Spoiled Rotten

[Anonymous]

I nanny for a 7 yr old little girl and she is spoiled rotten. It has become a huge issue because MB & DB will not further resolve the problem. Everyday it's an argument about screens (she is allowed 2 hours of computer, tv or tablet a day) and she always takes advantage of the fact MB & DB are busy and goes over the limit and when asked to turn off the devices, she flips out and whines about how she's bored or wanna finish watching whatever it is. I've discussed this issue with mom and dad multiple times and they always say "we'll talk to her about it." But it doesn't help because the next day its the same thing. She also feels that she has to have a play date with her friend everyday and throws a fit when me or the parents say no. She's super rude to me and always gives me attitude or talks back or when she thinks I'm not paying attention she goes and does what I said not to do, or asks MB & DB, and they say yes, without the knowledge that I've already said no, until I tell them and she gets mad at me and disrespects me because I've told them she was told no. Any solution to this issue?

[Anonymous]

Sounds like you should look for another job. If the parents don't care enough to enforce anything then the child will not change, and if the child doesn't treat adults (like you) with respect - then she's learned that from her parents.

I'd find something else.

-MB

[Anonymous]

Just find another job.

[Anonymous]

Not even worth discussing-find a new job. Your current job is horrid and you will get fired if you don't quit first.

[Anonymous]

I had this issue before. It's sad that her parents don't teach her to respect you and don't take you seriously when taking about this issue. It's better for you and your tranquility that you look for another position. Also, try to find out in the interview about the child's behavior.

[Anonymous]

Start ending screen time at 90 minutes. That gives her thirty minutes to wrap it up. If that doesn't work, no screen time the next day. She's old enough to talk to logically about how you treat people, how she wants to be treated, what happens if she's rude to you, how school friends will turn on her if she's a brat to them etc. Lay it out like it is and see what that gets you.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Start ending screen time at 90 minutes. That gives her thirty minutes to wrap it up. If that doesn't work, no screen time the next day. She's old enough to talk to logically about how you treat people, how she wants to be treated, what happens if she's rude to you, how school friends will turn on her if she's a brat to them etc. Lay it out like it is and see what that gets you.

I've tried that. I've talked to her numerous of times and told her with her attitude and how she treats people she will lose friends, and it's hard for me to trust her when she continues to act that way. She simply rolls her eyes and ignores me.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Start ending screen time at 90 minutes. That gives her thirty minutes to wrap it up. If that doesn't work, no screen time the next day. She's old enough to talk to logically about how you treat people, how she wants to be treated, what happens if she's rude to you, how school friends will turn on her if she's a brat to them etc. Lay it out like it is and see what that gets you.

I've tried that. I've talked to her numerous of times and told her with her attitude and how she treats people she will lose friends, and it's hard for me to trust her when she continues to act that way. She simply rolls her eyes and ignores me.

If you tried it and it didn't work... find another position.

[Anonymous]

OMG, quit!!! Quit now!

[Anonymous]

Some kids really can't handle any screen time.

[Anonymous]

If the parents aren't on board and willing to back you up completely there is ZERO point in trying to rein her in