nanny share advice
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Anonymous
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Nanny here:
What happens when the parents of one child won't put the baby (13 months) on a schedule? I have another 13 mo charge and during the week it's easiest (obviously) for them to be on the same schedule. The boys dropped morning naps about 4 months ago and have had no problem, but over the last few weeks the parents have been bringing the morning nap back on the weekend so they can get things done around the house. Additionally, they stopped feeding him finger foods and he is back to bottles, which makes him hungry way more often. It's been a nightmare to handle two babies on completely separate schedules. I've asked the parents to help me out, and they say they want to keep that schedule during the week but not on the weekend - so he completely reverts with food and naps on the weekend, which means I spend the first 3 days of each week with a baby that is miserable and trying to adjust. Any thoughts? |
Anonymous
| I would try again one more time, saying what you said here. However in my experience as a nanny, lazy selfish parents make terrible share families. At some point you're going to have to drawn a line, and they either get with it, get replaced, or you'll need to leave this share altogether. When you sign up for a share, you give up the right to unilaterally decide the schedule and routine. |
Anonymous
| unfortunately, I have said this to them...this is the second child for both families -- the older siblings are now in preschool full time so I don't have them, but I did have them both when they were infants. things went smoothly the first time around but they seem to be not as interested in my advice now that they are not first time parents |
Anonymous
| A 9 month old baby stopped napping completely? That doesn't even sound healthy. Babies need sleep the I brains develop so much during the first 2 years of their lives. |
Anonymous
| no. the babies dropped the MORNING nap |
Anonymous
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Ugh.
The best you can is to talk to the parents again + stress to them how much easier your job will be if they will try their best to maintain his schedule during the weekend. If they truly care about making your job easier, thus ensuring a happier baby they will comply. If they choose not to, then it is up to you if you can continue working for parents who honestly would put their own needs over their own child's. |
Anonymous
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If the child is having a short nap in the morning do something quiet with the other kid. His sleep is more important than making your life easier
-nanny |
Anonymous
| There is nothing you can do, Nanny. It is the parents' decision to make. Luckily, this stage will not last much longer. |
Anonymous
| Up your vitamin C and start working out to get fit, you need more energy to keep up with them. Little babies can really be a handful and it takes a special person with the right energy level to handle them. |
Anonymous
| Yeah, it's time to either tell them this is problem or just leave. I've been long term shares and when the families have their second child things start to fall apart. They become way to accustom to the nanny and get lazy about the parenting. It never works out well, someone will always fell resentful or stressed out. I'd move on to a new share. |
Anonymous
| ugh can the person telling every nanny to get fit go away? I'm so sick of her |
Anonymous
You either let the problem family go, or get a new job. That's all you can do at this point. |
Anonymous
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Unfortunately, there's not much you can do. They are going to do what the want to make their lives easier.
IT wouldn't be an issue if all your time could revolve around their child, but their is another child/ family to consider. Eventually, the other family won't be happy when their kid has to miss out on activities because the other child can't deal. It's also unlikey they will just pull out of a share when they need the savings. I would look for a one family job. |