.