Unexpected (and unwanted) benefit of having a good nanny.

[Anonymous]

Our wonderful nanny has been with us for 21 months since DS was born. DH and I were on the fence about daycare vs nanny due to the expense but decided to go with a nanny for our baby. He loves his nanny and she has been wonderful with him.

Three months ago my mother was diagnosed with breast cancer. She and my Dad live 1.5 hours away from us. She had surgery, a round of chemo and radiation and needed me many nights after work and on weekends. DH works a lot and I needed him with me most of the time for physical (lifting my mother at times), driving and emotional support. I was a mess with worry and struggled to keep it together at work.

But the one thing I never had to worry about was my son. Nanny was there for him, took on the extra days and hours, and he was as comfortable with her as with DH and I. When I would tell him that Nanny was going to put him to bed that night he'd smile and say, "Yay!". His life was virtually unchanged. Nanny was also a wonderful comfort for me.

My mother has a great chance of beating this dreaded illness and it has been a tough road for our family but having our nanny made everything so much easier.

You never know what might happen. If you on on the fence like we were - go with a trusted and loving nanny.

[Anonymous]

Such awesome praise for your nanny. She's very lucky to have employers such as you and your husband to show her much gratitude and respect! Unfortunately, there are still many employers out here that don't do the same! You should always treat people the way you expect to be treated and never expect anyone can do anymore than you...including your Nanny!!

[Anonymous]

What was the "unwanted" benefit? DS loving your nanny and being put to bed by her vs. you? I was confused by your post.

[Anonymous]

She sounds like a real nanny.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:What was the "unwanted" benefit? DS loving your nanny and being put to bed by her vs. you? I was confused by your post.

My read is that OP would never have wanted or thoughT to plan for her mother's illness.

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Anonymous wrote:What was the "unwanted" benefit? DS loving your nanny and being put to bed by her vs. you? I was confused by your post.

My read is that OP would never have wanted or thoughT to plan for her mother's illness.

So her connection is when having a good nanny you also get the unwanted benefit of cancer? That's a pretty stupid connection to make.

[Anonymous]

I hope you show your apprecion where it counts--a large bonus.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I hope you show your apprecion where it counts--a large bonus.

+1 I'm sure your nanny loves your son and is happy to help, but please do not take her for granted. Maybe when all this is over (or sooner) try and give her a decent bonus and maybe a long 4 day weekend. I work for a family where the mother needed to be hospitalized for depression. I was so happy to help and I put in many extra hours and nights caring for their son, but I never even got a thank you and then I didn't even get a Christmas bonus from them when I had gotten one the year before. I was extremely hurt and didn't feel appreciated.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:What was the "unwanted" benefit? DS loving your nanny and being put to bed by her vs. you? I was confused by your post.

My read is that OP would never have wanted or thoughT to plan for her mother's illness.

So her connection is when having a good nanny you also get the unwanted benefit of cancer? That's a pretty stupid connection to make.

Reading is Fundamental. The unexpected benefit was how willing her nanny was to be dedicated enough to her job to accommodate the unfortunate circumstances of her mother's cancer.

Unlike the horrible nannies posting after who only care about bonuses.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:What was the "unwanted" benefit? DS loving your nanny and being put to bed by her vs. you? I was confused by your post.

My read is that OP would never have wanted or thoughT to plan for her mother's illness.

So her connection is when having a good nanny you also get the unwanted benefit of cancer? That's a pretty stupid connection to make.

Reading is Fundamental. The unexpected benefit was how willing her nanny was to be dedicated enough to her job to accommodate the unfortunate circumstances of her mother's cancer.

Unlike the horrible nannies posting after who only care about bonuses.

But she said it was unwanted. So why does she not want her nanny to be accommodating? Reading is fundamental hun.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:What was the "unwanted" benefit? DS loving your nanny and being put to bed by her vs. you? I was confused by your post.

My read is that OP would never have wanted or thoughT to plan for her mother's illness.

So her connection is when having a good nanny you also get the unwanted benefit of cancer? That's a pretty stupid connection to make.

Reading is Fundamental. The unexpected benefit was how willing her nanny was to be dedicated enough to her job to accommodate the unfortunate circumstances of her mother's cancer.

Unlike the horrible nannies posting after who only care about bonuses.

But she said it was unwanted. So why does she not want her nanny to be accommodating? Reading is fundamental hun.

I read it as the circumstances (which led to OP finding out exactly how awesome her nanny is) were unwanted. Geez, OP is going through a tough time right now with her mom's illness. Cut her a little slack on the awkward wording!

[Anonymous]

I already get paid a very fair price for my work, experience and dedication. The icing on the cake are the words of appreciation I get from my employers. The extra icing is my little guy. Can't bring myself to call him my charge. Just doesn't sound right.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:What was the "unwanted" benefit? DS loving your nanny and being put to bed by her vs. you? I was confused by your post.

My read is that OP would never have wanted or thoughT to plan for her mother's illness.

So her connection is when having a good nanny you also get the unwanted benefit of cancer? That's a pretty stupid connection to make.

Reading is Fundamental. The unexpected benefit was how willing her nanny was to be dedicated enough to her job to accommodate the unfortunate circumstances of her mother's cancer.

Unlike the horrible nannies posting after who only care about bonuses.

But she said it was unwanted. So why does she not want her nanny to be accommodating? Reading is fundamental hun.

I read it as the circumstances (which led to OP finding out exactly how awesome her nanny is) were unwanted. Geez, OP is going through a tough time right now with her mom's illness. Cut her a little slack on the awkward wording!

Well, that's not what it says, not even close.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:What was the "unwanted" benefit? DS loving your nanny and being put to bed by her vs. you? I was confused by your post.

Unwanted because she wished her mother didn't have breast cancer. No one wants an emergency like this.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:What was the "unwanted" benefit? DS loving your nanny and being put to bed by her vs. you? I was confused by your post.

Unwanted because she wished her mother didn't have breast cancer. No one wants an emergency like this.

Still doesn't make a lick of sense. An unwanted benefit of a good nanny is your mom having cancer.