My charges (9 and 11) are about to start puberty and NEED deodorant, bought it up to MB and she...

[Anonymous]

..essentially dismissed me.


I get that she doesn't want her babies growing up, but both girls are starting to smell bad. Not like child sweat, but woman sweaty stink, and need deodorant, or if they are anti-deodorant, find a way to talk about hygiene.

It's getting to the point where I have to roll my windows down when they get in the car. I know it's not my place to have that talk with them, but I wish MB would acknowledge that they are growing up.

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Mind your own business and keep on opening the windows lol

[Anonymous]

This is exactly how it looks when both parents are too self-absorbed to know their own children. So very sad.

[Anonymous]

Why do children this age need a nanny. No, your should tell her because stinking will ensure these girls will be talked about and not make friends. Your MB needs to wake up and be a mother.

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I would not break the rules but I would get the girls on my side. Talk to them about hygiene and not wanting to smell stinky. Let them pester mom.

[Anonymous]

When you bring something like this up to parents you need to spin it so that you explain how it benefits the children, not you. (i.e. your kids smell and it bothers me and stinks up my car is not a good argument.)

[Anonymous]

I have the same issue.

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Anonymous wrote:When you bring something like this up to parents you need to spin it so that you explain how it benefits the children, not you. (i.e. your kids smell and it bothers me and stinks up my car is not a good argument.)

I think that is a plenty good argument. If the nanny drives her own car she has a reasonable expectation that her property will be respected. You wouldn't expect nanny to just deal with it, if everyday she picked them up and they were covered in mud and getting the car dirty, would you? Or throwing food around in her back seat? They stink, and they'll make the car stink. Its also in their best interests to know that people think their kids stink and they will start to judge them because of it. Kids won't want to play with them, mean girls will talk behind their backs, etc.

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Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:When you bring something like this up to parents you need to spin it so that you explain how it benefits the children, not you. (i.e. your kids smell and it bothers me and stinks up my car is not a good argument.)

I think that is a plenty good argument. If the nanny drives her own car she has a reasonable expectation that her property will be respected. You wouldn't expect nanny to just deal with it, if everyday she picked them up and they were covered in mud and getting the car dirty, would you? Or throwing food around in her back seat? They stink, and they'll make the car stink. Its also in their best interests to know that people think their kids stink and they will start to judge them because of it. Kids won't want to play with them, mean girls will talk behind their backs, etc.

The issue is not whether it is a valid argument but whether it is an effective one. I agree with your point but I also know that MB cares much more about her girls then about the nanny's car smelling good. I would be thinking it but not say it. You with catch more flies with honey.

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Anonymous wrote:I would not break the rules but I would get the girls on my side. Talk to them about hygiene and not wanting to smell stinky. Let them pester mom.

What "rules" are you talking about?

[Anonymous]

Keep rolling the windows down. Peer pressure will take care of the problem soon enough.

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Anonymous wrote:Why do children this age need a nanny. No, your should tell her because stinking will ensure these girls will be talked about and not make friends. Your MB needs to wake up and be a mother.

Because they need to be taken to different activities, and are still young enough where they can't take care of themselves all day. They aren't mature enough mentally to use their time wisely.