DB is Weird?
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Anonymous
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So. I love my job. Kids are great, and MB and I have a great relationship. DB, however, is a different story.
On the days MB is working late and DB relieves me, I usually attempt(ed) to give him the rundown of the day with the kids and give him any pertinent info (so and so went in big girl potty, so and so is coughing, etc). The way he interacts with me is BIZARRE in my opinion. He hardly makes eye contact, looks startled when I speak to him sometimes, and grunts responses. Sometimes the grunted responses don't even pass as appropriate to what I'm staying, like he's not listening or something. Now, after working with them for awhile, I simply text MB everything about the day with the children and hardly talk to DB at all because it is so weird/ awkward. I'm wondering what you all think is up with that? |
Anonymous
| Never mind. Leave him alone. |
Anonymous
| I mean...that's what I'm doing now. The interactions I have with him leave me feeling like I did something to bother him when all I was doing was telling him only a couple things about the kids. |
Anonymous
| Well, I've heard the whole "DB should never be alone with nanny" type of arguments, so maybe he is simply uncomfortable dealing with you alone. Worried a look will be misinterpreted or he'll say the wrong thing etc. |
Anonymous
| Oh mannnnnn. I literally did not think of that. Maybe that's it. |
Anonymous
| Forget it, OP. Focus on your work with the children. |
Anonymous
| Done and done |
Anonymous
Im the pp who posted that. I am a 34DDD and I've had some.male bosses who wouldnt really look at me during conversation. I always attributed it to the fact they didn't want to be caught looking. |
Anonymous
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OP here. That's a legitimate reason PP.
I'm 34 A here, no reason to look lolololol jk OK I'm done. |
Anonymous
| Some men just really don't care about who crapped their pants and who made it to the toilet. They want to know if they are still alive and if they need to be fed and not much else. |
Anonymous
| Or, he could be somewhere on the spectrum for asberger's or something... Unless he acts weird only with you and not with others whom he isn't related/close to (in other words, don't compare how he interacts with you to how he interacts with his family members), I wouldn't worry about it. |
Anonymous
| Sounds typical of a certain type of man. He is tired at the end of the day, sees his role with respect to the kids as mostly that of breadwinner, and doesn't want to make small talk about their day-to-day activities. He is probably also eager to get you out of the house so he can read the mail or newspaper and chill in peace. It's not that weird, really. Learn to convey basic information despite his disengaged grunts and exit the home quickly. |
Anonymous
The nanny already "learned" to communicate directly with the mother. |
Anonymous
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Whatever the reason, he's not comfortable or not interested in getting your report for the day. I'd text or email a report to the MB or both of them, as you are doing. He/they sound like they are more comfortable receiving the information by this means.
It's a little odd, but it doesn't affect your ability to do your job and isn't THAT strange. So I wouldn't worry about it. |
Anonymous
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Honestly don't take it personally. My DB is the same way. Most days he doesn't even say hi to me or anything ( he is the one home every day) it's not because he is rude he just doesn't care. Mb has also said she thinks he's ADHD!
Other days he chats away about the most random things like reusable icecubes and how stupid they are! It really depends on the day. It really depends. I just tell him basics if I tell him anything. He aways asks how long they napped on days when MB is working late. Otherwise sometimes I tell him. Other times I just say good bye to the kids. He doesn't say thank or bye or anything. He just says kids go give nanny a hug! Then the kids sit on the doorstep and wave goodbye 
Just don't let it effect you |