My wife finally drove the nanny to quit!

[Anonymous]

Doesn’t matter who thinks who is right or wrong. Bottom line - a nanny will quit under horrible circumstances. Learn to treat each other with respect or you will never keep a nanny.

[Anonymous]

+ 100!

[Anonymous]

let me say this. AS a nanny if the parent is home and wants to micromanage the nanny then the parent needs to simply take care of their kids. That is a hard no if you are paying someone to take care of your kids and you work from home. I will simply not work that day if a parent is home and wants to micromanage. Period! it makes the nanny job harder than it has to be.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:let me say this. AS a nanny if the parent is home and wants to micromanage the nanny then the parent needs to simply take care of their kids. That is a hard no if you are paying someone to take care of your kids and you work from home. I will simply not work that day if a parent is home and wants to micromanage. Period! it makes the nanny job harder than it has to be.

Stop trying to resurrect old threads because you’re bored.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Ladies. No clue that I would find this thread now; believe it or not.. I just went for almost same situation a couple a months ago. Thankfully since day #1 I new I should had to move on, as long as I would find my right fit. It was the worse scenario which in the interview I was never told. They were not honest with me in the interview; since when I asked, they said they will have their own spaces or set office to work and never said I will have the 2 parents working in the dinning table-kitchen and grandmother living permanently with them; sitting all day in the living room; micromanaging every single move I was doing with their toddler. Can you imagine? No playroom, no basement, no toys in toddler room. Four adults plus a toddler share same open space.

So I have three people on my back those 8 hours; sharing the same open space. They never were nice and kind, the grandmother always yelling at me and asking me to do housekeeping chores; treating me like their maid. I was there only for 1 week and preferred keep looking my right fit and happily moved on. But let me tell you a big and nice lesson that I learned bcs of my own experience. I will never ever work for a foreign family again. Please sorry if I say that; since I don't want to offend anyone. Bcs this was the worst experience that I had overall; due to the way they treat a nanny, the way they micromanage and the way they raise their kids; and mainly the lack of trust and lack of respect that I got from them, during those days.

It's a huge difference with the wonderfull experiences that I have always had working for American Families; who always have been nice and kind. To nannies whom had same experiences like me; I won't say where this family was from; but for nannies who read this, I'm sure they already know what I'm talking about.

I just wanted to share my experience with you guys; and everytime when I think back I feel so happy and so grateful that I found a great American Family; whom always treat me with respect, are nice and kind and mainly give me my own space to work with my charges; even though one of the parents works from home.

Believe me ladies, I have always nanny friends who used to tell their bad and sad stories working with these kind of foreign families; but I had never experienced in my own skin this. And sadly my friends were not lying. So now I can breathe very happy and my eyes lights up everyday at work to see my adorable charges and the great Family that I found. I feel like a won the lottery and feel so lucky to work for them.

So to OP. A little advice that I can give you guys; talk with your wife openly and very honest to each other; and if you have the chance to get a new nanny; be grateful to have her; let her do her job and don't micronage her. And mainly work in set offices-room with doors closed. Set clearly expectations and set nice boundaries and everything will be great. If your wife it's not open to do that; sorry to tell you but this will never work out if you want to keep a great nanny with you. Good luck.

I mean…aren’t you foreign yourself? Your post is full of typos and grammatical errors. So you see the way you generalize about all foreign families, what if I generalized about all foreign nannies teaching my kids broken English? It’s a slippery slope, and shame on you for your prejudice.
Fwiw, I am a foreign mom with a foreign nanny from a different continent than me, all living in the US. We get along great, and yes, I am home all day too. No grandmas around though, thank goodness

I don't think the PP meant to to say it the way you wanted interpreted. It's your business if you want to take it like that and you are dying to keep it for yourself. Shame of you too for being so Judgemental about thinking she was generalizing. For respect to others; I understand she didn't want to mention exactly where this typical Foreign Families come from. But I do believe her; since she was not the only one who have gone through the same experience Every single person talks about her own experiences. But I also do believe, no all the Foreign families are like that; nut I do believe and I do know what this nanny menat to say and probably I can guess where that family she was talking about came from.

Bad grammar tells me this is the OP, nanny, and troll posting again.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Ladies. No clue that I would find this thread now; believe it or not.. I just went for almost same situation a couple a months ago. Thankfully since day #1 I new I should had to move on, as long as I would find my right fit. It was the worse scenario which in the interview I was never told. They were not honest with me in the interview; since when I asked, they said they will have their own spaces or set office to work and never said I will have the 2 parents working in the dinning table-kitchen and grandmother living permanently with them; sitting all day in the living room; micromanaging every single move I was doing with their toddler. Can you imagine? No playroom, no basement, no toys in toddler room. Four adults plus a toddler share same open space.

