Going rate for giving money at a wedding?

[Anonymous]

We have three weddings this year- West coast, East coast and Midwest wedding. What is an appropriate amount to give from a couple? We are an older couple, foreigners to US, our son eloped and grandson has a way to go so we have not attended any weddings in the US. Thank you in advance for your help.

[Anonymous]

Scam.

[Anonymous]

On the coasts I give at least $200 as a minimum, in the Midwest I give $100.

But that's for friends and random cousins. If my son (currently 22) eloped I would probably put $2-3000 towards a reception for him and his new bride.

[Anonymous]

I give $100-$150, more for close family.

[Anonymous]

$500.

[Anonymous]

For me: nothing.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:On the coasts I give at least $200 as a minimum, in the Midwest I give $100.

But that's for friends and random cousins. If my son (currently 22) eloped I would probably put $2-3000 towards a reception for him and his new bride.

This is what I go by too.

[Anonymous]

You give what you can afford.

[Anonymous]

I give $200 per person attending the wedding. So if my husband and I attend we give $400. If our child attends also, $600.

[Anonymous]

Can I have the information of every poster saying above $200? I'll be sure to invite you to my wedding!

[Anonymous]

I don't do cash, I give a practical gift. Cash has no thought behind it, and I would be much more appreciative of something I could use that I wouldn't purchase for myself.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:We have three weddings this year- West coast, East coast and Midwest wedding. What is an appropriate amount to give from a couple? We are an older couple, foreigners to US, our son eloped and grandson has a way to go so we have not attended any weddings in the US. Thank you in advance for your help.

No less that 250. East coast area here

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I don't do cash, I give a practical gift. Cash has no thought behind it, and I would be much more appreciative of something I could use that I wouldn't purchase for myself.

Where I am from there are zero gifts given. Only cash. There's never a gift table. Gifts are for the wedding shower. I have no idea why but that's how it's always been done here for as long as I can remember.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I don't do cash, I give a practical gift. Cash has no thought behind it, and I would be much more appreciative of something I could use that I wouldn't purchase for myself.

Where I am from there are zero gifts given. Only cash. There's never a gift table. Gifts are for the wedding shower. I have no idea why but that's how it's always been done here for as long as I can remember.

Then they can do without. All of my friends and family know my opinion of cash as gifts, and I have yet to have someone refuse a gift. I always check to see what they have first, I know the type of people they are (no corkscrew for someone who doesn't drink wine...), and it's always a small assortment of things they will actually use.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I don't do cash, I give a practical gift. Cash has no thought behind it, and I would be much more appreciative of something I could use that I wouldn't purchase for myself.

I think almost every young couple I know would prefer cash (including DH and myself when we were married this year)- that being said, we typically give $100 unless we've had to travel to get there or if we were in the wedding; then it's a little less than that because we've had to pay extra costs toward the wedding.