How to ask for pay

[Anonymous]

My nanny worked for my neighbor a 12 hour night shift last week. She must have forgotten to pay her... What is the polite way to bring up?

[Anonymous]

She calls/texts and says "hi Karla, hope you're having a good week. Would it be ok if I swung by tomorrow to pick up my check for last week?"

This assumes it was a genuine oversight.

[Anonymous]

Was payment discussed? Was a rate agreed on? Some people just don't pay they say hey can larla watch the kids tomorrow and you say yes. They assume it's free or they cross their fingers and hope it's free

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:She calls/texts and says "hi Karla, hope you're having a good week. Would it be ok if I swung by tomorrow to pick up my check for last week?"

This assumes it was a genuine oversight.

A nanny works a 12 hour shift and you genuinely forget to pay her? Horse hockey! She should have been paid when job was finished. She should Get her money and never work for this Low Life again unless you are paid in full, upfront.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Was payment discussed? Was a rate agreed on? Some people just don't pay they say hey can larla watch the kids tomorrow and you say yes. They assume it's free or they cross their fingers and hope it's free

Yep. A whole lot of cheap LBs in this area.

[Anonymous]

Well your nanny needs to bring it up. Not you. If you want to be PA about it though you could say "hey Jane. My sister wants to use Mary for a similar set up but wasn't sure she could afford it. What did you guys end up agreeing on for payment? I emailed her but haven't heard back yet and my sister keeps asking me! "

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Well your nanny needs to bring it up. Not you. If you want to be PA about it though you could say "hey Jane. My sister wants to use Mary for a similar set up but wasn't sure she could afford it. What did you guys end up agreeing on for payment? I emailed her but haven't heard back yet and my sister keeps asking me! "

So passive. No.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Well your nanny needs to bring it up. Not you. If you want to be PA about it though you could say "hey Jane. My sister wants to use Mary for a similar set up but wasn't sure she could afford it. What did you guys end up agreeing on for payment? I emailed her but haven't heard back yet and my sister keeps asking me! "

So passive. No.

Probably why she said if you wanted to be passive aggressive. Pretty sure she was kidding though.

[Anonymous]

Who set this up? You or the nanny?

If you set it up, or quasi set it up (put everyone in contact with each other, for example), I do think you owe it to your nanny to make a phone call.

It will be uncomfortable, but it's the right thing to do. Is there a chance the parents left the money out and the kid took it?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:She calls/texts and says "hi Karla, hope you're having a good week. Would it be ok if I swung by tomorrow to pick up my check for last week?"

This assumes it was a genuine oversight.

This.

Approach it professionally. The person who provided the service is the person who follows up on payment. Of course, if your neighbor refuses to pay then you might get involved on your nanny's behalf, but at this point it's the nanny's responsibility (presuming she agreed to this gig and set it up w/ the neighbor, not you.)

[Anonymous]

Did your nanny ask her first or is it up to you to receive payment, then pass it on to your nanny?

I would simply say to my neighbor, "Hi Ann...Nanny Susan had a lovely time caring for your child(ren) the other night & I'm sure would love to help you out in the future if needed...However she hasn't been compensated yet and I was wondering if you forgot or if there was some type of mix-up regarding conversation. Anyway, I'm sure whatever it is was an oversight + I just wanted to bring it up to you. Thanks so much."