nanny share nap question

[Anonymous]

two 10 month olds in a nanny share and one wants to sleep in the morning (either crib or stroller) and the other will only sleep in a stroller. Does that mean they have to go out in the stroller every day? Mine is the one that will sleep in either place and I don't mind stroller sleeping sometimes but would prefer he get to sleep in his crib sometimes too. What seems fair to you? Alternating days? Or does the fact that the other baby will only sleep in the stroller mean that they go out in the stroller every day. Tough in this weather but maybe that is what they should usually do? Also the other family does not realize that this is what happens.

[Anonymous]

baby in the stroller needs to learn to nap in a crib

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:baby in the stroller needs to learn to nap in a crib

^^^^^^ this.

The "baby" is 10 months old. In 2 months (s)he'll be a year. That kid should be sleeping in a crib.

[Anonymous]

Nanny needs to help the baby to sleep in a crib. He/She can help parents with tips to accomplish this at home too.

An occasional stroller nap isn't the end of the world, but most naps need to be in a bed IMO.

[Anonymous]

OP I am guessing your LO throws a fit if you attempt to do the nap in the crib, otherwise this would not be a concern. You should acknowledge that its a challenge, make a plan for transitioning to the crib, and give your nanny leeway to get it done. Your current practice is not reasonable, unless your are willing to hire a nanny for 1 to 1 care.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:OP I am guessing your LO throws a fit if you attempt to do the nap in the crib, otherwise this would not be a concern. You should acknowledge that its a challenge, make a plan for transitioning to the crib, and give your nanny leeway to get it done. Your current practice is not reasonable, unless your are willing to hire a nanny for 1 to 1 care.

OP's child will sleep in either the crib or stroller, it's the other child who . The nanny needs to transition both to crib most of the time, car and stroller infrequently (if at all). Unless the parent absolutely wants the child to sleep in the stroller (which is horrible, there's no excuse for the nanny doing this. I've worked with 18 month old twins who had been taught for over a year that they should only fall asleep if rocked for 45+ minutes by themselves or if walked in the stroller for 30+ minutes, and it took me more than a month to get them to sleep in the cribs without rocking first. No nanny wants to deal with that, so the sooner it's dealt with, the better it will be.

[Anonymous]

Yeah it's time to sleep train, the 4mo old I watch does 2/2hr naps a day in her crib, and has been since 3mo old. The kid who can only sleep in the stroller isn't getting quality sleep either. There is a ton of research that sleeping on the go means sacrificing quality of nap(they never reach all phases or REM sleep) which means the whole point of naps(growth/development) isn't being attained.

[Anonymous]

I I believe it is best if the child naps in his crib. By continuing to allow him stroller naps is creating a bad habit as he gets older.

You don't want a child who won't sleep unless he is pushed in his stroller. That is not healthy at all.

Children need to learn to fall asleep on their own without any help.

I suggest you sleep train the child sooner rather than later. Also ask the parents assistance with this to remain consistent as well.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Yeah it's time to sleep train, the 4mo old I watch does 2/2hr naps a day in her crib, and has been since 3mo old. The kid who can only sleep in the stroller isn't getting quality sleep either. There is a ton of research that sleeping on the go means sacrificing quality of nap(they never reach all phases or REM sleep) which means the whole point of naps(growth/development) isn't being attained.

Agreed. The parents need to immediately get on board, or you have to replace them, OP. Shares have so many problems. Believe me.

[Anonymous]

thanks OP here, agree that shares have a lot of problems. I had to do it to afford the nanny but it definitely has draw backs and this is one of the big ones. I will talk to the nanny. I'm disappointed that she hasn't tried to get them to nap on their own even though both sets of parents said she could do whatever she needs to do to sleep train them. Mine easily goes down in a crib with a bottle which is not the best but the other DD won't go down regardless- bottle or otherwise- must be in the stroller.

[Anonymous]

Maybe you need a more proactive nanny. She's okay with stroller sleeping because it's easier for her, but it is NOT in the best interests of that child - or yours.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:thanks OP here, agree that shares have a lot of problems. I had to do it to afford the nanny but it definitely has draw backs and this is one of the big ones. I will talk to the nanny. I'm disappointed that she hasn't tried to get them to nap on their own even though both sets of parents said she could do whatever she needs to do to sleep train them. Mine easily goes down in a crib with a bottle which is not the best but the other DD won't go down regardless- bottle or otherwise- must be in the stroller.

Wait, she has permission from both sets of parents to sleep train, but she's not doing it? Find another nanny, asap. Either she's not sleep training because it's too much work with two infants or she doesn't know how. Either way, during the interview, you need to ask what the nanny would do to sleep train.