Background Check on a Nanny Question...Just Wondering If....

[Anonymous]

I am a Nanny who got into an argument w/an ex-boyfriend about 6 mos. ago. I was drunk and posted a video on his Facebook wall. It was the YouTube video of Carrie Underwood's song, "Before He Cheats..." and I wrote as a comment underneath it that since my boyfriend cheated on me that night,

"I took a Louisville slugger to both headlights,
slashed a hole in all 4 tires...
Maybe next time he'll think before he cheats..."


I admit I was quite angry when I posted it and was hurt that he cheated on me, yet I was just lashing out, I never would do any of those things literally.

Well long story short, he showed it to a judge in a Family Court as evidence that I was crazy and was granted a 3 yr. restraining/protective order against me.


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My problem:

During interviews, I am asked quite often if I have any criminal record. I.e., arrests, misdemeanor and/or felony convictions, etc. I honestly respond NO.

But is having a restraining order against you a criminal record per say?

Also, when they run the standard background check on me, will it turn up since it is current?

My friend who also works as a Nanny and a daycare worker was arrested 10 yrs. ago for domestic violence twice within a 3 mos. period, but never faced charges and when she gets fingerprinted and background checked for jobs, her checks always come back clean.

What do you think about me?

Thank you in advance for any advice/input you can give me.

[Anonymous]

You do not have a criminal record. You were never convicted of any crime. I don't know about the restraining order, however. Run a background check on yourself and see if it comes up.

[Anonymous]

There are various levels of background check. It may not come up on a criminal records search, but it could show up if a parent does an extended screen that involves a courthouse records check.

[Anonymous]

Restraining orders don't come up on criminal background checks. They can show up on more extensive checks though.

If you ever break the order and get arrested/convicted then that will show up, so be careful with that.

[Anonymous]

It will definitely come up in a courthouse records check.

[Anonymous]

Yes, it will come up on a background check.

Your best bet is to let any potential family know off the bat (no pun intended by the way) and explain your side of things. Tell them it was a bad judgment call on your end and that you haven't violated the order and there is no record of you attempting to do so.

As a parent, I wouldn't let something like that affect hiring you as long as you were upfront w/me from the get go.

If you didn't come clean from the start, and I found out through the background check, then you explained things, at that point I would have trust issues with you.

[Anonymous]

Do a check yourself.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Yes, it will come up on a background check.

Your best bet is to let any potential family know off the bat (no pun intended by the way) and explain your side of things. Tell them it was a bad judgment call on your end and that you haven't violated the order and there is no record of you attempting to do so.

As a parent, I wouldn't let something like that affect hiring you as long as you were upfront w/me from the get go.

If you didn't come clean from the start, and I found out through the background check, then you explained things, at that point I would have trust issues with you.

Agree with this. I'm surprised a restraining order was granted because you posted song lyrics to his page, are you sure there isn't more to the story?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:
Yes, it will come up on a background check.

Your best bet is to let any potential family know off the bat (no pun intended by the way) and explain your side of things. Tell them it was a bad judgment call on your end and that you haven't violated the order and there is no record of you attempting to do so.

As a parent, I wouldn't let something like that affect hiring you as long as you were upfront w/me from the get go.

If you didn't come clean from the start, and I found out through the background check, then you explained things, at that point I would have trust issues with you.


Agree with this. I'm surprised a restraining order was granted because you posted song lyrics to his page, are you sure there isn't more to the story?

+1. Something sounds off about this story. Three years is a long time for a restraining order and posting lyrics to a song an extreme reason for a restraining order.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:
Yes, it will come up on a background check.

Your best bet is to let any potential family know off the bat (no pun intended by the way) and explain your side of things. Tell them it was a bad judgment call on your end and that you haven't violated the order and there is no record of you attempting to do so.

As a parent, I wouldn't let something like that affect hiring you as long as you were upfront w/me from the get go.

If you didn't come clean from the start, and I found out through the background check, then you explained things, at that point I would have trust issues with you.


Agree with this. I'm surprised a restraining order was granted because you posted song lyrics to his page, are you sure there isn't more to the story?

+1. Something sounds off about this story. Three years is a long time for a restraining order and posting lyrics to a song an extreme reason for a restraining order.

+2. I showed this post to my boyfriend who is a police officer and he said there is no way that this is the full story. A judge would never grant a restraining order because of song lyrics posted on FB. He said that there would have had to have been repeated harassment for a judge to grant a 3 year restraining order.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Yes, it will come up on a background check.

Your best bet is to let any potential family know off the bat (no pun intended by the way) and explain your side of things. Tell them it was a bad judgment call on your end and that you haven't violated the order and there is no record of you attempting to do so.

As a parent, I wouldn't let something like that affect hiring you as long as you were upfront w/me from the get go.

If you didn't come clean from the start, and I found out through the background check, then you explained things, at that point I would have trust issues with you.

It will come up if they check courthouse records, and you will have a lot of explaining to do. People do not usually get three-year restraining orders against them for posting song lyrics on a FB page.

[Anonymous]

There are ways to find out.. my ex was a Looney tune and me, along with two other former gfs got restraining orders on him and you can look it up online.. I also think there's more to the story.. a judge wouldn't give someone, esp a male, a restraining order over lyrics posted on fb.. that might have been the straw that broke the camels back but there is definitely more to the story.

[Anonymous]

I have to respectfully disagree here.

I think a judge would grant a permanent protective order against a person because the person requesting the order has shown tangible evidence that they have been threatened with apparent assault.

Sure, these may be just song lyrics, but look at what they lyrics are referring to.

They are referring to a woman who is going to destroy another person's physical property which is a crime.

Judges take this type of stuff seriously trust me.
They do not take chances.

This judge would get in a ton of hot water if he just blew this off as some silly pop song and then the woman actually destroyed this person's property like she quoted on his facebook pg.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I have to respectfully disagree here.

I think a judge would grant a permanent protective order against a person because the person requesting the order has shown tangible evidence that they have been threatened with apparent assault.

Sure, these may be just song lyrics, but look at what they lyrics are referring to.

They are referring to a woman who is going to destroy another person's physical property which is a crime.

Judges take this type of stuff seriously trust me.
They do not take chances.

This judge would get in a ton of hot water if he just blew this off as some silly pop song and then the woman actually destroyed this person's property like she quoted on his facebook pg.

I had a guy stalk me, threaten me ( I called the cops multiple times), and generally make my life hell. I didn't even get a 3 year restraining order against him even AFTER he chased me down the street threatening to kill me (although for that he was brought up on criminal charges).

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I have to respectfully disagree here.

I think a judge would grant a permanent protective order against a person because the person requesting the order has shown tangible evidence that they have been threatened with apparent assault.

Sure, these may be just song lyrics, but look at what they lyrics are referring to.

They are referring to a woman who is going to destroy another person's physical property which is a crime.

Judges take this type of stuff seriously trust me.
They do not take chances.

This judge would get in a ton of hot water if he just blew this off as some silly pop song and then the woman actually destroyed this person's property like she quoted on his facebook pg.

Yes...he would get some type of restraining order because of what the lyrics are saying but it wouldn't be THREE years. My guess is that OP repeatedly harassed him, threatened him, etc.

OP- it's going to come up and you are going to have a lot of explaining to do.