Living a double life

[Anonymous]

I experienced this as a nanny 15 years ago...

I worked in a very wealthy home. I was given a credit card, full roam of the house and control over every aspect of childcare. I had a driver for myself and the kids, a clothing allowance due to needing to dress the part when we traveled. It was a pretty lavish and cushy job at times. But also a ton of work.

I found myself managing the chef, gardener and attending parent teacher conferences in a dvf wrap dress and pearls. And then getting home and heating up ramen because all my pay check went to paying for grad school and helping my younger sibling though school.

It felt like such a double life. And I'm very glad to be in a different profession and while we don't have a driver or chef we are very well off now. Facing the thought of hiring our own nanny for our first born and well I have to admit it feels a little bit like freaky Friday.

Not sure if anyone else every had experiences like this...

[Anonymous]

Ramen noodles are very bad for You.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Ramen noodles are very bad for You.

Not true, I've been eating it for 40 years and I have lived to tell about it!

[Anonymous]

Do you have a point or are you just testing out your Nanny Diaries-cum-Pretty Woman screenplay idea

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Ramen noodles are very bad for You.

Not true, I've been eating it for 40 years and I have lived to tell about it!

Cup 'O Soup ramen noodles are very bad for you because of the high sodium. But you can make ramen at home without that high sodium count.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Ramen noodles are very bad for You.

Not true, I've been eating it for 40 years and I have lived to tell about it!

Cup 'O Soup ramen noodles are very bad for you because of the high sodium. But you can make ramen at home without that high sodium count.

http://www.scientificamerican.com/article/its-time-to-end-the-war-on-salt/

[Anonymous]

Why would you take a job which only paid enough for you to eat ramen?!

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Why would you take a job which only paid enough for you to eat ramen?!

It wasn't even a log post that you clearly didn't read. She was sending all of her extra money to help her family members in need. She could have eaten better, but chose not to leave them hanging.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Why would you take a job which only paid enough for you to eat ramen?!

It wasn't even a log post that you clearly didn't read. She was sending all of her extra money to help her family members in need. She could have eaten better, but chose not to leave them hanging.

No, I did read the post. My question is why she valued her sibling's education over her own health. I would have found a better paying position or made sure my sibling knew that I wasn't footing their education.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Why would you take a job which only paid enough for you to eat ramen?!

It wasn't even a log post that you clearly didn't read. She was sending all of her extra money to help her family members in need. She could have eaten better, but chose not to leave them hanging.

No, I did read the post. My question is why she valued her sibling's education over her own health. I would have found a better paying position or made sure my sibling knew that I wasn't footing their education.

She also was paying for her own graduate education. Sounds like she was well-compensated and this position allowed her to achieve the financial success she has today. I don't see a "double life" in this case unless you consider any support position to be pretending.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Why would you take a job which only paid enough for you to eat ramen?!

It wasn't even a log post that you clearly didn't read. She was sending all of her extra money to help her family members in need. She could have eaten better, but chose not to leave them hanging.

No, I did read the post. My question is why she valued her sibling's education over her own health. I would have found a better paying position or made sure my sibling knew that I wasn't footing their education.

She also was paying for her own graduate education. Sounds like she was well-compensated and this position allowed her to achieve the financial success she has today. I don't see a "double life" in this case unless you consider any support position to be pretending.

Exactly my point. Paying for graduate school for herself was pricey enough, there is no reason that a sibling can't put themself through school.

[Anonymous]

Op here. You don't know my family situation at that point in time. I paid for my siblings education so they could better themselves and it has been a wonderful investement.

I posted this wondering if anyone else had ever feltnthey had two lives. One in which you " rub elbows" with the very elite, dress the part, get some perks, etc...but at the end of the day go home and figure out bills or your own life. Yes its a job. But lines blur. Especially as a young girl.

I am interviewing for our first nanny and thinking back to my time as one.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Op here. You don't know my family situation at that point in time. I paid for my siblings education so they could better themselves and it has been a wonderful investement.

I posted this wondering if anyone else had ever feltnthey had two lives. One in which you " rub elbows" with the very elite, dress the part, get some perks, etc...but at the end of the day go home and figure out bills or your own life. Yes its a job. But lines blur. Especially as a young girl.

I am interviewing for our first nanny and thinking back to my time as one.

I went to a boarding school with very high income kids, so yes, there I felt like that. Working as a live-in nanny? Nope, never.