Always a bit of tension with MB....

[Anonymous]

I wonder if it is just me that feels like this? I do really care about my MB, she can be extremely caring and kind but at other times I feel there is tension there. Sometimes I feel she makes passive remarks and she does take advantage at times which I haven't appreciated. At times I feel like we get on great and at other times (Which is a lot of the time if I am honest) I feel there is some tension there. Whether that is because she isn't happy with me or life in general I don't know...

This is my first nannying position and not sure if it is normal or not to have this kind of relationship with an MB? I only work part time and her kid is 8 (After school position).

[Anonymous]

Most MBs are not employers in any other capacity, and it's hard to be a good manager anyway. I think the tension you feel is that sometimes she feels like the relationship or particular conversation needs to be more professional, and she's not really comfortable with that.

[Anonymous]

Don't worry about it. Seriously, who cares? Be the best possible babysitter you can be and remember that you will need her for a reference. If so think you might be doing something in particular that she doesn't like ask her about that specific thing only. NEVER discuss random feelings or insecurities with an employer.

[Anonymous]

I think the lack of communication and knowing where I stand gets to me. I prefer honesty and sometimes I don't feel she is being honest with me.

[Anonymous]

Listen to your gut.

It is rarely, if ever wrong.

She may just not be a personable person in general, but it is likely that she is not entirely happy w/you from what you stated.

You feel it is something personal & you likely are right.
I hope I am wrong, but I doubt that I am.

Plz keep us updated.

[Anonymous]

She's probably annoyed about something you did or didn't do, but too scared of confrontation to actually tell you straight out. I'm not sure what you do about this, but I do think it's fairly typical. A lot of MBs want nannies who are mind-readers, because they don't ever want to be the bad guy. Of course, she's already doing that with the passive/aggressive stuff.

Note to MBs: either woman-up and have a direct conversation, or let.it.go. It's not fair to be mad about something you never said anything about.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:She's probably annoyed about something you did or didn't do, but too scared of confrontation to actually tell you straight out. I'm not sure what you do about this, but I do think it's fairly typical. A lot of MBs want nannies who are mind-readers, because they don't ever want to be the bad guy. Of course, she's already doing that with the passive/aggressive stuff.

Note to MBs: either woman-up and have a direct conversation, or let.it.go. It's not fair to be mad about something you never said anything about.

This is probably it. You could schedule a review sometime next week and try to get some feedback about what it is.

[Anonymous]

My MB is like this. I think mommy guilt is part of the reason.

[Anonymous]

A former MB who is now a "family friend" has always been moody like this. It is tiresome and certainly has held her back at work but never had anything to do with me.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:A former MB who is now a "family friend" has always been moody like this. It is tiresome and certainly has held her back at work but never had anything to do with me.

I feel it might be the case with me. I know she really likes me and says often she is happy with how I do my job. I think she might just be having a hard time and I get the brunt of it at times