So I have three people on my back those 8 hours; sharing the same open space. They never were nice and kind, the grandmother always yelling at me and asking me to do housekeeping chores; treating me like their maid. I was there only for 1 week and preferred keep looking my right fit and happily moved on. But let me tell you a big and nice lesson that I learned bcs of my own experience. I will never ever work for a foreign family again. Please sorry if I say that; since I don't want to offend anyone. Bcs this was the worst experience that I had overall; due to the way they treat a nanny, the way they micromanage and the way they raise their kids; and mainly the lack of trust and lack of respect that I got from them, during those days.

It's a huge difference with the wonderfull experiences that I have always had working for American Families; who always have been nice and kind. To nannies whom had same experiences like me; I won't say where this family was from; but for nannies who read this, I'm sure they already know what I'm talking about.

I just wanted to share my experience with you guys; and everytime when I think back I feel so happy and so grateful that I found a great American Family; whom always treat me with respect, are nice and kind and mainly give me my own space to work with my charges; even though one of the parents works from home.

Believe me ladies, I have always nanny friends who used to tell their bad and sad stories working with these kind of foreign families; but I had never experienced in my own skin this. And sadly my friends were not lying. So now I can breathe very happy and my eyes lights up everyday at work to see my adorable charges and the great Family that I found. I feel like a won the lottery and feel so lucky to work for them.

So to OP. A little advice that I can give you guys; talk with your wife openly and very honest to each other; and if you have the chance to get a new nanny; be grateful to have her; let her do her job and don't micronage her. And mainly work in set offices-room with doors closed. Set clearly expectations and set nice boundaries and everything will be great. If your wife it's not open to do that; sorry to tell you but this will never work out if you want to keep a great nanny with you. Good luck.

I mean…aren’t you foreign yourself? Your post is full of typos and grammatical errors. So you see the way you generalize about all foreign families, what if I generalized about all foreign nannies teaching my kids broken English? It’s a slippery slope, and shame on you for your prejudice.
Fwiw, I am a foreign mom with a foreign nanny from a different continent than me, all living in the US. We get along great, and yes, I am home all day too. No grandmas around though, thank goodness

I don't think the PP meant to to say it the way you wanted interpreted. It's your business if you want to take it like that and you are dying to keep it for yourself. Shame of you too for being so Judgemental about thinking she was generalizing. For respect to others; I understand she didn't want to mention exactly where this typical Foreign Families come from. But I do believe her; since she was not the only one who have gone through the same experience Every single person talks about her own experiences. But I also do believe, no all the Foreign families are like that; nut I do believe and I do know what this nanny menat to say and probably I can guess where that family she was talking about came from.

Bad grammar tells me this is the OP, nanny, and troll posting again.

Ohhh we didn't know, you are here to judge other's grammar. At least you understood what PP said right lol. Clearly you don't have anything productive to do; since you love bringing up very old threads of almost 6 months ago; just to judge and post negative comments.

[Anonymous]

I nannied for a work at home mother who never hardly even looked at me throughout the day and treated me like the help, rather than a part of the family (nearly full time). It was awful. The father seemed kind but the mother would go in her office and talk badly about me. Apparently. I didn’t realize this was occurring until one morning after I set the infant down for her nap. I did it the way you’d typically do it . Maybe the blinds weren’t at the exact angle she wanted and the blanket wasn’t at the exact CORNER of my SHOULDER she would have had it on hers, but I did it properly. baby had nothing in the crib, etc. But she gave me dirty looks often. so afterward I heard mumbling from mom’s office and when I sat in their upstairs living area I heard comments like “she and then more stuff being said filled in here____”…. and “she just needs to improve on some stuff I’m not trying to be mean…” (when she was.) I actually had not put the baby down or anything yet. Sorry I was grabbing her from her nap (end of nap)… so I took R down the stairs and at least gave her to dad, absolutely sobbing because I can’t believe my employer would behave in such a negative way behind my back about me, and I did exit the residence said sorry to the father and got in my car to leave. the mother had chased me down and tried to get me to go back in to talk to them and I was really tempted to just take off. Tbh. but I did. It wasn’t that productive, but I did.





she did not write out the cleaning expectations so I simulated what she did for cleaning and I thought given they had a maid I did a DAMN good job keeping the home spotless until the maid would come. I cleaned her HIGH CHAIR. SPOT DEEP CLEANED. but the mother was still upset because she wanted me to feed her baby puréed food and not get any at all on her shirt. The bib shifts around so some did. Mom glared, huffed and puffed, etc. Worst nanny experience. reminded me of one of my high school bullies.

So I for the most part have had experiences more like this with nanny parents. no thanks.