Nanny sleeps in front of me

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Anonymous wrote:Who are all these people sleeping during the day? If I'm feeling so poorly that I have to sleep during the day then I need to be home in bed and not working. Your nanny is odd and way out of line.

Their people that work full time and should be allowed a break like any other job, except they can't leave. How they use the break or little downtime is their business. You have to keep in mind that most nannies that are employed by people that work full time will have to work 10-13 hours a day. On my last job with an infant I only worked 9 hrs per day so I didn't really feel tired at all. But if I just needed to I only did it in his room while he was sleep and I was in the rocking chair and no longer than 15 minutes because I'd get groggy. However now I work 7:30-6:30 and have a half hour commute each way. I have older kids, my 3 yr old naps 2 hours, his 6 yr old sister doesn't nap anymore but mb tells me to make her stay in her room and entertain herself with quiet activities. Most of the resting time I'm cleaning up art and lunch messes, preparing my lunch, and then eating. By the time finished I may have 15-20 minutes I can just chill out. Then I bring her out to help with things and practice writing and math etc while I complete other chores.

Yep, life with a charge over 3.5 or 4 years old means no more paid naps in the afternoons!

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Who are all these people sleeping during the day? If I'm feeling so poorly that I have to sleep during the day then I need to be home in bed and not working. Your nanny is odd and way out of line.

Their people that work full time and should be allowed a break like any other job, except they can't leave. How they use the break or little downtime is their business. You have to keep in mind that most nannies that are employed by people that work full time will have to work 10-13 hours a day. On my last job with an infant I only worked 9 hrs per day so I didn't really feel tired at all. But if I just needed to I only did it in his room while he was sleep and I was in the rocking chair and no longer than 15 minutes because I'd get groggy. However now I work 7:30-6:30 and have a half hour commute each way. I have older kids, my 3 yr old naps 2 hours, his 6 yr old sister doesn't nap anymore but mb tells me to make her stay in her room and entertain herself with quiet activities. Most of the resting time I'm cleaning up art and lunch messes, preparing my lunch, and then eating. By the time finished I may have 15-20 minutes I can just chill out. Then I bring her out to help with things and practice writing and math etc while I complete other chores.

Yep, life with a charge over 3.5 or 4 years old means no more paid naps in the afternoons!

I don't know where you got that from my post because I certainly could if I wanted to. And if you're being snarky with your little "paid naps" remark think about other jobs that have "paid breaks" or no "paid breaks" where you can actually leave to run an errand or have lunch with a friend.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I encourage my nanny to nap during the day. She takes care of another baby from 6:30-8:30 in the morning, and is with us from 9-6. That is a very long day. And when I go downstairs to get stuff from the kitchen while she's sleeping, I definitely make an effort to be quiet.

That said, I love our nanny, and I don't have any other complaints about her. Sounds like you might be less than thrilled with yours? Often that makes stuff seem annoying even when it wouldn't be annoying otherwise.

I am less than thrilled.

But now that you mention it, mine only works 6 hours a day. Not long days chasing my child around.

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I work 12-13 hour days as a nurse, on my feet constantly being incredibly physical (way more active than I ever was with twin toddler charges), with no scheduled break and often only enough time to shovel food into my mouth while standing. I also have a 45 minute commute. Were I to nap on the job, I would be fired immediately.

Long, active days are no excuse to sleep on the job.

I would honestly be worried about my nanny's health and ability to preform their job if they constantly required a nap in the middle of their day. This is beyond unprofessional and flat out weird.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I work 12-13 hour days as a nurse, on my feet constantly being incredibly physical (way more active than I ever was with twin toddler charges), with no scheduled break and often only enough time to shovel food into my mouth while standing. I also have a 45 minute commute. Were I to nap on the job, I would be fired immediately.

Long, active days are no excuse to sleep on the job.

I would honestly be worried about my nanny's health and ability to preform their job if they constantly required a nap in the middle of their day. This is beyond unprofessional and flat out weird.

Your schedule sucks. Yes, you are a martyr but everyone does not need to be one. I had a nanny who napped when the baby napped. My DH and I also napped when we took care of the baby the weekends. My mom who occasionally watched my baby also napped when the baby napped. I would want the care giver to be well rested and alert when baby was awake. I do not understand why the nap would be an issue if it was not compromising safety and care.

[Anonymous]

As a nanny I've had some jobs where I can nap and some where I cant. However most of my charges took 3 hr naps each day so with most of my jobs I've been able to rest. I wouldn't call it nap became I never actually fell asleep

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How long is her workday OP?

If 9-10 hours or so, then I think as long as your daughter is asleep, a little rest is good for her nanny. Reason being is that I would rather my child be in the company of a well-rested caregiver vs. a worn out one. Just my opinion.

Is she close enough to your child that she will hear when your child wakes up? Or at least have a baby monitor next to her??

The weird thing here is that she is requesting you not to go into the kitchen because she may wake up. That is kinda pushing the boundary in my opinion. But then again...Working for a parent who is in the home is pretty challenging.

Your posting is a good illustration for this.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:How long is her workday OP?

If 9-10 hours or so, then I think as long as your daughter is asleep, a little rest is good for her nanny. Reason being is that I would rather my child be in the company of a well-rested caregiver vs. a worn out one. Just my opinion.

Is she close enough to your child that she will hear when your child wakes up? Or at least have a baby monitor next to her??

