Do you let your nanny wear your baby?

[Anonymous]

I have been with the same family since their first DS was born. I definitely got the feel then that MB did not want me to put the newborn in a carrier although she did on weekends. She just had another baby (is still home on maternity leave) but I will have both within the month. I can't see an easy way to handle a newborn who loves to be held and a 2.5 yr old without wearing the newborn.

Is baby-wearing considered a mother-only thing? Have any other nannies worn their infant charges?

[Anonymous]

Did you ever talk to her or just make assumptions?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Did you ever talk to her or just make assumptions?

It was a strong feeling I got with #1. And it wasn't necessary as he was the only one I had to care for and could (and did) carry him all the time.

[Anonymous]

I've always worn my charges in a carrier when they were young, and I've always been encouraged to do so. Perhaps ask your MB if she is comfortable with it, but I'd be leery of such a possessive/controlling MB.

[Anonymous]

I'd have no problem with this, assuming the nanny knew how to use the various wrap options well.

Just talk to your MB and explain that you expect it will be helpful to be able to wear the baby while playing with the toddler but you want to make sure she's comfortable with that.

Then she can say one way or another and if the answer is no she'll have to work with you to find other ways to manage both kids at the same time.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I've always worn my charges in a carrier when they were young, and I've always been encouraged to do so. Perhaps ask your MB if she is comfortable with it, but I'd be leery of such a possessive/controlling MB.

What new mother isn't possessive? Your MB is filled with raging hormones, exhausted and is probably miserable at the thought of leaving her newborn. However, few things are ever the same with the second as they were with the first baby. Your MB trusts you now and has learned that her place as mother hasn't been taken by you. She would most likely be more open to the idea now.

I actually don't think wearing a baby in a carrier is that personal but I do know mothers who think it is.

Ask her in a calm moment, OP.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:I've always worn my charges in a carrier when they were young, and I've always been encouraged to do so. Perhaps ask your MB if she is comfortable with it, but I'd be leery of such a possessive/controlling MB.

What new mother isn't possessive? Your MB is filled with raging hormones, exhausted and is probably miserable at the thought of leaving her newborn. However, few things are ever the same with the second as they were with the first baby. Your MB trusts you now and has learned that her place as mother hasn't been taken by you. She would most likely be more open to the idea now.

I actually don't think wearing a baby in a carrier is that personal but I do know mothers who think it is.

Ask her in a calm moment, OP.

Yes all new mothers are possessive, but to not want your baby carried by anyone else in a carrier, despite the fact that it would make it easier for their caregiver to do the best job possible, is on the extreme side. I've always worked for first time mothers, and most of them have more sense than that.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:I've always worn my charges in a carrier when they were young, and I've always been encouraged to do so. Perhaps ask your MB if she is comfortable with it, but I'd be leery of such a possessive/controlling MB.

What new mother isn't possessive? Your MB is filled with raging hormones, exhausted and is probably miserable at the thought of leaving her newborn. However, few things are ever the same with the second as they were with the first baby. Your MB trusts you now and has learned that her place as mother hasn't been taken by you. She would most likely be more open to the idea now.

I actually don't think wearing a baby in a carrier is that personal but I do know mothers who think it is.

Ask her in a calm moment, OP.

Yes all new mothers are possessive, but to not want your baby carried by anyone else in a carrier, despite the fact that it would make it easier for their caregiver to do the best job possible, is on the extreme side. I've always worked for first time mothers, and most of them have more sense than that.

I bet you don't have children, PP. You would understand if you did give birth to a child and then need to leave it with another woman after only a few weeks.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:I've always worn my charges in a carrier when they were young, and I've always been encouraged to do so. Perhaps ask your MB if she is comfortable with it, but I'd be leery of such a possessive/controlling MB.

What new mother isn't possessive? Your MB is filled with raging hormones, exhausted and is probably miserable at the thought of leaving her newborn. However, few things are ever the same with the second as they were with the first baby. Your MB trusts you now and has learned that her place as mother hasn't been taken by you. She would most likely be more open to the idea now.

I actually don't think wearing a baby in a carrier is that personal but I do know mothers who think it is.

Ask her in a calm moment, OP.

Yes all new mothers are possessive, but to not want your baby carried by anyone else in a carrier, despite the fact that it would make it easier for their caregiver to do the best job possible, is on the extreme side. I've always worked for first time mothers, and most of them have more sense than that.

I bet you don't have children, PP. You would understand if you did give birth to a child and then need to leave it with another woman after only a few weeks.

Stop it! Nannies have kids too. Stop it. You all look like fools every time you pull that line.

[Anonymous]

It shows a surprising amount of immaturity to just assume things OP. If you can't talk to your MB, you have big issues

[Anonymous]

I've worked almost exclusively for FTMs and have always been "allowed" to wear the babies. You obviously need to ask her, OP.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:I've always worn my charges in a carrier when they were young, and I've always been encouraged to do so. Perhaps ask your MB if she is comfortable with it, but I'd be leery of such a possessive/controlling MB.

What new mother isn't possessive? Your MB is filled with raging hormones, exhausted and is probably miserable at the thought of leaving her newborn. However, few things are ever the same with the second as they were with the first baby. Your MB trusts you now and has learned that her place as mother hasn't been taken by you. She would most likely be more open to the idea now.

I actually don't think wearing a baby in a carrier is that personal but I do know mothers who think it is.

Ask her in a calm moment, OP.

Yes all new mothers are possessive, but to not want your baby carried by anyone else in a carrier, despite the fact that it would make it easier for their caregiver to do the best job possible, is on the extreme side. I've always worked for first time mothers, and most of them have more sense than that.

I bet you don't have children, PP. You would understand if you did give birth to a child and then need to leave it with another woman after only a few weeks.

Stop it! Nannies have kids too. Stop it. You all look like fools every time you pull that line.

I am a nanny, Sweetie, and a mother -- and I guarantee that (in truth) whoever the woman is who posted the comment you are responding to does NOT have her own children.

[Anonymous]

My last MB didn't want me wearing her children. She said in a sort of nice way because I am busty she worried I'd kill her children and not notice. I can't make this shit up.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I've always worn my charges in a carrier when they were young, and I've always been encouraged to do so. Perhaps ask your MB if she is comfortable with it, but I'd be leery of such a possessive/controlling MB.

Agreee.

I'm an employer and my nanny wore our baby. Though seeing my nanny so close to my baby could be painful, I love my child enough to know that decisions are based upon what is best for my children not ME.

I suspect the MB in this situation can't get over herself.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:I've always worn my charges in a carrier when they were young, and I've always been encouraged to do so. Perhaps ask your MB if she is comfortable with it, but I'd be leery of such a possessive/controlling MB.

Agreee.

I'm an employer and my nanny wore our baby. Though seeing my nanny so close to my baby could be painful, I love my child enough to know that decisions are based upon what is best for my children not ME.

I suspect the MB in this situation can't get over herself.

Well said.