What would you do

[Anonymous]

I was supposed to have an interview today but cancelled because I got a job offer now I'm regretting canceling the interview based on her response to me and all the nice things she had to say. Would you guys contact her and offer to do an interview with them? I haven't accepted the other job yet

[Anonymous]

Sure. Why not?

[Anonymous]

You seem flaky. I ... am not sure what to tell you. I want to tell the person who wants to interview you not to bother - that you seem impulsive and flaky.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I was supposed to have an interview today but cancelled because I got a job offer now I'm regretting canceling the interview based on her response to me and all the nice things she had to say. Would you guys contact her and offer to do an interview with them? I haven't accepted the other job yet

No one likes to be second choice. They most likely won't want to have you interview.
It's always better to go on interviews if you haven't accepted an offer. You might find a better fit. Even if you don't, it's good practice.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:You seem flaky. I ... am not sure what to tell you. I want to tell the person who wants to interview you not to bother - that you seem impulsive and flaky.

No advice, huh, Einstein?

[Anonymous]

I wouldn't hire you based on the fact you said no and then yes... No one likes indesiciveness.

[Anonymous]

Go for it, OP.

[Anonymous]

If you do, be 101% straightforward: I canceled our interview because I got a job offer that meets my needs, but after talking with you further I really feel like our personalities/outlook/child raising philosophies are a much better match and would very much like to interview with you and see if you feel the same.

It's the only way she MIGHT not be turned off by your flakiness.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:If you do, be 101% straightforward: I canceled our interview because I got a job offer that meets my needs, but after talking with you further I really feel like our personalities/outlook/child raising philosophies are a much better match and would very much like to interview with you and see if you feel the same.

It's the only way she MIGHT not be turned off by your flakiness.

Yes, I think this is good advice. I'm an MB and this kind of direct honesty would be probably the best bet for seeing if I'd be willing to try again. You have created the impression that you are a little unreliable/flaky though - I would worry that you were always looking for a better offer and could change your mind again at any time.

[Anonymous]

I'm not flaky just feel bad the mom is disappointed and bummed out. I was thinking maybe at least interviewing would be better than not

[Anonymous]

No. Stop wasting people's time.

[Anonymous]

Why haven't you accepted the other offer yet?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I'm not flaky just feel bad the mom is disappointed and bummed out. I was thinking maybe at least interviewing would be better than not

WHAT? No. If you are not interested in her job, don't waste her time. Jesus.

If you think her job will be better than the one you were going to take, by all means, let her know you'd still like to interview, but only if you're REASONABLY sure you want her position.

[Anonymous]

For the future don't cancel interviews until you've committed to a positions. I let potential employers know from the beginning that I'm interviewing with several families. If I get a job offer before I've completed all of the interviews I say "Thanks so much for the offer. I have interviews I've already committed to that I would rather not cancel. Can I be in touch on Sunday?" I've had families tell me they respect me for honoring my commitment.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:For the future don't cancel interviews until you've committed to a positions. I let potential employers know from the beginning that I'm interviewing with several families. If I get a job offer before I've completed all of the interviews I say "Thanks so much for the offer. I have interviews I've already committed to that I would rather not cancel. Can I be in touch on Sunday?" I've had families tell me they respect me for honoring my commitment.

nice.