last day with nanny family after three years and...

[Anonymous]

Today is my last day with my NF after 3 years together. Although wealthy, they've never been particularly generous with me (Christmas bonus was only $50-$100, they gave me a card for my birthday every year but nothing else, etc). Their DS is entering preschool, so they don't need me anymore. I was given three weeks notice. I wasn't necessarily expecting much, but yesterday they had me deliver a nice gift to their sons music teacher (we'd been going to music classes together for two years); the gift they gave her was about $40 in value and very nice. I showed up today and was given a large envelope. Inside was a heartfelt note about how blessed they've been to have me, etc. There was a folded up piece of paper inside and I got really excited for a second. Then I realized it was my W-2 :/

So glad I'm never working for them again, at least!

[Anonymous]

MB here. Yeah, I'd be disappointed if I were you. They don't "owe" you anything but sending you off with something would have been the gracious, kind thing to do. That said, I suppose it is a matter of opinion and others may feel differently.

I hope you find a more generous/appreciative family next time.

[Anonymous]

Jeez that stinks OP.

I'm sorry.

MB

[Anonymous]

I also feel looked-over by the family I work for. (Dollar store items for my children aren't a nice thank-you for ME and aren't a holiday bonus!) I'm sorry. Read over the heart-felt message and try to remember those emotions are important that they're expressing. They'll be a good reference for you.

[Anonymous]

Wow, that sucks majorly.. I was advised my to lower my expectations at any job. It's helped me tremendously. That way I'm never disappointed.

[Anonymous]

What assholes! our nanny was gI've months notice (kindergarten ) starting) and we gave her an extra weeks pay in cash as a parting gift and we are not wealthy.

[Anonymous]

WOW that is so rude of them!!

[Anonymous]

If they were truly wealthy they would have been able to afford preschool half day plus you. Or kept you for after school care or household management while kid was at school. Unless you didn't want that role.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:If they were truly wealthy they would have been able to afford preschool half day plus you. Or kept you for after school care or household management while kid was at school. Unless you didn't want that role.

OP here. When they first told me they were thinking about preschool, around thanksgiving, they told me they were putting their son on the wait list for part time preschool in the mornings, and that I could watch him in the afternoons (which I said I was open to). They made it clear that would be only part time though, not full time. They told me at the same time "but more than likely he just won't start preschool until next fall anyway." Then, when they gave me my notice three weeks ago, they said "the preschool told us the only openings they had were full time, and we decided to go for it."

I know they are wealthy. They own three large luxury-brand vehicles, two of which were replaced with brand new models in the past year. They own three vineyards and their own nationally distributed brand of wine (this was all inherited by them). Their house is located in a very upscale and sought after neighborhood and is worth /at least/ a million dollars. Every single day they get boxes in the mail full of merchandise MB bought online from places like j.crew, and anthropologie, coach, etc. Once she left a box out that she had just opened up with the packing slip on top and I had a peek. She spent over $200 on a single throw blanket :/

I should also mention that they never paid me for sick days or even days they didn't use me because they were traveling, etc. The last two families I worked with always did, and we never had a contract or anything, so I was pretty shocked when this family just nonchalantly shrugged it off when I brought it up after their first vacation, three months after I began working with them. In hindsight I should've just quit right then, but I decided to stick with them...now obviously I wish I had quit sooner!

Clearly, they /could/ have afforded to treat me properly, they just chose not to.

I will say that I've often wondered if they just don't understand what it's like living on so little money, and that's why it never occurred to them to be more generous? Like, somehow they honestly thought they were being generous just by employing me at all and didn't realize just how royally they were screwing me over? Ehh regardless I can tell you all that I am extremely glad to be done with them. My new NF has already written up a contract including guaranteed hours, vacation pay, etc, and they told me they gave their last nanny 1-2 weeks salary for Xmas so hopefully my woes are behind me

[Anonymous]

You are never going to make any decent money being a nanny. Go to school and become a Pediatric RN where you will make a decent living.

[Anonymous]

Good luck with your new job, OP.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:If they were truly wealthy they would have been able to afford preschool half day plus you. Or kept you for after school care or household management while kid was at school. Unless you didn't want that role.

OP here. When they first told me they were thinking about preschool, around thanksgiving, they told me they were putting their son on the wait list for part time preschool in the mornings, and that I could watch him in the afternoons (which I said I was open to). They made it clear that would be only part time though, not full time. They told me at the same time "but more than likely he just won't start preschool until next fall anyway." Then, when they gave me my notice three weeks ago, they said "the preschool told us the only openings they had were full time, and we decided to go for it."

I know they are wealthy. They own three large luxury-brand vehicles, two of which were replaced with brand new models in the past year. They own three vineyards and their own nationally distributed brand of wine (this was all inherited by them). Their house is located in a very upscale and sought after neighborhood and is worth /at least/ a million dollars. Every single day they get boxes in the mail full of merchandise MB bought online from places like j.crew, and anthropologie, coach, etc. Once she left a box out that she had just opened up with the packing slip on top and I had a peek. She spent over $200 on a single throw blanket :/

I should also mention that they never paid me for sick days or even days they didn't use me because they were traveling, etc. The last two families I worked with always did, and we never had a contract or anything, so I was pretty shocked when this family just nonchalantly shrugged it off when I brought it up after their first vacation, three months after I began working with them. In hindsight I should've just quit right then, but I decided to stick with them...now obviously I wish I had quit sooner!

Clearly, they /could/ have afforded to treat me properly, they just chose not to.

