Mb and DB getting super lazy. Rant.

[Anonymous]

Is it me or after a family has a nanny for a while they get lazy? Currently I'm so annoyed and I'm starting to dislike my MB and DB. When I first started it was 9-5 and they couldn't wait to hang out with their kids. Did all kinds of things with him on the weekends etc. Let's fast forward. Now it's we need you super early and to stay later. Except they are home just chillen away from their kid. If they do happen to come early from work they hide in their room until it's exactly time for me to leave. Sometimes even a few min later. If they go on a trip they always ask me to come in for a few hours that morning so they can pack the car. Like they can't handle it. Not to mention going out to places like restaurants. If you could come with us that would be great. We need the help. But yet I'm taking both kids to story time and lunch alone. They ask for weekends for they can do stuff. I actually agreed once....MB went shopping and DB sat around in pjs watching tv. Like wtf? It just bothers me that they blow off their kids all the time now and can't even go to the pool without me. They always want me to go on theses weekend trips with them and can't understand why I don't want to sit around in a hotel with them. Ugh. Yesterday I snapped at MB. She's like it would be better if you came in earlier everyday because DB has a hard time with both kids in that hour. If they had their way I'd work from 7-7. Even though they are home and just watching tv. It makes me mad because the kids wanna play with them and cry. They get told "go play with ms.larla." It pisses me off. Why do you need three people for two kids? All the time? Do you F'ing do anything? I wanna scream when I hear "We need help on this day. We want to take the kids to jazz brunch but we just cannot do it without someone else to help us." Does anyone else have this issue?

[Anonymous]

Story of my life
Nanny here my job is like that with one child with more then i signed up for house work cant help but to feel for the babies

[Anonymous]

OP, and other nannies, YOU. are being used and abused by your employer WITH YOUR PERMISSION. Learn to say NO to requests to. Coming in early and staying late. You are an employee with SET hours. You are not a servant who is on call 24/7.

There can be SOME flexibility on an EMERGENCY basis and going out to dinner with them so you can babysit or helping pack their car does not constitute an emergency on your part.

You, and only you, can stop them taking advantage of you. Stop being their door may. They are lazy and you need to stop enabling them.

[Anonymous]

What do you do during your time off work that is so amazing that someone going shopping on a Saturday afternoon or spending the morning packing their car is "super lazy?"

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Anonymous wrote:What do you do during your time off work that is so amazing that someone going shopping on a Saturday afternoon or spending the morning packing their car is "super lazy?"

Op here. Spend time with my own family and friends. It's because they ask every single weekend. They ask for extra hours every week. They complain and whine on how they can't handle the kids without having help all day every day. I do say no a lot. A lot! It bothers me that the kids cry for them and want to play but their too busy watching tv or playing on the iPad. They need me to stay till six? Ok. Then why are you coming home at 3pm and sitting there messes up the kids day? They brush them off and tell them to go play with me. It disturbs me that they are the reason there is so much chaos some days. It really annoys me that they want me to help them take the kids places like F'ing IHOP on the weekends. I want time to relax and do my errands. I want time to handle out with my fiancé and our family. I'm ranting that every weekend they are telling me they want me to do extra hours because they can't do it. The two of them can't handle it. When all it is is that they want to sit and watch tv.

So I can rant. I'm the one that has to see the crushed expression on the kids face because they want daddy to play catch but he's too busy watching some home improvement show. They are lazy and sucky. The end.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:What do you do during your time off work that is so amazing that someone going shopping on a Saturday afternoon or spending the morning packing their car is "super lazy?"

Op here. Spend time with my own family and friends. It's because they ask every single weekend. They ask for extra hours every week. They complain and whine on how they can't handle the kids without having help all day every day. I do say no a lot. A lot! It bothers me that the kids cry for them and want to play but their too busy watching tv or playing on the iPad. They need me to stay till six? Ok. Then why are you coming home at 3pm and sitting there messes up the kids day? They brush them off and tell them to go play with me. It disturbs me that they are the reason there is so much chaos some days. It really annoys me that they want me to help them take the kids places like F'ing IHOP on the weekends. I want time to relax and do my errands. I want time to handle out with my fiancé and our family. I'm ranting that every weekend they are telling me they want me to do extra hours because they can't do it. The two of them can't handle it. When all it is is that they want to sit and watch tv.

So I can rant. I'm the one that has to see the crushed expression on the kids face because they want daddy to play catch but he's too busy watching some home improvement show. They are lazy and sucky. The end.

MB here. I'm sorry you're getting sucked into helping these parents "parent" their kids. I don't think they're necessarily super lazy, more like, super uninvolved parents. I feel really sorry for the kids. One day the kids will grow up and then the parents will wonder why their kids blow them off. I would look for a new position. Or tell them that they need to find a PT babysitter for the weekends. Otherwise you'll get super burnt out. Good luck.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:What do you do during your time off work that is so amazing that someone going shopping on a Saturday afternoon or spending the morning packing their car is "super lazy?"

Op here. Spend time with my own family and friends. It's because they ask every single weekend. They ask for extra hours every week. They complain and whine on how they can't handle the kids without having help all day every day. I do say no a lot. A lot! It bothers me that the kids cry for them and want to play but their too busy watching tv or playing on the iPad. They need me to stay till six? Ok. Then why are you coming home at 3pm and sitting there messes up the kids day? They brush them off and tell them to go play with me. It disturbs me that they are the reason there is so much chaos some days. It really annoys me that they want me to help them take the kids places like F'ing IHOP on the weekends. I want time to relax and do my errands. I want time to handle out with my fiancé and our family. I'm ranting that every weekend they are telling me they want me to do extra hours because they can't do it. The two of them can't handle it. When all it is is that they want to sit and watch tv.