The weird thing here is that she is requesting you not to go into the kitchen because she may wake up. That is kinda pushing the boundary in my opinion. But then again...Working for a parent who is in the home is pretty challenging.

Your posting is a good illustration for this.

If the adult you hired to care for your child can't function for 9-10 hours awake without needing a nap, and isn't 70+ years old, then I think there are other issues and it would be best to replace them.

[Anonymous]

If the child is napping and there's no other tasks to be completed.. Why does it matter ? I can guarantee that the laundry is getting done.. If she really is sleeping when work needs to be done.. Fire her.

[Anonymous]

Domestic employees are guaranteed a 20 minute break for every five hours that they work. Because of the nature of nanny jobs, that is not always possible with older children but certainly is possible with children who still nap. What a nanny does with that 20 or 40 minutes (most nannies work 10 hours) is her business as long as she is still available for the child.

I like the idea of the nanny taking her 20-40 minutes on the floor of the child's room. Excellent for the back and 100% available for the child even if the nanny falls asleep.

But to OP - what your nanny is doing is ridiculous and you are a fool for allowing it. There is no reason why you should literally "be in the dark" in your own home!

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I work 12-13 hour days as a nurse, on my feet constantly being incredibly physical (way more active than I ever was with twin toddler charges), with no scheduled break and often only enough time to shovel food into my mouth while standing. I also have a 45 minute commute. Were I to nap on the job, I would be fired immediately.

Long, active days are no excuse to sleep on the job.

I would honestly be worried about my nanny's health and ability to preform their job if they constantly required a nap in the middle of their day. This is beyond unprofessional and flat out weird.

Good for you! Yet somehow you have time to post online even though you are such a great worker. Also bet a hard working bitch like you has a nanny spending more time with those twins you mentioned than you spend with them. Keep up the good work!



Bet you'll come in lying and say you work 4-4 and see them when you get home or some crap like that. Yeah right. Like I said keep up the good work being an absentee parent. I love it!

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:How long is her workday OP?

If 9-10 hours or so, then I think as long as your daughter is asleep, a little rest is good for her nanny. Reason being is that I would rather my child be in the company of a well-rested caregiver vs. a worn out one. Just my opinion.

Is she close enough to your child that she will hear when your child wakes up? Or at least have a baby monitor next to her??

The weird thing here is that she is requesting you not to go into the kitchen because she may wake up. That is kinda pushing the boundary in my opinion. But then again...Working for a parent who is in the home is pretty challenging.

Your posting is a good illustration for this.

If the adult you hired to care for your child can't function for 9-10 hours awake without needing a nap, and isn't 70+ years old, then I think there are other issues and it would be best to replace them.

You are doing the most right now and it's hilarious. Who in the world said that the nanny can't function unless she has a nap? Napping is just like reading a book, checking emails, doing school work, or paying some bills. Just one of the things that can be done when a person gets a few minutes of downtime and a chance to have a break after everything has been done. What they do with the 15 min-hour is their business. Doesn't mean they can't function. Good lord

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:How long is her workday OP?

If 9-10 hours or so, then I think as long as your daughter is asleep, a little rest is good for her nanny. Reason being is that I would rather my child be in the company of a well-rested caregiver vs. a worn out one. Just my opinion.

Is she close enough to your child that she will hear when your child wakes up? Or at least have a baby monitor next to her??

The weird thing here is that she is requesting you not to go into the kitchen because she may wake up. That is kinda pushing the boundary in my opinion. But then again...Working for a parent who is in the home is pretty challenging.

Your posting is a good illustration for this.

Her workday is 8 hours, sometimes 7 depending on DH's schedule. Never longer, even on days I'm in the office, never overtime.

She's young, so I do wonder if she's out too late at night. Certainly I didn't need a nap in the middle of the day at her age. Obviously it's not my business what she does at night, but it makes me wonder.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:How long is her workday OP?

If 9-10 hours or so, then I think as long as your daughter is asleep, a little rest is good for her nanny. Reason being is that I would rather my child be in the company of a well-rested caregiver vs. a worn out one. Just my opinion.

Is she close enough to your child that she will hear when your child wakes up? Or at least have a baby monitor next to her??

The weird thing here is that she is requesting you not to go into the kitchen because she may wake up. That is kinda pushing the boundary in my opinion. But then again...Working for a parent who is in the home is pretty challenging.

Your posting is a good illustration for this.

Her workday is 8 hours, sometimes 7 depending on DH's schedule. Never longer, even on days I'm in the office, never overtime.

She's young, so I do wonder if she's out too late at night. Certainly I didn't need a nap in the middle of the day at her age. Obviously it's not my business what she does at night, but it makes me wonder.

You're such a troll it's laughable. No grown woman would have this nonsense going on in their home and no young nanny would be so ridiculous. At this point people are just going back and forth with you do to lack of common sense or boredom.

She turns off all the lights and I can't see in the kitchen indeed.

[Anonymous]

Science shows that ALL employees in ALL fields benefit from naps during the day. Of course it isn't possible for everyone, but for those whose work doesn't suffer (like when you head into the office and discover you have one, 10-minute project to complete all day...) everyone should be allowed to put their heads down and take a rest. Evidence shows it increases productivity and people wake up more refreshed - in childcare that means more energetic and more patient! I never napped as a nanny but my MBs always told me to, even if they were home. (I'd actually have been more comfortable sleeping with another adult home *just in case*, but I can't even nap at my own house so I definitely wasn't sleeping anywhere else.)