Is it wrong to quit after 3 weeks?

[Anonymous]

I started with a new family 3 weeks ago the children are 4 and 6. I haven't been with that age group since my first nanny job years ago after I left daycare. I have been caring mostly for babies and toddlers since then.

I am completely worn out I don't think it's a good match. It's constant whining and tantrums all the time, constant fighting, and the kids have zero manners just demands etc.

Like today was a tantrum because I thought we'd change it up and go to the playground. What kid doesn't like the playground? They'd rather watch TV. Which they only get 1 hour of TV ( parents rules) and when I enforce that it's another tantrum.

I'm exhausted.

Parents are no help they just give into the kids.

Total opposite of the impression they gave when I interviewed.

[Anonymous]

Probably need to give notice.

[Anonymous]

Story.of.my.life....they will.not.change...i.have tried.everything...good.luck

[Anonymous]

I do agree parental support is vital

That said instead of quitting maybe use it as an opportunity to hone your skills.

[Anonymous]

It's almost Friday and I hope I get fired, so I don't have to be the one to back out.

[Anonymous]

3 weeks? I don't think I can make it that long I'm in my first week and I want to quit.

[Anonymous]

Get your pay and leave without saying anything.
They lied to you at the interview, they don't deserve you let them know you're leaving.

[Anonymous]

The kids could be handling the transition badly. While going to the park is great, the kids might feel better about sticking to their routine.

Al;so our kids can be a bit like this. In particular, they can't handle TV at some times of day, it seems to make them grumpy.

Maybe you can talk to the parents? Perhaps you can suggest that you would like to eventually change things up a bit so that there is a bit more outdoors time and less TV time, if they are on board with that.

I think that it could be short-sighted to quit if there is a chance to make this work. And if things don't change and you do eventually leave, at least you can say that you took a professioal approach and genuinely tried to turn things around.

[Anonymous]

OP you may have to consider this a lesson learned. It sounds like you are no so good with this age group. Children can sense your discomfort and it stresses them out as well.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:OP you may have to consider this a lesson learned. It sounds like you are no so good with this age group. Children can sense your discomfort and it stresses them out as well.

No it's not the age group it's these particular children, and their parents not a good fit.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:The kids could be handling the transition badly. While going to the park is great, the kids might feel better about sticking to their routine.

Al;so our kids can be a bit like this. In particular, they can't handle TV at some times of day, it seems to make them grumpy.

Maybe you can talk to the parents? Perhaps you can suggest that you would like to eventually change things up a bit so that there is a bit more outdoors time and less TV time, if they are on board with that.

I think that it could be short-sighted to quit if there is a chance to make this work. And if things don't change and you do eventually leave, at least you can say that you took a professioal approach and genuinely tried to turn things around.

When I was hired one thing the parents stressed is that they want less TV for the kids I thought we were on the same page I've been trying to wean them off TV but as soon as one of the kids pitches a fit it's back to square one with the parents.

I'm starting to think they are of the attactment style no boundary style philosophy which is fine just not a good match for me at all.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I started with a new family 3 weeks ago the children are 4 and 6. I haven't been with that age group since my first nanny job years ago after I left daycare. I have been caring mostly for babies and toddlers since then.

I am completely worn out I don't think it's a good match. It's constant whining and tantrums all the time, constant fighting, and the kids have zero manners just demands etc.

Like today was a tantrum because I thought we'd change it up and go to the playground. What kid doesn't like the playground? They'd rather watch TV. Which they only get 1 hour of TV ( parents rules) and when I enforce that it's another tantrum.

I'm exhausted.

Parents are no help they just give into the kids.

Total opposite of the impression they gave when I interviewed.

Ugh spoiled little rich kid syndrome. I don't do tantrums once you have words and can express what you do or do not want without falling out tantrums are not allowed I don't encourage them in 2 year olds either. This nanny don't got time for that.

[Anonymous]

I had a job like that and I quit over text after 3 weeks as soon as the check cleared. For almost two weeks I tried to explain to the parents that one of their 4 year old twins did not listen to me at all. I felt uncomfortable leaving the home with the kids because I felt like I had no control over the one twin. The twin would whine and scream for HOURS if she did not get what she wanted. All the parents would do is baby her when they got home. I maybe would have stayed if she was the only kid I had to take care of, but I also had to care for the other twin and a 15 month old.

[Anonymous]

My day ended yesterday after the park tantrum,,, the 6 year old tantrum because I wouldn't let him eat junk food all afternoon, both having tantrums because I asked them to put their shoes in the basket y the door and not to jump on the couch, the 4 year old having a melt down over nap time

The day ended with another tantrum this time because I put the 4 year old's milk in the wrong cup ( didn't realize there was a right one) and because her milk wasn't warm ( didn't realize she needed it warm) she goes on a screaming fit and tries to kick me all because I ask her to ask in a kinder voice if she wanted a new cup and warm milk

Mom enters as this is happening. I explain the situation. What does she do picks the girl up cuddles her like she's an infant and says"oh well she does like her milk warm."

Can't fix clueless.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:My day ended yesterday after the park tantrum,,, the 6 year old tantrum because I wouldn't let him eat junk food all afternoon, both having tantrums because I asked them to put their shoes in the basket y the door and not to jump on the couch, the 4 year old having a melt down over nap time

The day ended with another tantrum this time because I put the 4 year old's milk in the wrong cup ( didn't realize there was a right one) and because her milk wasn't warm ( didn't realize she needed it warm) she goes on a screaming fit and tries to kick me all because I ask her to ask in a kinder voice if she wanted a new cup and warm milk

Mom enters as this is happening. I explain the situation. What does she do picks the girl up cuddles her like she's an infant and says"oh well she does like her milk warm."

Can't fix clueless.

Ha and I love how parents think this is normal behavior. Kids will have tantrums but by 4 and 6 the parents should have taught them a routine for dealing with there feeling. I worked for one family where the boy would communicate to me that he was going to have a tantrum and then go to his room until he calmed down. Then he would come out and talk to me about his feelings and what set him off. Now that is good parenting. By 4 and 6 violent tantrums are not acceptable.