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Anonymous
My DS drools A LOT and has done so for months. I always keep a bib on him and continuously wipe off his mouth, neck, and chin area to keep him dry. He developed a rash and I figured it was just because he drooled a lot, however one day when I came home from work he did not have on a bib and his chest area was literally SOAKED with drool. I asked the nanny why he didn't have on a bib and she said she couldn't find one. I opened his drawer and it was full of bibs. She said she didn't check that drawer. I told her that if she couldn't find a bib she should have used a napkin to try to keep him dry or at least change his clothes once she saw that he got that wet.

I make sure to put a bib on him every morning before I leave for work, but she takes it off when he takes naps and never puts one back on, so I have come home repeatedly to the same issue with a different excuse each time. It happened again today and she says she forgot to put one on after he took his nap. I don't understand how she continues to "forget" and allows him to sit in a soaking wet onesie. On the weekends when I'm with him, his rash begins to clear up, but by the middle of the week, it starts to reappear again because of this.

So what would you do? Would you fire her?
Anonymous
If she does not like bibs ask her to change the outfit. You are overthinking this.
Anonymous
Calm down. Is this really your biggest problem? You shouldn't fire her, she should quit.
Anonymous
I do .
Anonymous
I do .
Anonymous
My 2nd is only 4.5 months and I've just returned from maternity leave. I would definitely be upset if my son developed a rash. Even when we (parents) or nanny changes his bibs, he's a veritable faucet. Today his onesie was soaked b/c the last bib she had put on him was a thin one. I know she changes them regularly though b/c I see the pile of used ones for the day and he's never had a rash. I just made sure to change him out of the wet onesie and a dry one on him before slipping him into his sleep sack. Is there a pile of bibs when you get home for the day? If not, I would consider getting rid of her.
Anonymous
Seriously? Fire her? You should be glad you have a nanny who remembers to remove his bib before putting him down for a nap. Why don't you just say "Nanny, DC5 has been drooling so much and I noticed he's developing a rash because of it. Will you take extra care to keep a bib on him during the day, and if his clothes get wet, please change him." I've watched kids who drooled excessively, and I could put the child in a dry bib/onsie and 15 mins later they'd be soaked again. Leave a few extra bibs out with his diapers so she'll see it when she changes baby after his nap.
Anonymous
Anonymous wrote:My 2nd is only 4.5 months and I've just returned from maternity leave. I would definitely be upset if my son developed a rash. Even when we (parents) or nanny changes his bibs, he's a veritable faucet. Today his onesie was soaked b/c the last bib she had put on him was a thin one. I know she changes them regularly though b/c I see the pile of used ones for the day and he's never had a rash. I just made sure to change him out of the wet onesie and a dry one on him before slipping him into his sleep sack. Is there a pile of bibs when you get home for the day? If not, I would consider getting rid of her.


No, she literally takes off the one that I put on him in the morning and never replaces it and says she forgets. The bibs I bought are pretty good. On the weekends I rarely have to use more than 3/day and he never soaks through to his clothes.
Anonymous
How old is he? Maybe the bib disrupts his moblility? That's why I usually don't like bibs (or dresses) on older babies. I generally don't like bibs though, so I never put them on.
Anonymous
Anonymous wrote:Seriously? Fire her? You should be glad you have a nanny who remembers to remove his bib before putting him down for a nap. Why don't you just say "Nanny, DC5 has been drooling so much and I noticed he's developing a rash because of it. Will you take extra care to keep a bib on him during the day, and if his clothes get wet, please change him." I've watched kids who drooled excessively, and I could put the child in a dry bib/onsie and 15 mins later they'd be soaked again. Leave a few extra bibs out with his diapers so she'll see it when she changes baby after his nap.


Why should I be "glad"? I'm paying her to do a job. I have told her what you suggested on several occasions, but she continues to "forget". He doesnt soak through his bibs in 15 minutes. And if he had on a soaked bib, I wouldn't be as annoyed as the fact that he has no bib on and is soaking his clothes, sitting with a wet neck and chest for hours, and thus developing a rash. Im surprised that so many of you think that this is okay.
Anonymous
Anonymous wrote:How old is he? Maybe the bib disrupts his moblility? That's why I usually don't like bibs (or dresses) on older babies. I generally don't like bibs though, so I never put them on.


He is 5 months. If you don't use a bib, what do you do for babies that drool excessively? Is there something else that I should be suggesting to her?
Anonymous
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:How old is he? Maybe the bib disrupts his moblility? That's why I usually don't like bibs (or dresses) on older babies. I generally don't like bibs though, so I never put them on.


He is 5 months. If you don't use a bib, what do you do for babies that drool excessively? Is there something else that I should be suggesting to her?


I usually wipe them dry and change their clothes. I don't like the bib around their neck and want them to be able to freely move around and start crawling. I feel like bibs deprive them of moblility.
Maybe ask her to keep him dry in whichever way she prefers. Just keep burb cloth available and onsies to change.
Anonymous
As a childcare professional the #1 rule is to respect the parents' wishes. If you feel that they are going over board with the requests it's ok to give an opinion, but definitely not ok to take matters into your own hands. You have to be able to build trust, and something as simple as that can cause you to lose it!
Anonymous
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:How old is he? Maybe the bib disrupts his moblility? That's why I usually don't like bibs (or dresses) on older babies. I generally don't like bibs though, so I never put them on.


He is 5 months. If you don't use a bib, what do you do for babies that drool excessively? Is there something else that I should be suggesting to her?


I usually wipe them dry and change their clothes. I don't like the bib around their neck and want them to be able to freely move around and start crawling. I feel like bibs deprive them of moblility.
Maybe ask her to keep him dry in whichever way she prefers. Just keep burb cloth available and onsies to change.


Yes, I would be completely open to this. He has ample cloths and burp clothes all in his dresser, which I've shown her. I don't care how she does it, I just want him dry so that he does not continue to develop a rash. But she just lets him soak.

I'll raise the issue with her once again and walk through the options that have been suggested. I'm just not sure how much longer I should be patient about this.
Anonymous
I would be upset too, OP. This doesn't seem that different than letting the baby sit around in a wet diaper and get diaper rash. It sounds like you've already brought the issue to her attention. Also sounds like the soaked onesies are clearly visible, so she either doesn't notice or doesn't care about his comfort.

You have no way to know from this post, but I'm actually pretty laid back. The more I think about this though, the more upset I think I'd be. There's no reason for your baby to have to sit around in wet clothes, regardless of where the moisture comes from. I feel like a truly loving person would not need repeated direction on this. I'd give one more warning, then let her go.
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