Issues - DB is lazy and MB is always late:(.

[Anonymous]

Overall I like my employers but issues keep coming up that are becoming a problem.

1. They don't respect my time. Multiple times MB has been upwards of 1 hour late. I've had to miss class and other obligations. I am flexible with my schedule to an extent but this is occurring 2-3 times a week.

2. Not being relieved on time. My charge is a little difficult to put down but too young for sleep training. DB will come him while I'm putting my charge to bed. Instead of relieving me when it's 6:30pm, I will be there sometimes until 7:30 putting him down. When I come downstairs he is watching tv or playing a video game. Half of these times have been unpaid for staying late. This has happened at least 4 times.

3. Twice MB canceled on me so I was not paid for those days even though I'm guaranteed pay in my contract.

There a few minor things but these are the main issues. I've been there 3 months. MB has been late at least 7 times. She feels as long as I'm getting paid. I've had several talks explaining that I can't continuously stay late without notice. I also can't have them cancel and me not be paid.

[Anonymous]

Start looking for a new job now so you don't need to worry about using them as a reference.

[Anonymous]

You must demand to be paid your guaranteed hours. I don't have a contract but I assumed this was something my new employers understood when they set my hours - new parents can be clueless. They use their old babysitting model from when they were teenagers. Educated them and demand payment. I did and they seem to have greater respect for me.

I will assume that you are NEVER (and I mean not once) late for work. You won't have a leg to stand on otherwise on this issue. Be packed and ready to go the second MB/DB comes home and tell them that you have missed your class, tutoring session, doctor's appointment, picking your invalid grandmother up at the airport, and tell them directly that this cannot happen again. Do not be nice - don't be bitchy but do not say it is all right. I am never late and my employers were late a few times early on -- I let them know it was not okay. They are never late now.

As soon as you hear DB come home, be packed and ready to leave. Hand him the baby. Don't wait for him to come upstairs. Again, once when I was first starting with my current new parent family, I had to walk into the kitchen when they had company over and ask who wanted to take the baby.

Teach people how you want to be treated.

[Anonymous]

They are assholes. Find another job and learn to be assertive

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:You must demand to be paid your guaranteed hours. I don't have a contract but I assumed this was something my new employers understood when they set my hours - new parents can be clueless. They use their old babysitting model from when they were teenagers. Educated them and demand payment. I did and they seem to have greater respect for me.

I will assume that you are NEVER (and I mean not once) late for work. You won't have a leg to stand on otherwise on this issue. Be packed and ready to go the second MB/DB comes home and tell them that you have missed your class, tutoring session, doctor's appointment, picking your invalid grandmother up at the airport, and tell them directly that this cannot happen again. Do not be nice - don't be bitchy but do not say it is all right. I am never late and my employers were late a few times early on -- I let them know it was not okay. They are never late now.

As soon as you hear DB come home, be packed and ready to leave. Hand him the baby. Don't wait for him to come upstairs. Again, once when I was first starting with my current new parent family, I had to walk into the kitchen when they had company over and ask who wanted to take the baby.

Teach people how you want to be treated.

I've never been late. I'm always 5-10 minutes early. I've never turned down their request for me to stay later and I go out of my way to help out with additional tasks like emptying the dishwasher or wiping down a counter, etc. I've thought about being packed and ready to go but my charge eats at 6:15 in his room and them immediately after its his sleep routine. DB will come upstairs, kiss the baby, change and go back downstairs.

[Anonymous]

They are not treating you fairly. When DB comes upstairs to kiss the baby, stand up and say good night and leave.

He will get the message.

[Anonymous]

you need to leave. my NF family started coming home 5-10 minutes late every week or so and I never said anything, and five years later they are 20-30 minutes late on almost a daily basis, no pay, no apology. I did this to myself by not being assertive in the beginning and even though I've told them multiple times it's not okay, nothing has changed. it's sad, but it's why I'm looking for a new job. start the job off on the right foot, I promise you it's important

[Anonymous]

When db comes home, hand him the baby and leave. This will be easy if he comes upstairs, but even if he doesn't, go downstairs and hand him the baby, tell him where you are in the routine and then leave.

[nannydebsays]

Stop doing anything that isn't listed as your duty in your contract.

Stop agreeing to stay late.

Next time DB comes home, hand him the baby when it is time for you to leave.

