Nanny family divorcing...
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Hi all! The family I currently work is fairly close to separating, if not divorcing. The parents have been pretty open with me about the fact that they are having issues, trying to resolve it, and needing some time apart temporarily, if not permanent. It hasn't been like, we don't care what we do in front of you, more so that they wanted me to know what is going on so if something came up, it wouldn't be such a shock to me.
The parents have been great a not fighting in front of the kids, and if any time they have had a heated moment, they've try to do their best not to have it in front of me, or they give me a clue so I can do my best to remove the kids or distract them. Honestly, it hasn't really affected my job at all. My parents divorced when I very young, so I'm glad I'm able to understand, sympathize or help out in what little ways I can. Basically I'm asking for any tips or advice you may have from those who worked with a family while the parents were divorcing, or after their divorce. I keep thinking to my own parents divorce and worry I'm trying to be too helpful and may subconsciously pick a side. I try to be a very neutral player and respect them in this time, as I feel they have given me nothing but respect as an employee. They've welcomed me so much in to their own. As I nanny, I feel I end up learning a lot about my employer's personal life, so I try to respect what information I know and give them as much privacy when it comes to the little information they are able to not have slip out. Anything you can suggest would be fantastic! Thanks! |
Anonymous
| Are you sure you're not a troll? |
Anonymous
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OP Here. Totes not a troll. Just didn't want to post it on Nanny Care Tribe since a) it's facebook and my name is attatched to it and b) I didn't want to break the confidentiality of the family I work for. Normally I'd just ask Kelly Gere, but it's not at the point yet that I'm willing to have my name be so publicly associated with it.
Also, the fact you called me a troll suggest that I must have worded myself amazingly! Thanks peep! |
Anonymous
| Also, here's a wipe for that egg on your face. |
Anonymous
| At least your bosses control it in front of you and the kids. Mine go at it in front of me and the kids - nice. It is really hard to handle and extremely rude on their part, not to mention what they are doing to their kids. |
Anonymous
| 22:31, I agree! When my parents divorced, they did very little fighting in front of my siblings and I. I only remember one fight, and that was because I was awake during the night and heard them. |
Anonymous
| Not sure what your problem is. |
Anonymous
| Having been with a divorcing fam and having testified in the divorce trial, my two cents is to get out while you're still on good terms. Seriously, get out now. It will go to hell in a fast car soon enough. |
Anonymous
| Get out, NOW! You will be drawn into this fight and will have to choose sides. No divorce, particularly with children, ends up amicable. You love these children but you must remember that this is just a job and you do not want to be drawn into this fight. Get out. |
Anonymous
Oh, you're so wrong. I'm working with divorced parents and they have been very amicable. Even so much that they have been to each others homes, and most recently the dad came to the mom's house when one child was sick, and during grandma's last visit (mom's mom) she did a day trip with the dad and the kids when mom was working. I often compliment the parents for having gone through a divorce they have done so many things right, keeping it about what is best for the kids, and not about the parents. While no divorce is easy, it can be done successfully, especially when kids are involved. It's not always about the fighting and pointing fingers, but a mutually agreed that we just don't work well together married, and can be better parents and adults if we're apart. |