My employers are thoughtless jerks.

[Anonymous]

And thoughtless jerks never see themselves as thoughtless jerks. I'm sure my MB and DB think they are great employers. I take enormous pride in my work and I love my charge -- but I dislike and have no respect for the parents.

Just a short vent.

[Anonymous]

I'm sorry, OP. I've had a few thoughtless jerk bosses in my experience as a nanny and they do make the job less fulfilling and pleasant. I've never had a situation where I left a job because of the child or nature of the work -- I've always left because of the parents.

[Anonymous]

So quit. Doesn't seem good for anyone if at least one party has this kind of feeling about the other.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:So quit. Doesn't seem good for anyone if at least one party has this kind of feeling about the other.

Not OP but there are many reasons why a nanny (or any working person) cannot simply quit their job. Unlike most other jobs, as a nanny, the vast majority of our time is spent with the child/children in our care and very little time spent with our bosses. Disliking your boss as a nanny is unpleasant for maybe an hour or two a week all tolled. I don't care for my MB or DB either but it isn't a deal breaker as I love their children and enjoy my work with them.

[Anonymous]

No thoughtless jerk has ever realized he/she is a thoughtless jerk! Most thoughtless jerks see themselves as the all suffering victim in most instances. I've had wonderful employers and thoughtless jerk employers but I have never had a child in my care that I didn't love and feel devoted to their well-being.

[Anonymous]

Just like a tboughtless jerk doesn't realize they are jerks a person may not realize their feelings and attitude show through.
While you may love your charges and treat them well your feelings about their parents show through even if you don't think it does.

In a different. job not respectng your boss doesn't have the same impact.

If it's a hangup of your's try to let go. If it is something you can communicate to them and work out together ( yes together relationship issues are rarely one way) work it out.
Otherwise find a new job and give notice.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Just like a tboughtless jerk doesn't realize they are jerks a person may not realize their feelings and attitude show through.
While you may love your charges and treat them well your feelings about their parents show through even if you don't think it does.

In a different. job not respectng your boss doesn't have the same impact.

If it's a hangup of your's try to let go. If it is something you can communicate to them and work out together ( yes together relationship issues are rarely one way) work it out.
Otherwise find a new job and give notice.

Yes - this. All of it.

[Anonymous]

Here's the thing, venting on a public forum isn't going to do much besides solicit criticism. If you are unhappy to the point you need to vent and if it's frequently than it's time to find a new position. Bitching isn't going to change things, you need to actively do something about it. Either work on your communication with your employers or find a new job. I hate when people bitch and give all these stupid excuses for staying in miserable positions. You will love the next kids, you can find another job offering similar wage and benefits (it might just take awhile), you can move to a different area is positions are scarce, you can ask for support from family and friends. You can change your life if you are not happy. Things don't magically get better on there own. This isn't a Disney movie, no Prince charming or ferry godmother is going to change the situation for you. Work it out or take the steps to move into a better position. Until then, stop whining, Strangers don't care.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Here's the thing, venting on a public forum isn't going to do much besides solicit criticism. If you are unhappy to the point you need to vent and if it's frequently than it's time to find a new position. Bitching isn't going to change things, you need to actively do something about it. Either work on your communication with your employers or find a new job. I hate when people bitch and give all these stupid excuses for staying in miserable positions. You will love the next kids, you can find another job offering similar wage and benefits (it might just take awhile), you can move to a different area is positions are scarce, you can ask for support from family and friends. You can change your life if you are not happy. Things don't magically get better on there own. This isn't a Disney movie, no Prince charming or ferry godmother is going to change the situation for you. Work it out or take the steps to move into a better position. Until then, stop whining, Strangers don't care.

What a peach you are.

[Anonymous]

Just like a tboughtless jerk doesn't realize they are jerks a person may not realize their feelings and attitude show through.
While you may love your charges and treat them well your feelings about their parents show through even if you don't think it does.

In a different. job not respectng your boss doesn't have the same impact.

If it's a hangup of your's try to let go. If it is something you can communicate to them and work out together ( yes together relationship issues are rarely one way) work it out.
Otherwise find a new job and give notice.


Yes - this. All of it.

+1

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:And thoughtless jerks never see themselves as thoughtless jerks. I'm sure my MB and DB think they are great employers. I take enormous pride in my work and I love my charge -- but I dislike and have no respect for the parents.

Just a short vent.

Details, OP?

[Anonymous]

I feel that way about my employers at times too, OP. Being a nanny is hard work if you are doing it correctly and then, when the work day is done, and I'm getting ready to say good night to the little ones -- the mother comes home in a mood and sets everyone on edge. Her mood may or may not have something to do with me but the kids immediately start acting out and I leave feeling unappreciated and sad. It is so fricking tiresome. And talk about thoughtless jerks never knowing they are thoughtless jerks -- moody and entitled people NEVER think that they are moody or entitled. My MB never thinks that she is ever wrong in anything. In the last year, both of her underlings at her job have quit so I am not the only person who feels this way about her.

Why do I stay? I love the kids. Sorry if that is cliche but I am the only stable and consistent influence in their lives. (The DB runs around trying to please MB and ignores his children).

[Anonymous]

My employers can be thoughtless jerks, too.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I feel that way about my employers at times too, OP. Being a nanny is hard work if you are doing it correctly and then, when the work day is done, and I'm getting ready to say good night to the little ones -- the mother comes home in a mood and sets everyone on edge. Her mood may or may not have something to do with me but the kids immediately start acting out and I leave feeling unappreciated and sad. It is so fricking tiresome. And talk about thoughtless jerks never knowing they are thoughtless jerks -- moody and entitled people NEVER think that they are moody or entitled. My MB never thinks that she is ever wrong in anything. In the last year, both of her underlings at her job have quit so I am not the only person who feels this way about her.

Why do I stay? I love the kids. Sorry if that is cliche but I am the only stable and consistent influence in their lives. (The DB runs around trying to please MB and ignores his children).

There is no point in telling a narcissist that he/she is a narcissist as a symptom of being a narcissist is the inability to accept fault.

BTW, I hate MOODY PEOPLE. It's like living on egg-shells never knowing who is going to walk through the front door.

[Anonymous]

Details PLEASE!!!!!!

C'mon.

You cannot just leave us hanging like that OP.