WWYD? Thinking of letting nanny go..
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Anonymous
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I really don't want to because my son seems to enjoy her alot! But he really needs interaction with child(ren) his age. He is 2 years old and behind in social skills and other cognitive skills. He But he is still really smart and the sweetest boy ever. He would absolutely love another little kid to run around with all day!
I initially hired my nanny 8 months ago and part of the reason is because she had a child my son's age and I mentioned the fact it would be great to have her daughter come over and interact with him at least once a week. However a few weeks after she was hired she informed me that she would not be coming unless it was an emergency because her grandmother watches her and enjoys that time with her, also her daughter is clingy and she wants to be fully focused on my son (which I understand and appreciate). I cannot afford to send my toddler to preschool (2 year old class) part time during the week and still pay for a nanny (we have an infant that requires care as well). Do I let nanny go and find someone able to bring their child with them to work (for reasons mentioned above)? In a year from now our finances will be different and we will definitely be able to have both a nanny and do part time preschool. Should I just wait? I just feel like my son is missing out on so much opportunity not getting the interaction he needs by other toddlers. |
Anonymous
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Does the nanny get out with the children or are they mostly in the house? You should look into a mommy and me preschool program through the community centers or even just a toddler class once a week too. That way you can keep your nanny, get socialization, and keep the costs lowish.
However I would wonder why the nanny wouldn't want to spend time with her daughter during the week....kind of strange don't you think? |
Anonymous
| nanny share? |
Anonymous
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I don't understand why she isn't taking him to the park every single day, and to libraries, children's museums, and other places teaming with children.
My 2 yr old goes to these places every single day. She spends at LEAST three hours every single weekday playing with other kids. |
Anonymous
+1. I frankly find very weird that OP is upset because her nanny does not bring her daughter to work, as if the nanny's child is the only source of social interaction with kids for her son. the nanny should take her child every day to the playground and the local library, where the child can play with other kids |
Anonymous
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OP,
This is silly. If your nanny is doing a good job otherwise you should not let her go. My nanny has met other nannies in the neighborhood through story hour at the local library and at the park. She's arranged playdates for my daughter before she started part time preschool this year. I think it helped a lot. Your nanny should be able to do something like this for your son if she isn't able to bring her daughter around. |
Anonymous
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Let's back up to the part where you have a 2-year-old and an infant, and you think your kids would get BETTER care if you found someone who was also bringing ANOTHER toddler into the mix.
How old is the infant, OP? The nanny may be more willing to go on outings/story time/etc. once the baby is on a good schedule, but she may also be avoiding those things because she has an infant and it is RSV season. You need to have a general sit-down discussion about your concerns for your 2-year-old's social development and make a plan together for addressing it. |
Anonymous
| OP, are you the nanny worried you're going to get fired? |
Anonymous
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OP, I hate to say this, but I think that if she was bringing her daughter initially and now is not, the problem may be that your son's delays in social and cognitive skills made the mix too hard. Maybe the kids didn't play well together and she felt like she couldn't really discipline your son. Maybe her daughter was bored, and was acting out.
I agree that it is a little odd that she would never want to bring the daughter, and that she's staying in all day. My guess is that the two nap schedules make planning outings difficult, and that perhaps managing your son and an infant is more work than you give her credit for. That said, she needs to help you work on socializing your son since that sounds like something crucial for his development, and if she's not willing to do it, you may need to find something else. |
Anonymous
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I have noticed this family probably doesn't want to pay the nanny well, hence if she brings her daughter the pay would be much cheaper.
It's better for the nanny for her grandma to keep her. I agree OP already has a 2 year old plus a baby it is silly to want to add anothet child in the mix! The child is most likey behind because she hired s babysitter not a proper nanny who knows how to teach children. My kids were not even two they know their colors, how to spell.their names, recognition all upper and lower case alphabets.As well as their shapes, body parts and some numbers. My kids have always been well prepared for preschool before they hit the classroom. As a parent you have to take time to teach them as well! |
Anonymous
| At two, you are overthinking it. I would wait a year and start day care at 3. |
Anonymous
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MB here. Don't worry so much about your toddler's stimulation, especially with an infant to manage also.
Do work with the nanny to find things she can do with the kids that are feasible and give the toddler some interactions- storyhour at the local library is a great one. Do you have a neighborhood listserv? Ask if there are other families w/ nannies and similar aged kids with whom your nanny could have occasional playdates. That will be more than enough for this year. |
Anonymous
I'm surprised it took so long for someone to post a troll thread like this. But hey, let's play. OP, you are pretty silly if you think it's a good idea to allow a nanny to bring her child to work. There is no upside for you. Socialization? Have the nanny take him to activities, playdates, libraries and parks. If that isn't enough, place him in daycare and forget the nanny. Allowing a nanny to bring a kid to work doesn't benefit you. You need to pay more in insurance to cover liability for this extra child. You need to accept that you are paying a premium for a nanny who will not/ cannot put your child's needs above all else. Face it, if her child needs are different than yours, hers will win out. You are better off in a nanny share with another family. However, if you insist on thinking that bringing a child is a great idea, make sure you pay the going rate for a nanny share, that you factor in your additional insurance costs and that you don't provide supplies for the nanny's child. |
Anonymous
| I bring my daughter to my nanny job where it's with a boy her age and it's been working out great! |
Anonymous
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^^^^^
No one says it couldn't work, some nannies do it and don't mind getting paid less. Employers that want this set up doesn't want to pay the nanny the going rate. Next thing you know the nanny realizes she can't live on this income alone. Then you will see the same employers posting for another child to join in a nanny share. Check out the nanny share section and you will see examples there |