So I can rant. I'm the one that has to see the crushed expression on the kids face because they want daddy to play catch but he's too busy watching some home improvement show. They are lazy and sucky. The end.

It sounds like you've allowed the boundaries to slip. No more extra time unless it's a bona fide need. The next time that the parent comes home during your shift, discuss at the end of the shift that you will work your shift, but the parent needs to text you so that you can remove the kids from the house while they are there. No more staying late unless the parent is late.

If things don't change, recommend that they look for a 24/7 nanny, or a nanny who is willing to be available from 6 am to 10 pm (live-in or live-out). Remind them that it will cost a lot more, but they will have someone willing and able to sacrifice all of her free time to spend with their kids, which you can't do because you have a family.

[Anonymous]

Wow. People can't read. She said she says no all the time to their dumb requests. I personally would be annoyed as all hell. It's okay to be flexible but when you're asking someone to come in early and stay late and then they just sit there watching tv....I'd feel like my time was not valuable in their eyes.

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Anonymous wrote:What do you do during your time off work that is so amazing that someone going shopping on a Saturday afternoon or spending the morning packing their car is "super lazy?"

You're a dumb crusty bitch. Nobody wants to come in on a Saturday to help you load your car. Does it matter? It's her time off. Her break.

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Anonymous wrote:What do you do during your time off work that is so amazing that someone going shopping on a Saturday afternoon or spending the morning packing their car is "super lazy?"

You're a dumb crusty bitch. Nobody wants to come in on a Saturday to help you load your car. Does it matter? It's her time off. Her break.

One parent watches the kids, the other packs the car. One does errands, the other takes the kids to the park. It's not rocket science, it's called parenting. They need to get a weekend nanny in addition, or they need a new nanny who will be available 6 am to 10 pm everyday.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:What do you do during your time off work that is so amazing that someone going shopping on a Saturday afternoon or spending the morning packing their car is "super lazy?"

You're a dumb crusty bitch. Nobody wants to come in on a Saturday to help you load your car. Does it matter? It's her time off. Her break.

I don't care what she does. But she gets on here and says that these people are "super lazy" because they are doing things like shopping, watching TV, going to IHOP, packing for trips, and other pretty typical things that I think most people do during their downtime.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:What do you do during your time off work that is so amazing that someone going shopping on a Saturday afternoon or spending the morning packing their car is "super lazy?"

You're a dumb crusty bitch. Nobody wants to come in on a Saturday to help you load your car. Does it matter? It's her time off. Her break.

One parent watches the kids, the other packs the car. One does errands, the other takes the kids to the park. It's not rocket science, it's called parenting. They need to get a weekend nanny in addition, or they need a new nanny who will be available 6 am to 10 pm everyday.

It didn't sound to me like they have her working 6am to 10pm every day. She said if they had their way she would be working 7am-7pm, but she doesn't. She works 9am-5pm, and occasionally 6pm, and once she came in during the weekend. If they are paying her guaranteed hours to come and watch the kids, and they want to spend the morning before their vacation packing for their trip, they are well within their rights to ask her to watch the kids while they do it. There is no reason that one should have to watch the kids or take them to the park so that she can take a paid day off.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:What do you do during your time off work that is so amazing that someone going shopping on a Saturday afternoon or spending the morning packing their car is "super lazy?"

You're a dumb crusty bitch. Nobody wants to come in on a Saturday to help you load your car. Does it matter? It's her time off. Her break.

One parent watches the kids, the other packs the car. One does errands, the other takes the kids to the park. It's not rocket science, it's called parenting. They need to get a weekend nanny in addition, or they need a new nanny who will be available 6 am to 10 pm everyday.

It didn't sound to me like they have her working 6am to 10pm every day. She said if they had their way she would be working 7am-7pm, but she doesn't. She works 9am-5pm, and occasionally 6pm, and once she came in during the weekend. If they are paying her guaranteed hours to come and watch the kids, and they want to spend the morning before their vacation packing for their trip, they are well within their rights to ask her to watch the kids while they do it. There is no reason that one should have to watch the kids or take them to the park so that she can take a paid day off.

I read it as OP being asked to do this in extra hours. She clearly stated that she's been asked to stay late, which inconveniences her, and then the parents don't have a reason for it. She's been asked for extra hours every. single. weekend. There is no reason two parents need that much help with two children if they are actually there.

I suggested the 6 am to 10 pm nanny as an alternative. I've reserved 7 days a week all day long for the family, but they paid for those hours as on call. OP's situation sounds exactly that this: they want someone who is available at their beck and call, and OP has standard work hours, so isn't.

Oh, and guaranteed hours are within a set schedule. The family doesn't get to reduce hours during the week to then turn around and demand hours on the weekend or evenings.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:What do you do during your time off work that is so amazing that someone going shopping on a Saturday afternoon or spending the morning packing their car is "super lazy?"

You're a dumb crusty bitch. Nobody wants to come in on a Saturday to help you load your car. Does it matter? It's her time off. Her break.

I don't care what she does. But she gets on here and says that these people are "super lazy" because they are doing things like shopping, watching TV, going to IHOP, packing for trips, and other pretty typical things that I think most people do during their downtime.

She said they are lazy because 1. they are parents and 2. they are having the nanny parent instead of parenting their own children. It would be understandable if they were working from home or late getting out of work, but asking the nanny to stay late so that DB can sit and watch TV?!

[Anonymous]

OP also seems really upset on the kids' behalf that their parents don't want to spend time with them. This is sad for the kids!

They sound horrible, OP. I don't understand parents like this.