I will say that I've often wondered if they just don't understand what it's like living on so little money, and that's why it never occurred to them to be more generous? Like, somehow they honestly thought they were being generous just by employing me at all and didn't realize just how royally they were screwing me over? Ehh regardless I can tell you all that I am extremely glad to be done with them. My new NF has already written up a contract including guaranteed hours, vacation pay, etc, and they told me they gave their last nanny 1-2 weeks salary for Xmas so hopefully my woes are behind me

"I was paid for my work. My employer is wealthy but didn't hand me free money and gifts. They are jerks. I should have quit and found a family I could exploit."

- This Nanny

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:If they were truly wealthy they would have been able to afford preschool half day plus you. Or kept you for after school care or household management while kid was at school. Unless you didn't want that role.

OP here. When they first told me they were thinking about preschool, around thanksgiving, they told me they were putting their son on the wait list for part time preschool in the mornings, and that I could watch him in the afternoons (which I said I was open to). They made it clear that would be only part time though, not full time. They told me at the same time "but more than likely he just won't start preschool until next fall anyway." Then, when they gave me my notice three weeks ago, they said "the preschool told us the only openings they had were full time, and we decided to go for it."

I know they are wealthy. They own three large luxury-brand vehicles, two of which were replaced with brand new models in the past year. They own three vineyards and their own nationally distributed brand of wine (this was all inherited by them). Their house is located in a very upscale and sought after neighborhood and is worth /at least/ a million dollars. Every single day they get boxes in the mail full of merchandise MB bought online from places like j.crew, and anthropologie, coach, etc. Once she left a box Iii OkI out that she had just opened up with the packing slip on top and I had a peek. She spent over $200 on a single throw blanket :/

I should also mention that they never paid me for sick days or even days they didn't use me because they were traveling, etc. The last two families I worked with always did, and we never had a contract or anything, so I was pretty shocked when this family just nonchalantly shrugged it off when I brought it up after their first vacation, three months after I began working with them. In hindsight I should've just quit right then, but I decided to stick with them...now obviously I wish I had quit sooner!

Clearly, they /could/ have afforded to treat me properly, they just chose not to.

I will say that I've often wondered if they just don't understand what it's like living on so little money, and that's why it never occurred to them to be more generous? Like, somehow they honestly thought they were being generous just by employing me at all and didn't realize just how royally they were screwing me over? Ehh regardless I can tell you all that I am extremely glad to be done with them. My new NF has already written up a contract including guaranteed hours, vacation pay, etc, and they told me they gave their last nanny 1-2 weeks salary for Xmas so hopefully my woes are behind me

"I was paid for my work. My employer is wealthy but didn't hand me free money and gifts. They are jerks. I should have quit and found a family I could exploit."

- This Nanny

Who is this troll that constantly yells at nannies for asking for normalcy? Guaranteed hours is part of most ft contracts. To not offer it is not ethical. All agency jobs that I've seen insist on it for their nannies. Stop being hateful.

[Anonymous]

Also, in many areas employees have been so exploited over sick leave, it's become a law. Being able to have sick pay should be a basic human right at any job. Go troll somewhere else.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:If they were truly wealthy they would have been able to afford preschool half day plus you. Or kept you for after school care or household management while kid was at school. Unless you didn't want that role.

OP here. When they first told me they were thinking about preschool, around thanksgiving, they told me they were putting their son on the wait list for part time preschool in the mornings, and that I could watch him in the afternoons (which I said I was open to). They made it clear that would be only part time though, not full time. They told me at the same time "but more than likely he just won't start preschool until next fall anyway." Then, when they gave me my notice three weeks ago, they said "the preschool told us the only openings they had were full time, and we decided to go for it."

I know they are wealthy. They own three large luxury-brand vehicles, two of which were replaced with brand new models in the past year. They own three vineyards and their own nationally distributed brand of wine (this was all inherited by them). Their house is located in a very upscale and sought after neighborhood and is worth /at least/ a million dollars. Every single day they get boxes in the mail full of merchandise MB bought online from places like j.crew, and anthropologie, coach, etc. Once she left a box Iii OkI out that she had just opened up with the packing slip on top and I had a peek. She spent over $200 on a single throw blanket :/

I should also mention that they never paid me for sick days or even days they didn't use me because they were traveling, etc. The last two families I worked with always did, and we never had a contract or anything, so I was pretty shocked when this family just nonchalantly shrugged it off when I brought it up after their first vacation, three months after I began working with them. In hindsight I should've just quit right then, but I decided to stick with them...now obviously I wish I had quit sooner!

Clearly, they /could/ have afforded to treat me properly, they just chose not to.

I will say that I've often wondered if they just don't understand what it's like living on so little money, and that's why it never occurred to them to be more generous? Like, somehow they honestly thought they were being generous just by employing me at all and didn't realize just how royally they were screwing me over? Ehh regardless I can tell you all that I am extremely glad to be done with them. My new NF has already written up a contract including guaranteed hours, vacation pay, etc, and they told me they gave their last nanny 1-2 weeks salary for Xmas so hopefully my woes are behind me

"I was paid for my work. My employer is wealthy but didn't hand me free money and gifts. They are jerks. I should have quit and found a family I could exploit."

- This Nanny

Who is this troll that constantly yells at nannies for asking for normalcy? Guaranteed hours is part of most ft contracts. To not offer it is not ethical. All agency jobs that I've seen insist on it for their nannies. Stop being hateful.

1) This nanny is an adult and signed a contract with this family that did not provide her guaranteed weekly pay. Too bad for her, she is not entitled to this. Most basic jobs that don't require any education or training (such as nannying) similarly won't pay you for days that you don't work, even if out of your control. Blizzard preventing anyone from coming into the call center? No work no pay. Office computers down and no one can do any work? Too bad, you can go home without pay. This is common in America. The jobs that pay you on salary are jobs that require education and experience and qualifications.

2) This nanny is also whining about not receiving ENOUGH gifts of a large enough value. She feels she is entitled to larger, more expensive, and more frequent gifts from her employer. How professional!