Passive-Aggressive MB?
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I have been with my current family for two years. They have been a great family so far and I get along with their three children (ages 3-6). My daily duties require me to do the children's laundry, dishes, make their beds and clean up after them. I would leave a daily log for both my MB and DB to look at and if they have any questions, we talk about them before I leave for the night (I work from 7:30am - 8 pm M-F and make $17/hr on the books).
I also organize their main family room once every 2 weeks, although for the past month MB has been working from home on Fridays so she said she would take care of the family room to lighten my work load (which I totally appreciate). Yet, for the past month, she didn't do anything with the family room and it became a big mess. I asked her if she wanted me to help her out, but she said she would eventually get to it since she wanted to purge the room of some toys. She came home from work yesterday livid that I didn't organize the family room. I was very confused because I offered, but she said she didn't want me to do it. So this morning, I spent 4 hours organizing the room for her. On top of that, for the past week my MB hasn't been communicating with me at all. She comes home, says hello to her kids and brushes off anything I have to say. I understand that she is probably tired from her commute and stressed out from work, but I can't help think that she is angry with me and that I will be fired (she fired her last nanny because she wasn't putting the kid's toys away in the correct places). If there is something wrong with my performance, I want to know so I can fix it, but anytime I ask her, she just shrugs me off. I go home every night stressed out. Am I being too sensitive or is it time to look for something else? |
Anonymous
| You are definitely too sensitive, so it might be a good idea to find another job. |
Anonymous
| I would definitely send her a nice text or just ask in person if she is happy with how you've been performing your tasks lately. Maybe she was just having a bad day, but she shouldn't lash out at you over the living room after saying she would do it. |
Anonymous
| Lots of times parents take out their personal problems on a nanny. |
Anonymous
| I would get stuff in writing (email) so there's no confusion and you can refer back to it if you start wondering if you misunderstand what she said. If it comes down to it you can also say on X date you said X so that's what I was going by. Do you want me to do y instead? Just let me know. |
Anonymous
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No texts! she sounds very stressed and she could mis read a text (tone in particular. What you think sounds nice she could interpret as snotty).
Can you talk with DB? |
Anonymous
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She is rude and abusive. Cover yourself. Send her an email about her saying she would take care of family room, that you asked her se etal times and she still told you that she wanted to fo it. Therefore, you do not understand why she was upset when you did not clean room. She has no right to take any of her frustrations or problems out on you. Be assertive and start looking for a new job because chances are good she is planning on letting you go. Also, is she paying you OT? You work. 12.5 hrs per day and that is 4.5 hrs per dsy = 24.5 hrs per week. This is $624.75 per week if you live out. If you live in she still has to pay you straight time for 24.5 hrs per week, $416.50 extrs per week. This is federal law and state law. Do nof let her get away with this. Report her to wage and labor of your state and this office will help you get your money.
Stop letting people use you. |
Anonymous
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I would go with your gut on this OP.
Since she fired her previous Nanny for not putting the toys in their correct places, I have the feeling she you may be next on the chopping block due to the way she is acting. I totally agree w/you that she should talk to you if there is an issue so you can fix it vs. just shrugging it off and giving you the silent treatment. Perhaps she isn't the confrontational type. <---- Not giving her a free pass by the way. I wouldn't count on this job much longer. It's only a matter of time, I think before she lets you go.... 
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