MB asked to follow them to an event! Not feeling comfortable with that, WWYD

[Anonymous]

My MB first asked me to babysit on a saturday evening, then she told me she would like to take her son, but DB thought it would be better to let him stay home since they will be out late, now she comes up with the "brilliant idea" to have me come along (because she would not have time to talk with her friends and socialize if the kid is there), and asked me to follow them to a social event to take care of my charge, it is a fancy event and I do not know anybody there, I said yes, but now that I am thinking about it, they are the type of person to forget their kid and the nanny in a social setting (they have done it when they had guests at home). I am have the feeling I will be uncomfortable, especially following the little 2 year old around for 5 hours, and he will probably start being fussy and tired at some point. So, would it be rude of me to just ask them to stay home with my charge instead of following them, and if it is ok, how do I word it? The event is tomorrow evening, would it be too late to talk to them about it in the morning?

[Anonymous]

You're not meant to socialize with people at the event so knowing anybody there is irrelevant. You're meant to commandeer a corner for you and the toddler and keep him/her entertained with stories, coloring, toys, etc. Let the parents show the kid off, let the kid eat, and then let the kid fall asleep with their head in your lap and a napkin over them as a blanket.

[Anonymous]

Since it is to run late, I would ask if you could bring him and have them "show him off" at the beginning, maybe feed him a little bit of food if there is anything he will eat (fancy events don't often have sit down dinners, but appetizer buffet type things with food toddlers don't often like), and then bring him home so that you can make sure he does eat enough healthy food, have time to play a bit, then get ready for the night and have him go to sleep in his own bed.

[Anonymous]

She is a jerk. Cancel as you will be treated like the help and other people will expect you to help with cleaning or taking care of any other kids if there are any. Just suddenly get violently ill.

[Anonymous]

[code]You're not meant to socialize with people at the event so knowing anybody there is irrelevant. You're meant to commandeer a corner for you and the toddler and keep him/her entertained with stories, coloring, toys, etc. Let the parents show the kid off, let the kid eat, and then let the kid fall asleep with their head in your lap and a napkin over them as a blanket.

This, except bring a blanket.

It's rude to try and cancel this late after you agreed to it. You'll be fine.

[Anonymous]

Not too late to cancel. This is a very annoying request. I would hate it. I like the compromise of you going for a short time. If that is not possible, simply decline politely. It is not burdensome since no special plans have been made and you are just going back their original plan.

[Anonymous]

Are kids even welcome at this event?
Love the suggestion to bring him home early. It's in his best interest.

[Anonymous]

Op. here. Thanks for the suggestions. To the first poster, i am not there to Know anyone whatsoever, but I know I will feel out of place and my comfort zone with snobby people around me. I Will suggest to bring Home early, which means i have to follow them With my car ( so i Would have to make them Pay for my mileage), and she said it is family friendly, but i don't think the 2 year old is interested in a polo game. Thanks to all

[Anonymous]

leave early with kid

[Anonymous]

Also suggest leaving early. Once DC has reached his end point (tired, crying, wrecking havoc) politely notify mom that her little one has had a very big night and will be going home to rest up.