Nanny runs out the door when I get home!

[Anonymous]

We have a fabulous nanny with guaranteed hours. There are times when I get home early, she runs out the door. Even if it's 2 hours early. Do others nannies do this?

[Anonymous]

Why are you allowing it?

[Anonymous]

Maybe she thinks you wanted to take care of your child.

[Anonymous]

You need to address this. There is no reason for a nanny to assume that she is off as soon as you get home unless you made that clear. I make sure that the parents are with the kids and don't need me before I consider myself off for the day, as should any nanny not focused on clock-watching.

[Anonymous]

We've always had a clear signal when I say something like "I've got the kids" so the nanny knows that she's free to leave. Sometimes it's an hour early, sometimes it's right at her regular end time, but the communication is there every day. For each of the nannies we've had, I've always done this - none of them have ever behaved as your nanny does.

[Anonymous]

MB here. I assume when I get home early I'm in charge. If I want the manny to stay I'll say "Give me a half hour" or something so he knows I need to shower and make some calls or whatever it is.

[Anonymous]

I would be really annoyed. Can you text her on your way home and say "Ill be home in 20 minutes but need to take care of X, Y and Z. I need you to stay until 6."

[Anonymous]

OP, what you are describing is not common at all something seems off. Do you have a good relationship otherwise with nanny? Have a talk with her and make clear she needs to work the guaranteed hours unless you ask her to leave early for that specific day.

[Anonymous]

Lol

[Anonymous]

No ,I stay until my boss say , that ,you can go...

[Anonymous]

No way I'd run out the door unless she told me I could go. That's not right at all. Maybe she could be getting some stuff done like the baby's room or cleaning up a bit before she goes.

[Anonymous]

It all would depend on her hours worked and/or temperament of your child.

However, I find it a bit odd that she leaves so abruptly however I have noticed school teachers do this at my child's school too.

I am a nanny and I usually spend 5-10 min. updating parent about our day.

If your nanny logs thing in writing, then perhaps that is all you need.

If it really bothers you, simply request her presence for at least five min. per day to see if you can get a brief re-cap.

[Anonymous]

What is there to recap? If there were any big accomplishments or pitfalls that were worth mentioning, she would. She's been with your kids all day, it's time for you to take over.

[Anonymous]

Why should she stay if you are home? If it is 5 pm, you are on your own.

[Anonymous]

Why aren't you communicating clearly what your plans are? If you get home early and want to go for a run, or change your clothes and do some errands, or take a nap, or whatever, just say so. If you're just awkwardly hanging out with nanny and kids she probably feels weird herself, like she's infringing on your family time. Just be the boss and tell her what you need from her.