Healthy Boundaries for Nannies

[Anonymous]

When do you become more of an Alice,
and less of a Mary Poppins?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:When do you become more of an Alice,
and less of a Mary Poppins?

For those of us that aren't 65 years old what do you mean?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:When do you become more of an Alice,
and less of a Mary Poppins?

For those of us that aren't 65 years old what do you mean?

Alice was a housekeeper on Brady Bunch tv show, and Mary Poppins was the world's favorite nanny.

[Anonymous]

so you're asking us when we become housekeepers?

that's not what I want to do with my life, so probably never. instead, I'll continue to work as a nanny because it's what I love

[Anonymous]

I don't. I leave when my charges start school. I have no interest in ever cleaning anyone's house or making the family dinners. No nanny job lasts forever - the love and concern for the children stays with me but the job must end.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:When do you become more of an Alice,
and less of a Mary Poppins?

For those of us that aren't 65 years old what do you mean?

Do you honestly not know who Mary Poppins is?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:When do you become more of an Alice,
and less of a Mary Poppins?

For those of us that aren't 65 years old what do you mean?

Do you honestly not know who Mary Poppins is?

She probably meant to ask only about Alice.

[Anonymous]

how is this a boundary question? the op sounds high

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:When do you become more of an Alice,
and less of a Mary Poppins?

For those of us that aren't 65 years old what do you mean?

Do you honestly not know who Mary Poppins is?

She probably meant to ask only about Alice.

Has anyone grown up in American without seeing reruns of "The Brady Bunch"? What about knowing who Mr. French or Mrs. Trumbull were?

[Anonymous]

I think the PPs know who they are but lack the cognitive thinking skills to assess how they're different from each other. Mary was cool and aloof, kept a certain distance from the family and was emotionally uninvolved. When it was time to go she just up and left.

Alice was like an aunt. She dispensed advice and knew what the kids were up to before they did. She was emotionally available and lived a life outside the kids as well.

Op is asking when you blur the boundaries and become less distant and more in sync with the family. My response is never. Good fences make good neighbors.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:When do you become more of an Alice,
and less of a Mary Poppins?

Proper wages are a basic requirement for Mary Poppins nannies.

She wasn't afraid to speak up for what was right.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:When do you become more of an Alice,
and less of a Mary Poppins?

Proper wages are a basic requirement for Mary Poppins nannies.

She wasn't afraid to speak up for what was right.

Love this.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:When do you become more of an Alice,
and less of a Mary Poppins?

For those of us that aren't 65 years old what do you mean?

Do you honestly not know who Mary Poppins is?

She probably meant to ask only about Alice.

Has anyone grown up in American without seeing reruns of "The Brady Bunch"? What about knowing who Mr. French or Mrs. Trumbull were?

Some of us don't live vicariously through TV.

[Anonymous]

I am fine with both styles, and it depends on the family as to what they want. As long as it's clear what the expectations are, it works for me.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I am fine with both styles, and it depends on the family as to what they want. As long as it's clear what the expectations are, it works for me.

And they need to pay accordingly, of course.