Next time either DB or MB are late, do as was suggested above, and be ready to walk out as you tell them you have missed XYZ, and that you cannot keep staying late.

If you have specified hours in your contract, ask for a meeting and explain that you are ONLY able to work those specific hours, and that if you do happen to be able to work additional hours you need to be paid for each hour, including applicable OT.

If you have guaranteed hour language in your contract, let them know that you are not to be docked pay if they choose to let you go early of they choose to give you a day off.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Overall I like my employers but issues keep coming up that are becoming a problem.

1. They don't respect my time. Multiple times MB has been upwards of 1 hour late. I've had to miss class and other obligations. I am flexible with my schedule to an extent but this is occurring 2-3 times a week.

2. Not being relieved on time. My charge is a little difficult to put down but too young for sleep training. DB will come him while I'm putting my charge to bed. Instead of relieving me when it's 6:30pm, I will be there sometimes until 7:30 putting him down. When I come downstairs he is watching tv or playing a video game. Half of these times have been unpaid for staying late. This has happened at least 4 times.

3. Twice MB canceled on me so I was not paid for those days even though I'm guaranteed pay in my contract.

There a few minor things but these are the main issues. I've been there 3 months. MB has been late at least 7 times. She feels as long as I'm getting paid. I've had several talks explaining that I can't continuously stay late without notice. I also can't have them cancel and me not be paid.

Don't they run a time sheet, when you show up and when you leave.? It should be obvious then and wages paid accordingly. Just keep it professional, demand that start.
ALso, did they say upfront "be available from 8 until 8 and most days you will leave at 5 or 6?" Or something else? Many families set expectations (i.e. guarantee till 4pm, sometimes arrive at 5 or 6pm) but record it daily. Unless you are paid a fixed amount per day, then win some, lose some.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Overall I like my employers but issues keep coming up that are becoming a problem.

1. They don't respect my time. Multiple times MB has been upwards of 1 hour late. I've had to miss class and other obligations. I am flexible with my schedule to an extent but this is occurring 2-3 times a week.

2. Not being relieved on time. My charge is a little difficult to put down but too young for sleep training. DB will come him while I'm putting my charge to bed. Instead of relieving me when it's 6:30pm, I will be there sometimes until 7:30 putting him down. When I come downstairs he is watching tv or playing a video game. Half of these times have been unpaid for staying late. This has happened at least 4 times.

3. Twice MB canceled on me so I was not paid for those days even though I'm guaranteed pay in my contract.

There a few minor things but these are the main issues. I've been there 3 months. MB has been late at least 7 times. She feels as long as I'm getting paid. I've had several talks explaining that I can't continuously stay late without notice. I also can't have them cancel and me not be paid.

Don't they run a time sheet, when you show up and when you leave.? It should be obvious then and wages paid accordingly. Just keep it professional, demand that start.
ALso, did they say upfront "be available from 8 until 8 and most days you will leave at 5 or 6?" Or something else? Many families set expectations (i.e. guarantee till 4pm, sometimes arrive at 5 or 6pm) but record it daily. Unless you are paid a fixed amount per day, then win some, lose some.

My hours are M-TH, 7:30-6:30. There are times MB has dismissed me early so that is why guaranteed hours were put into place. Anything over 40 hours is OT. Our contract states there may be additional nights but that would be given a 3 day notice. We have not find a time sheet because hours were supoose to be typical. That hasn't been the case though. Even if MB lets me go at 6. I'm paid for 7:30-6, not the full hour like guaranteed. I've brought this up but MB said they will fix it but never do.

[Anonymous]

That sounds like a nightmare. You have to leave. If this is what is going on after 3 months, I can only imagine what things will be like a year from now.

[Anonymous]

These are not minor issues OP.

These are deal-breakers in my book.

I couldn't deal w/this wishy washy family.

It would just be too stressful for me.

Unless you are getting paid a pretty penny for all this stress, I strongly advise you to seek another position ASAP.

[Anonymous]

I'm one of the PPs and after reading your latest statement, you need to leave asap

[Anonymous]

I would never treat my nanny like this. The few times that I've been late (e.g., stuck in traffic b/c of a bad accident on the highway 1/2 hr late this week) I've always paid the nanny OT. They are taking advantage of you. I always ask myself how I would want to be treated if the situation were reversed and that is how I treat our nanny.

Please look for a new job as soon as possible.

Good luck,
MB