Need Advice

[Anonymous]

Hi I need advice. I plan to give my NF one month notice and I am super nervous. Can anyone give me advice what to say. I want to keep it short and simple because I need the letter of recommendation and a positive reference. The real reason I am quitting is because I am underpayed and do not get paid OT which I average about 12 hours of OT a week. I know I shouldn't have taken the job in the first place since it pays close to minimum wage in the state I am located and I dont even get paid ot but you learn from the mistakes and its time I move on foward. I dont have a job lined up yet but I dont think it should be a problem finding another nanny job since there is a dozen nanny agencies in my area.

[Anonymous]

Mb here.

No specific advice on what to say but two thoughts:

1) you need a specific reason you are leaving. Ideally something vague enough they can't argue with it, nonoffensive, and nothing with enough of a lie that you can get caught out. If the child is going to preschool, for example, you'd prefer to work with an infant

2) is there any way to line up a new job before you quit? It protects you. Plus, any new employer worth working for should respect the fact you are giving your old family notice. Do /not/ give a different reason to the new family as to why you are changing jobs. There's nothing to be gained and everything to lose by complaining (even validly) about your old employer.

[Anonymous]

Thank You. Greatly appreciated.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Mb here.

No specific advice on what to say but two thoughts:

1) you need a specific reason you are leaving. Ideally something vague enough they can't argue with it, nonoffensive, and nothing with enough of a lie that you can get caught out. If the child is going to preschool, for example, you'd prefer to work with an infant

2) is there any way to line up a new job before you quit? It protects you. Plus, any new employer worth working for should respect the fact you are giving your old family notice. Do /not/ give a different reason to the new family as to why you are changing jobs. There's nothing to be gained and everything to lose by complaining (even validly) about your old employer.

Excellent advice. Please do try to line up another job - it makes leaving so much easier when you have a time frame and a reason (the new job is closer to your home, it is working with a newborn, etc.)

3) Take the time now to get your pertussis booster and get your infant CPR and first aid certificates from the Red Cross. Get your personal references in line and your resume updated.

[Anonymous]

You are saying "new family" OP. How long exactly have you worked for them so far?

Anyway, a month notice is reasonable and in fact quite considerate, that is more than enough time for them to find and train a new nanny.

Hopefully things can transition smoothly + both sides can move on amicably and graciously.

To do this, just keep your reasoning broad, do not tell them what you just told us...Make up something different, yet believable. Perhaps say you have to move, etc.

Hopefully you have some money saved up because the majority of times, in these situations usually when the families receive notice, they tend to let the nanny go prior to her notice time which may be okay for you since you are not happy where you are at. Just be financially prepared in case you do have to wait a few weeks or months for another position.

Good Luck!