Is this Okay?
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Anonymous
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My nanny's been working with us for 7 month ( Nanny share)
She finally decided to take her vocation. She's going overseas for a month and some days. The contract stated that she could have a two week paid Vocation. Howver she is providing a back-up Nanny for the extra time she is spending there. Is this okay? Should we consider that new nanny she's providing? |
Anonymous
| No. |
Anonymous
| Nope. Does she expect to get paid the whole time? |
Anonymous
| It is okay, at least she thought about a back-up nanny and didn't just leave like some ppl would do! |
Anonymous
Why not? |
Anonymous
She isn't getting paid for the extra time, the back-up Nanny would get paid |
Anonymous
To start with, do you already know the backup nanny? |
Anonymous
| Its not for anyone but you to decide if its ok, OP. if you are okay with it then why not. If you aren't okay with it, speak up. If she gave a good amount of notice, found a back up on her own that you approve of, and accepts that beyond 2 weeks is unpaid, I would be completely fine with it, provided that this is a rarity not a regular occurrence. From your OP I get the impression that she doesn't otherwise take much time off. |
Anonymous
| I would not be okay with it, and here's why: my daughter makes emotional connections with people. |
Anonymous
| This thread is funny. Nannies are simultaneously disposable and attachment isn't something MBs worry about when fire and hiring multiple nannies, as well as irreplaceable and impossible to find a suitable backup for. Which is it ladies? OP if you have met and like the back up, and you are only paying your nanny for her 2 weeks of vacation, what exactly is the problem? International flights are expensive, so most people stay for a few weeks, and only go every few years. |
Anonymous
| PP, depends on the nanny, to be honest. |
Anonymous
| I am an MB. This absolutely would not be OK for me personally. I would not feel comfortable leaving my kids with some replacement nanny I do not know. I personally would end my relationship with the nanny over this. |
Anonymous
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If this wasn't discussed by both parties previously and she just sprung her plan on you suddenly, then by all means NO, it is not okay at all.
For her to just assume that your family would just accommodate her like this just so she could enjoy a longer vacation is just presumptuous on her end. I would let her know in no uncertain terms that this was not agreed on by both sides and that you are not okay w/having a strange person watch your children...Someone you have never even met. Let her know if she takes a month off, then she is putting your family out and that you have no other choice but to proceed and find another Nanny to take her place. |
Anonymous
+1 Very well said |
Anonymous
| You all have no idea how much notice she has given, what plans she has to introduce the back up nanny or anything. You're just assuming the worst. |