Au pair marriage

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Our wonderful au pair has been dating her boyfriend for over a year and they’ve begun discussing marriage. We support her and her boyfriend is a good guy. Can anyone who has navigated this with their au pairs give any advice? They are planning to get married at the end of her time with us (July) and she would like to keep working (as a babysitter) if it works out, which we would be happy to do. She was likely to be our last ap anyway as our kids are getting older, and she’s been such a wonderful ap it would be hard to follow her.

Please please please have her consult an immigration attorney. There is some room for error here and this is a carry specialized area of law. A mistake could get her barred from the country for up to ten years.

Thanks - she is! Had a meeting yesterday and is going to have him help facilitate this. She definitely doesn’t want to mess it up.

[Anonymous]

My work authorization came in within 6 months; likely your AP would have to wait until then and/or she finds a fam that pays her cash.

[Anonymous]

I’m an American and was an au pair for a summer in a foreign country. I loved the idea of falling in love with someone in that country especially if it led to marriage and another option to live permanently in another country. A lot of my American friends who studied abroad ended up meeting and marrying someone and got dual citizenship - for young people it’s a romantic concept and opens additional doors to live in other countries. I have no problem with people gaining citizenship in the US because we certainly benefit. As a millennial I’ve accepted that I won’t get my full social security since we aren’t able to fully fund it with our current population growth - we need immigrants. Rant over.

[Anonymous]

Our au pair from 5 years ago got married and she just had her first baby. This is an ideal outcome, IMO. Its like having a younger sister and it's been great for our family that she stayed in the US.

[Anonymous]

I’m not sure why this is complicated. My sister married a Ukrainian guy who was here in a J1 visa. He was the lifeguard at her pool. He overstated his visa, she married him and they live happily ever after. Sure thetr was paperwork and a bullshit interview, but she essentially married someone who was here illegally at that point. This was 16 years ago though..

[Anonymous]

I was on a student visa during a semester abroad in Brazil when I was 21. I almost stayed to marry my Brazilian boyfriend but I would have had to relinquish my US citizenship. I couldn't do that. That was 2 decades ago and we are still in regular touch. It is so wonderful to be that AP age and have it work out.

[Anonymous]

2 of our 6 APs got married and are still here in the US. One is back somehow and we do not ask questions. It happens a lot.