I can do this, damn it I can!!!!

[Anonymous]

I keep telling myself over and over. I'm very unhappy at my job. I'm looking for a new one, but in the mean time all I can say is I can do this.

Every day, multiple times, I consider quiting and living off savings til I find a new position. But that's not responsible, I have enough in savings but I want it to stay in savings.

A new job maybe on the horizon but not til March! I'm hoping I can hold off and suck it up for like 8 weeks. Hell I've been at this job for 2 years, what's 8 more weeks.

I can do this!!!! I can do this!!!!

[Anonymous]

God bless your MB. Please let her know your quitting now so she has the 8 weeks to find someone.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:God bless your MB. Please let her know your quitting now so she has the 8 weeks to find someone.

Ridiculous. If her present emoyer knew she was quitting, Shevcpuld fire her immediately. OP, max you owe any employer is two weeks and even that is not law. If your job is that misersble, do not stay, it is bad for your health.

[Anonymous]

Mb here. I've had a few difficult bosses. Here are three ways I've found to view those jobs that help keep me sane:

1. I imagine I'm on a reality show, and my boss was unknowingly cast as The Villian. I want to appear likable to our audience, so I am mature and professional no matter what is thrown at me, and handle it all with grace. It's easier to do this when you pretend people are watching.

2. I play Work Bingo in my head. This way you can almost hope for bad things to happen and get happy when they do, instead of getting upset. Did the boss just comment on a coworker's body? Yay! Did the boss just help himself to the lunch I'm eating at my desk? Yes! Just make a list of things your boss does that annoy you, and see how many you can check off each day.

3. Pretend you're writing a book and this job is letting you gather enough material. You only get the advance from the publishing company if you have enough stories to string together into a cohesive book.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:God bless your MB. Please let her know your quitting now so she has the 8 weeks to find someone.

Ridiculous. If her present emoyer knew she was quitting, Shevcpuld fire her immediately. OP, max you owe any employer is two weeks and even that is not law. If your job is that misersble, do not stay, it is bad for your health.

Why would you think that? No one that relies on their nanny is going to fire them immediately and have to take 2 weeks of vacation time staying home with their own child while they look for a new one. They may not keep her all 8 weeks sure, but it takes more than 2 weeks to find a good nanny, I'd better OP could stay on for a good 6 more weeks if she was honest.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:God bless your MB. Please let her know your quitting now so she has the 8 weeks to find someone.

Ridiculous. If her present emoyer knew she was quitting, Shevcpuld fire her immediately. OP, max you owe any employer is two weeks and even that is not law. If your job is that misersble, do not stay, it is bad for your health.

Why would you think that? No one that relies on their nanny is going to fire them immediately and have to take 2 weeks of vacation time staying home with their own child while they look for a new one. They may not keep her all 8 weeks sure, but it takes more than 2 weeks to find a good nanny, I'd better OP could stay on for a good 6 more weeks if she was honest.

It happened to several nannies on this board who were let go immediately or the next day. I've also heard that from nanny friends before.
I would wait and not give that much notice. Too risky.

Parent get back up care or grandparents come to town.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Mb here. I've had a few difficult bosses. Here are three ways I've found to view those jobs that help keep me sane:

1. I imagine I'm on a reality show, and my boss was unknowingly cast as The Villian. I want to appear likable to our audience, so I am mature and professional no matter what is thrown at me, and handle it all with grace. It's easier to do this when you pretend people are watching.

2. I play Work Bingo in my head. This way you can almost hope for bad things to happen and get happy when they do, instead of getting upset. Did the boss just comment on a coworker's body? Yay! Did the boss just help himself to the lunch I'm eating at my desk? Yes! Just make a list of things your boss does that annoy you, and see how many you can check off each day.

3. Pretend you're writing a book and this job is letting you gather enough material. You only get the advance from the publishing company if you have enough stories to string together into a cohesive book.

Thank you, this is funny!! I'll have to try it.

OP

[Anonymous]

OP here...

I would give a months notice, that's what's in my contract. And if they find someone before then, great! I will be overjoyed and hopeful for a seamless transition.

I won't give more then a months notice, because that can just come back to bite me in the end.
.yes 6 or 8 weeks would be great but for me that's not feasible.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:God bless your MB. Please let her know your quitting now so she has the 8 weeks to find someone.

