Family not recognizing "nanniversary"

[Anonymous]

Is it odd that I am pretty hurt that my NF had never recognized my nanniversary? I've been with them for three years now and I've never once been praised for the time that I've spent raising their children.

[Anonymous]

They may just not remember, not everyone will. I wouldn't take it personally if they don't know the exact date...I don't know the date I started.

Now, being in a position for three years with no words of appreciation would upset me. Every job needs a bit of encouraging words, not just nannying.

[Anonymous]

Yes its odd. I would never in a. Million years think of that. At my job, nobody is giving me a card with flowers each year on my start date. Let it go.

[Anonymous]

They've literally never said thank you? Never said you've done a great job with something? That they like and appreciate you? How DCs like you? Or they've just never done it with gifts?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:They've literally never said thank you? Never said you've done a great job with something? That they like and appreciate you? How DCs like you? Or they've just never done it with gifts?

I suspect it is the lack of gifts OP is concerned with considering that she used a word as juvenile as "nanniversary" in her subject title. Get over it OP, unless you have done something truly spectacular (aside from just showing up and actually doing your job) special recognition is not standard nor should it be expected. Consider your continued employment gift enough.

[Anonymous]

I don't think it's standard to recognize the nanniversary. I've never had anyone recognize it and I've never given it a second thought. If they truly never say thank you or good job or anything like that, then that's a different problem. I've worked for families like that and it doesn't usually end well.

[Anonymous]

.... seriously? I would be irritated with employers who never said thank you or ever gave praise for above and beyond work but who cares when you started working for them. It's a job- not a relationship.

[Anonymous]

I barely remember my birthday let alone my wedding anniversary. Who cares about the work anniversary. Never heard of anyone celebrating that.

[Anonymous]

I'd only be upset if in my contract I was promised a raise on my yearly anniversary and they never gave it to me. As for gifts and acknowledgment I could care less. And if they have honestly never praised throughout the year than that would be rude.

[Anonymous]

Yeah, I'm sad I'm not recognized on my workaversary.

I got over it. You will, too.

[Anonymous]

You should have left after first year.

[Anonymous]

Nanniversary? Good lord. It is not standard to recognize this. Now, if you have been with the family for three years and have not had a performance review or a raise in all that time, you have a legitimate grievance. You should ask for a meeting with the parents to discuss your performance and compensation. But no genuine grownup expects cards or gifts or other recognition of a work anniversary. If you are getting bonuses and thank-you notes at holiday time, you are already been shown your family's appreciation.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I'd only be upset if in my contract I was promised a raise on my yearly anniversary and they never gave it to me. As for gifts and acknowledgment I could care less. And if they have honestly never praised throughout the year than that would be rude.

This is my current situation. It is stated in the contract etc. I really wish I could figure out how to handle it. I am not a money hungry or paid top scale for experience,education but it's insane that I haven't received anything. Sigh...

[Anonymous]

Is this a serious post?


Be happy you have a job and one for 3 years!


If you're treated well and compensated enough to meet your needs you have a good thing going don't ruin it by getting miffed by something trivial.

[Anonymous]

The family you're working for is ungrateful but let it go.
You will find grateful families later. They're not all like your current one.