Our nanny was robbed

[Anonymous]

Earlier this week, our nanny was robbed in her home and they took over a thousand dollars. She was pretty shaken up, and is in the process of trying to find a new place to live. Payday is tomorrow. Should I give her a little extra? That money probably meant quite a bit to her, whereas we could give her a couple extra hundred dollars and not miss it too much.

Just curious to get other perspectives on whether this is a good or bad idea.

[Anonymous]

I would not. Keep personal problems separate.

[Anonymous]

Yes, I would do my best to help her out as a gift.

If she rents, tell her to get renters insurance.

[Anonymous]

Human decency. Yes, I would help our nanny as much as we could in the given situation.


You have a good heart and will have good karma, OP. Don't let the bitter misers on this thread deter you from doing the decent thing to help a woman who loves and cares for your children.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Human decency. Yes, I would help our nanny as much as we could in the given situation.


You have a good heart and will have good karma, OP. Don't let the bitter misers on this thread deter you from doing the decent thing to help a woman who loves and cares for your children.

My nanny doesn't love my children. What an odd assumption.

[Anonymous]

Sure. If it is relatively easy for you to give the money (as a gift, not a loan in any way) I think it's a very thoughtful gesture that will hopefully pay off in the long-term relationship.

- MB

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Human decency. Yes, I would help our nanny as much as we could in the given situation.


You have a good heart and will have good karma, OP. Don't let the bitter misers on this thread deter you from doing the decent thing to help a woman who loves and cares for your children.

My nanny doesn't love my children. What an odd assumption.

I think it's odd that you think it's odd. Particularly with young children, most caregivers will form a loving bond. It's sad that your has not.

[Anonymous]

I also would help. You can tell her it's a little early holiday bonus (and then give her whatever you want in addition when the holidays do come) -- I might also ask her if she needs an advance on her pay for the next week or two, in case she was saving that for some bills coming due.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Human decency. Yes, I would help our nanny as much as we could in the given situation.


You have a good heart and will have good karma, OP. Don't let the bitter misers on this thread deter you from doing the decent thing to help a woman who loves and cares for your children.

My nanny doesn't love my children. What an odd assumption.

Shall we not assume that you love your children?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Earlier this week, our nanny was robbed in her home and they took over a thousand dollars. She was pretty shaken up, and is in the process of trying to find a new place to live. Payday is tomorrow. Should I give her a little extra? That money probably meant quite a bit to her, whereas we could give her a couple extra hundred dollars and not miss it too much.

Just curious to get other perspectives on whether this is a good or bad idea.

Please help her as much as you can. Sounds like she's been a good to your children.

[Anonymous]

I'd help too, and I'd also encourage her to get a safe deposit box to keep valuables in. Or at the very least, a locking fire proof box that bolts to the floor. I keep a fair amount of cash on hand too and this is a good reminder to me to hide my box better or get a safe deposit box or something.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Human decency. Yes, I would help our nanny as much as we could in the given situation.


You have a good heart and will have good karma, OP. Don't let the bitter misers on this thread deter you from doing the decent thing to help a woman who loves and cares for your children.

My nanny doesn't love my children. What an odd assumption.

Shall we not assume that you love your children?

I'm their mother. The nanny is not.

[Anonymous]

also help her open a low fee bank account - like M&I or capital one.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:also help her open a low fee bank account - like M&I or capital one.

I suspect OP's nanny is illegal and being paid under the table.

[Anonymous]

I would give her a dollar or two, nothing more than that