Ridiculous. If her present emoyer knew she was quitting, Shevcpuld fire her immediately. OP, max you owe any employer is two weeks and even that is not law. If your job is that misersble, do not stay, it is bad for your health.

Why would you think that? No one that relies on their nanny is going to fire them immediately and have to take 2 weeks of vacation time staying home with their own child while they look for a new one. They may not keep her all 8 weeks sure, but it takes more than 2 weeks to find a good nanny, I'd better OP could stay on for a good 6 more weeks if she was honest.

It happened to several nannies on this board who were let go immediately or the next day. I've also heard that from nanny friends before.
I would wait and not give that much notice. Too risky.

Parent get back up care or grandparents come to town.

Well any good nanny would know if that is a possibility but OP has shown us she is not a good nanny so I will agree with you that that could happen. But 99% of grandparents will not drop everything they are doing and buy a next day ticket to fly into town to babysit so MB can fire nanny out of spite.

[Anonymous]

Idiot it isn't spite it's the fear that an unhappy nanny is no longer a reliable caregiver. My friends mom came for three MONTHS to watch the kids when they were without a nanny; plenty of ppl who can afford nannies can also afford to bring relatives or temp nannies in to cover.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:God bless your MB. Please let her know your quitting now so she has the 8 weeks to find someone.

Ridiculous. If her present emoyer knew she was quitting, Shevcpuld fire her immediately. OP, max you owe any employer is two weeks and even that is not law. If your job is that misersble, do not stay, it is bad for your health.

Why would you think that? No one that relies on their nanny is going to fire them immediately and have to take 2 weeks of vacation time staying home with their own child while they look for a new one. They may not keep her all 8 weeks sure, but it takes more than 2 weeks to find a good nanny, I'd better OP could stay on for a good 6 more weeks if she was honest.

It happened to several nannies on this board who were let go immediately or the next day. I've also heard that from nanny friends before.
I would wait and not give that much notice. Too risky.

Parent get back up care or grandparents come to town.

Well any good nanny would know if that is a possibility but OP has shown us she is not a good nanny so I will agree with you that that could happen. But 99% of grandparents will not drop everything they are doing and buy a next day ticket to fly into town to babysit so MB can fire nanny out of spite.

How do you know how OP is in her position?

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:God bless your MB. Please let her know your quitting now so she has the 8 weeks to find someone.

Ridiculous. If her present emoyer knew she was quitting, Shevcpuld fire her immediately. OP, max you owe any employer is two weeks and even that is not law. If your job is that misersble, do not stay, it is bad for your health.

Why would you think that? No one that relies on their nanny is going to fire them immediately and have to take 2 weeks of vacation time staying home with their own child while they look for a new one. They may not keep her all 8 weeks sure, but it takes more than 2 weeks to find a good nanny, I'd better OP could stay on for a good 6 more weeks if she was honest.

It happened to several nannies on this board who were let go immediately or the next day. I've also heard that from nanny friends before.
I would wait and not give that much notice. Too risky.

Parent get back up care or grandparents come to town.

Well any good nanny would know if that is a possibility but OP has shown us she is not a good nanny so I will agree with you that that could happen. But 99% of grandparents will not drop everything they are doing and buy a next day ticket to fly into town to babysit so MB can fire nanny out of spite.

How do you know how OP is in her position?

Thank you pp.

Yes first poster how do YOU know me and how I am as a nanny?

Please tell me how I have shown to you that I am not a good nanny?
Please?

I am going to give them a months notice, I will help train the new nanny and I will help transition the children!

You have no idea why I am quitting. You have no idea of the everyday ins and outs my my daily work life.

I am unhappy with my current position, I found a much better position that not only helps boost my already flawless resume but is much better financially.

I am not giving a 2 months notice, because that is not what is in our contract and I feel that is over kill.

Would you give a 2 months notice at your job?

[Anonymous]

If you feel taken advantage of as well as UNDERpaid, it can wreck havoc on your mental/emotional health to stick around.

I have had jobs where I would actually cry on my way to work. I dreading going in and would be so RELIEVED when the day was done, already dreading the next one.

IMO, living like that is no way to live. And the time flows by so slowly and my spirit gets more and more lost each time.

However, if you have a good chance at having another job in a few months, perhaps that can help you survive the next two months. Focus on the fact that you will have something much better and with any luck that may be just the tool you need to survive.

I love your positive attitude.

Yes, You got this....!