Parent's being selfish?
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Anonymous
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I am a nanny to an adorable 7 month old. I absolutely love my job and the family I work with. I feel extremely blessed and luck to mesh really well with them and of course, I have an incredible bond with baby B. Despite us being a great fit and seeing eye to eye on most, there is one topic we don't. That is baby classes and field trips. I'm allowed to take baby B to the park, for walks and play-dates. When I brought up the topic of classes I researched and possible field trips to the library, they said no. There reason was they don't want to pay for stuff when they are paying to to care for him.
I understand that and I do a lot with him but I think classes will help him. I wanted to take him to story time and a music class( he loves music) that would only be $55 for 16wks, they said no. I really want what is best and for him to have the best for his childhood. I am fine respecting their wishes, but I can't help but think they are being selfish and a little unreasonable. I offered to even pay and they still declined. By the way, they can afford it so I know expenses aren't he issue. I've been with them for 4 months and plan on being there for many more! |
Anonymous
| The baby is 7 months old. The baby does not need to go to classes. I agree with the parents. If the child was 2 I would hope they would let you take the child to the library. Your library doesn't offer free story time ? |
Anonymous
| MB here, I agree with PP. No need for classes at that age. When I took my baby to classes, it was more for me (get out of the house, socialize with other moms, etc). If you live in the DC area, there are plenty of free fun things you can do (i.e. library story hours, many of the museums have kids programming although normally for older ages). |
Anonymous
| Agree with other posters. Going to classes with a 7 month old provides no benefit to him. |
Anonymous
| Have to say I agree. Baby music classes are just an excuse for mothers or caregivers to get out of the house. There is nothing wrong but they offer zero benefit to the baby and certainly nothing you couldn't get out of playing Baah Baah and shaking a rattle - free and at home. |
Anonymous
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I'd feel like a prisoner if I wasn't "allowed" to do what was best for the child. (All my employers have mentioned how my "standards" of excellence are above and beyond theirs.)
They should get trained on how to be smart employers. Micromanagement is never wise in the long run. It might help them feel more like "engaged" parents, but it really doesn't work that way. Their behavior saddens me. They have an excellent nanny, but will eventually lose her, to more respectful and appreciative parents. Such a shame. |
Anonymous
| Agree with everyone else. At 7 months, the baby does not need classes. The classes are a nice chance for moms and caregivers to connect but this is for the adult's benefit not the child. You can do music activities at home. You must have no experience in child development if you don't understand this. Your employers are probably questioning their choice in you if you tried to spin this as something the 7 month old needs. |
Anonymous
So parents should just let the nanny do whatever she likes regardless of whether it is actually what's best for the child as long as the nanny says it is? That's really poor parenting. OP said she can take the child out of the house to a variety of activities but the parents just don't want her to go to classes. If you've read the thread everyone except you has agreed that a 7 month old gets no benefit from classes so either you are an inexperienced nanny who also doesn't know that classes are unnecessary or you are a bad nanny who just wants to bully parents into doing whatever you want to. My children are 3 1/2 and 2 and the nanny takes them to a variety of age appropriate activities that she comes up with and I'm happy to let her take them wherever she wants. However if she had suggested taking them to non-age appropriate activities I'd have the backbone to say no. |
Anonymous
| If the nanny, or fulltime parent, wants to do a class, she should if it's affordable. Getting out of the house on a regular basis is absolutely essential to maintain your sanity. Having a little adult conversation is normal and completely expected of any healthy adult. |
Anonymous
| All you really need to do, is to hire an intellegent and caring nanny. If you do that much, she will not allow her charge to be harmed or neglected. |
Anonymous
| OP here. I see everyone's point and will respect my employers decision. It's just that it isn't the norm for me. I've nannied for 5 families previously with similar ages, and all the parent's wanted me to take their children to classes. I do understand every parent is different. They have a 4 year old and MB explained their former nanny never took him to classes, even at age 2 and above. I feel at that age, he would need socialization and classes though. IDk kind of odd to me. |
Anonymous
| Maybe certain music classes are too loud and over-stimulating? Could be, but that's not what they told OP. |
Anonymous
She does take him out of the house for playdates etc so it's not that she can't go out and interact with other adults. Just not classes that are expensive and not helpful for him. |
Anonymous
You may like to be micromanaged. Good for you. It doesn't work so well for everyone else. |
Anonymous
It's up to the parents to decide what classes their child will take. It's not a committee decision. Classes for a 7-month old are a waste of time. |